Fair Return?

Hello my lovelies…

I am pre-coffee right now, so ‘scuse me if I get a little off-topic. Today’s topic is the one of returning a lover/loved one through spellwork. It’s one that will probably come up more than once, so I am not going to spend a helluva lot of time on it. 😉

A lot of the requests I get involve someone desperate to get their lover back. Generally, these requests follow some sort of time line in which the petitioner asks me for help about 2-4 weeks post break up, though I have had some come in as late as 5 years past the end of the relationship. I try to be as understanding as possible in these cases – the first guy I fell in love with took me 3 years to get over, but I also attempt to illustrate to the client that: a) I cannot guarantee the return of the lover, and b.) I DEFINITELY cannot guarantee the success of the relationship once the lover has returned. These folks seem intent on finding the person who can drag the object of their love back, brainwash said “object,” and keep them put. To be honest, doing just that isn’t an impossibility, but it have yet to hear of a case where accomplishing that task has been pleasant for the client or the object of their desire.

Before I go on, I would like to interject that I am not in anyway trying to instill some sort of ethical nonsense about what is right or wrong or black/white/grey in the feild of magic/k. Your ethics are yours, mine are mine, and they are all the product of human conditioning, ergo, not some sort silly “good” and “evil” gibberish, because I have yet to find proof that the Divine or the universe have any sort of defined “good” or “evil” as those are HUMAN concepts.

However, there are reactions and results that I have witnessed time and again in regards to my own spellwork and the spellwork of others. I can only speak from my experience and those I know of, and warn or instruct you on the likely outcome should you persue it. They are neither good or bad, just the reaction, such as if I prick my finger with a needle, I will bleed…as it is the most common and likely reaction – ie, the sun might not rise tomorrow (nothing is definite,) but I would still bet you money that it will.

Digressing back to the topic at hand, the returning of a lover through magic/kal means is not always pleasant for both target and practioner/petitioner, so the person who wishes to do so must ask themselves…”Is this what I really want?” A million immediate “yes”-es fill the auditorium… 😉 Why the sly smile on my face? Aha, but I know something about this, and from personal experience, too.

Firstly, there is the amount of energy that may be required in bringing the person back. If this is all over some trivial arguement, and the client/practioner is just “freaking out” because they had a fight with their loved one a week ago, and nothing has yet been resolved, then it is as easy as can be. In fact, reconciliation magic/k may not even be what is needed. Simply use some peace and healing spells, and KA-BLAM, the happy couple is reunited. However, if this break-up is the product of years of fighting and the once-happy couple has been parted, say, for 8 months… 😛 My goodness, the things I have to call up just to get that person back to you… So it can be done, but to what degree would I recommend it? Once the energy is used to “drive” the lost love back to you, the fun part is, that energy will only keep them with you for about one moon cycle – the rest is up to you in the mundane. Perhaps it was a stupid fight, and you two only need to be reunited breifly to smooth things out… But generally, things can go from bad to worse in a short matter of time, especially if the break up was not over anything “stupid” or “unfounded.”

The truth about love is that love itself can be a very coercive beast despite the fact that it is terribly blind. Love makes us stupid with the belief that it is the one thing that can make all of our suffering worthwhile, despite the fact that it is not returned, but rather twisted back on us so it is a bit like willingly feeding the beast that is gnawing you in half. Sometimes, suffering for love does pay off, but oftentimes, it really doesn’t. I’m a meatball in this case, too, so don’t feel bad. 😉 We love someone, and figure if we can just get them to stick around for a little while, we can make things the way they were when they were “good,” even though the last time they were “good” about 2 years previous to when we actually broke things off with the lost love…and here we are, say 4 months post-break up… 😛 So in desperation, many folks use reconciliation/return to me love spells to get the object of their desires to return, and then pummel the person with love spells, and so on…

The end result in several of these cases is this. The person does come back… But at what price? It isn’t that sweet, innocent love you had when you started. No, siree, it is not. Now the client/practioner is desperate to get the target to remain, so they launch love spells. Well, the target stays, but they still act like a complete horse’s butt to you. Love spell after love spell is launched in true attack form… This can go on for years, and I have seen people do just that. The client/practioner attatches themselves to a target who remains for no reason that the target can figure out, thus making the target more and more abusive and shifty, while the client/practioner falls deeper and deeper in love with the target… Eeek, a vicious cycle indeed. No, this doesn’t always happen, but if you force someone to stay with you using love spells, it sure as hell often does. At best, your target isn’t going to “change” in the way you need them to to make the love affair work.

My suggestion? Okay, go ahead and use that return to me spell. It’s okay. Maybe you can fix things. I don’t personally know you, but go ahead and give it a whirl. Now, when the target is back, go ahead and do one or two coercive love spells if you feel the need…but leave it at that. Be pleased that you got the closure you needed if it doesn’t work. Tying someone to you with love magic/k wil just make both of you nuts.

Sometimes, even the reconciliation spell doesn’t work. Why? Well, hey, nothing is foolproof…. Generally, I say try again, and if you see no results, it probably is a moot point.

Okay, kiddies, coffee is done… perhaps more on this later.

As always this is just my opinion and nothing more. 😀

Blessings!

~Cat