Hey Occulties,
As I'm sure it comes as no surprise to many of you, a great deal of my life every day is spent talking to people who are doing love spells or who are having love spells cast for them. So, while I probably put one of these kinds of articles out every year to every other year, let's talk about love spells.
Remember this article, and this article are both very helpful. Please read both.
But let's talk about what I've seen in 2016, shall we? Because, my lovely ladies and handsome gentlemen, I am like a solider with the 5-mile stare right now when it comes to what I've seen just this year. :P
Let's start with the most common problems and at the bottom, I'll move on to some less-common problems.
The ONLY TIME panic is useful in any spellwork situation is if you're the target, not the petitioner (person who the spell is being cast on behalf of.) I'm sure it doesn't miss anyone reading this blog, but I help a lot of people casting spells, and in some cases, people want to know "is this person" (who isn't me) "that I hired doing the work?" Well, while if you're not my client, you should bring your issues to the merchant who you paid to deal with them, this often turns into "HOLY SHIT, CAT, I'M FREAKING OUT!!! OMG!" somewhere in there, and every time, I say the same thing – panic is useless. Even if the spellcaster you hired did NOT ONE THING, then you're making the situation worse. If the person you hired did THE MOST AMAZING SPELL EVER CASTED EVER IN A MILLION YEARS, then you're making it not work as well. If you cast the spell, you're doing the equivalent of tying yourself to the very thing you want, and then running in the opposite direction off a cliff, then complaining you died when everything you hoped for fell over on you and killed you. :P
Am I not making sense? Fine, as you might see in the linked articles above, panic and worry are the antithesis of manifestation. They drive it away. And the thing is, it is not actually anyone's job but your own to stop your worrying, which includes your spellcaster, some other spellcaster not involved in your case, your mom, your best friend….all of these people have their own problems, and YOU are the one who has to get ahold of YOURSELF.
I like to crack up my clients with how I've thought a few SITUATIONS that I wasn't even spellcasting on unto death, so don't think anyone (even me) is immune, but the best thing you can do is to let the situation go, have faith it will work (worry is not faith, thinking it to death is not faith, panic is not faith,) and let everything happen as it should. Panic and worry are the NUMBER ONE REASON ANY SPELL FAILS which is why I linked 2 articles and repeated that topic first. 😉
The quality of your materials SHOULD BE top quality. Believe it or not, machine squirted "ritual oils" (Brands like Anna Riva, or Indio) are as useless as the cheap fragrance oil that they contain. There is NO essential oil, no one crafted this by hand while chanting proper prayers, there are no herbs within. It's garbage, and using this in your spellwork means you have NO ASSISTANCE WHATSOEVER from the tool of the oil you're using past perhaps an olefactory (smell) aid to the person casting the spell. Dusts and powders ARE NOT STRAIGHT TALCUM. I don't know the amount of times I've seen someone calling blue talcum Goofer Dust. Goofer Dust is graveyard dirt, bugs, salt, rust, cayenne sulfur, snake skin…it's a lot of nasty things, but it sure as shit is not colored talcum, and…as far as using it in a love spell, I'm sure someone does, but I would not. It's for killing and harming people. Love powder is not pink talcum or red talcum. Dirts and powders are made of herbs, dirts, salts…and while some do use talcum as a "carrier agent" you should be able to easily make out the powerful herbs the powder contains.
So, if you're finding your work is floundering and you're doing the work yourself, get some better tools. What are tools? They are the oils, the incenses, the "nuts and bolts" that make up the machinery of the spell, or help you cast the spell. It could very well be upping the grade of your tools will be what makes this spell come together for you. While that and "Lust for results" are not love-spell specific, they are 2 of the most constant problems I see with ANY spellcasting.
If everything keeps falling sideways, you might need to take a cleansing spiritual bath! Spellcasting and having spells cast upon you can help lead to a faster build up of what I might call psychic residue. What is this? Basically, all of us in our day to day life deal with trauma, upset, other people's feelings, our own feelings, and this builds up a residue in our aura. Think about it like if you were a pretty clean person, but you never washed your skin off, or washed your hair. Eventually, you're going to be covered in a stink, no matter how clean you are, just because you're a living being and you sweat, you come in contact with dirt and grime, so…you do bathe. Well, you should do a spiritual bath for similar reasons. Because spellcasting? That's like if you worked as a trash collector, and in your spare time, you were in the gym for 3 hours a day and you never ever bathe. :P
The simplest method (though not the most thorough by all means,) is to fill a bath, put in some sea salt (easily available at many stores,) and then wash yourself DOWN (head to feet,) saying the 23rd Psalm. If that is too Judeo-Christian for you and you have other beliefs, then as you wash yourself down, say "I am cleaned of all defilement, I am washed free of all stain, so be it," as you wash down. You don't have to believe in an eternal creator being for magic to work for you. I even like to soak in one of these baths for a good five minutes before saying the psalm to let all that crud that builds up from me spellcasting to just fall off of my aura. Every time I do a spiritual bath – even just a sea salt bath – I feel 100% better. I highly recommend it.
If you don't have a full tub, purchase a container (I've seen laundry baskets like this,) large enough to stand in, that you can fill with very warm water and salt, and wash down while standing in this.
You need to try something different! Everyone is wired differently. Everyone. So, maybe you (or your spellcaster) is using a spell that works on the triggers of lust. And your target is feeling VERY lusty. He or she really wants to take you to bed…thing is, your target doesn't want to act on those urges because he or she does care about you as a friend, and ALL he or she wants (romantically/sexually) is the sex, which is not "worth it' to the target to upset you by having you sexually if they know you're in love. They know that will hurt you more and cause them stress, so they don't act on the lust urges they are feeling.
Or perhaps your ex feels very much that he or she wants to make up with you and BE FRIENDS, but they have no lust urges, and no romance urges, just a desire to RECONCILE. It's something I've gone over in here before more than once, but you (or your worker) need to assess the situation, and find the right triggers to draw the appropriate outcome.
THE ABOVE ARE THE TOP REASONS FOR LOVE SPELL FAILURE, but what else might be going on here…
The dreaded answer – you can't have it. While it is rare, I've seen this happen. Sometimes no one can help you, because you will never ever have what you asked. Now, everyone says "Cat, how many times have you seen that," and in over 25 years of spellcasting for myself and almost 15 years of offering services to the public, I have seen it 4-5 times probably. It has to be less than 1% of the time, and I can only remember a handful of times. USUALLY (though not always) something better than the requested outcome does come along for the client, though sometimes it's just that the answer to some prayers (or spell requests,) is no. Because all prayers are answered, and if you don't get a positive reply, it doesn't mean someone (if you believe in a God) or something (if it's just that you believe in the power of the Universe) ignored you…such as modern thinking on the matter seems to suggest.
Your target is weak and/or easily frightened. This one seems to really confuse people, but guess what? Love is scary, and rejection is even more scary. Breaking up with someone is scary. Admitting you made bad mistakes is scary. So, many of our targets are afraid of rejection, or afraid that if they tell us they want us, that this will cause crazy changes in their lives that they can't handle. If your target is weak and/or easily frightened by such things (and they can be a strong person outside of this weakness,) you might be getting the impression you're hitting a wall with them. The best solution here is to keep the pressure constant on the target, and if you continue to get no response from them (and I mean after more time than a few days has passed,) perhaps non-aggressively reach out and say hi. You want to check with your worker if that's OK (if not doing the work yourself) or wait at least a few weeks post-spellcasting (if doing the work yourself,) but sometimes a reluctant and frightened target is the cause of your misery. While some gentle nudge from you might do the trick, the problem might also be…
You scared someone too much. First, keep in mind, if you were awful to someone, if you were scary, they might not be ready to take you back as even their friend or someone they want to speak to. If your target WILL NOT SPEAK TO YOU, consider how bad the damage truly was. As I went over in the above linked article, sometimes people do need to calm down, and you're not letting them calm down. That can mean you might need some distance, and you definitely need to stop throwing this painful relationship in their face. Apologizing won't help. You need to give them distance.
But what if you've given them months of distance and behaved yourself that WHOLE TIME? Well, let's just be honest with ourselves…how bad were you? Look, I don't like to admit it, but I've been a f***ing c*** to a few guys, and I really pushed my luck with them. I was nice enough to bleep out what that is, but we all know what it I said, haha, and guess what? Some guys they might forget my mistakes but other ones? I've had them come back YEARS LATER to be like "Cat, I loved you so much, and then you didn't just break my heart, you ripped it out of my chest, lit it on fire, danced around the flaming ruin of my love for you then you just told me to die and go to hell, and I've been scarred for like decades now!" And I'm like… "Yeah, I had a misspent youth, and adulthood, and present…sorry, bro." (Herein, I give an apologetic smile, lol.) In other words, if I can think of a few gentlemen I've hurt and frightened in the past who I would have a hard time bringing back thanks to my behaviors, I have to reasonably assume a few of my readers have caused equal – if not more nefarious – destruction to those in their lives. Sometimes the damage is SO GREAT that even years of good behavior will not erase the damage enough to get your target to be willing to attempt another chance. You can try – and people do, and sometimes they get what they want, – but keep in mind, the more damage you do to a person, the harder it becomes to bring them back into your life.
You're refusing to let the situation change. Remember how above I'd said that your target isn't going to make a move because they are fearful? Well, this is the flipside of a same coin. Sometimes, for example, to make a relationship start to work, you need to break up with someone and show them you mean business. Well, tell this to someone who's trying to save a failing relationship – that the best thing that they can do is say "So and so, I don't need your bullshit. This isn't right how you treat me. You want to start treating me right, well, you know my phone number, and use it. If you feel how you treat me now is OK, then I think we need to call this quits. Later." But that's a VERY SCARY, and possibly chancey move to make. I know a lot of people won't make that move. It's just, I've seen more than a thousand relationships cross my desk just working for others, and in some cases you need to "break a bone to set it right." 
Also, sometimes someone refuses to break up with someone they no longer want to date, in order to get a desired lover in their life. Until they leave the (shouldbe) ex, this new lover won't make a move, no matter how hard you work spells on them.
So, sometimes it's you refusing to make needed (and sometimes mundane) changes so the spells can help the situation turn into what you desire. 🙂
There is a huge (obvious) obstacle in the way. As I said above, sometimes the obstacle is really obvious…if you're married to your love interest's sibling or best friend, for example, that's pretty "huge." I can see why your target wouldn't act on your spell influences. But perhaps it's equally as obvious without it being so juicy – maybe your target won't act because he or she feels the geographical distance is too great, perhaps there are job-based reasons behind this as in your job does not allow in-office relationships, perhaps this person dated someone close to you and worries it would be a problem…whatever the obstacle is, you need to figure out how to overcome it if you can. Stop trying to make a spell push a boulder through a doorway, and instead move the boulder away from the doorway to get past that wall… So, if you've got a great high wall keeping you from what you want, then a huge boulder blocking the door in the gate, is moving that left or right so you can move through the door now that it's unblocked going to be easier than pushing the obstacle through or over? It is? Same with spells. Is there a huge obstacle? How can we navigate over or around it to get to the desired end? How do we get it off our path?
If it's a mundane problem (for example, a problem of no in-office romance) then you changing jobs might help. You don't need spells for that.
If it's a bit more complex, try a roadopener spell to break down obstacles. It's probably one of the easiest things you can do to improve your own situation!
If you remove the obstacle rather than trying to force the outcome to happen with this obstacle still being a factor, you will find your work will begin manifesting as you like and without so much stress!
Alright kiddos, this is just a bit of review, and in the next few days, I'll have a brand new love spell up for all of you to use. I hope it's been educational.
~Cat
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