Hey Occulties,
First, I'd like to thank everyone for the recent donations. Things are still pretty spare (there's no insurance, which always makes this stuff expensive,) so as far as free stuff for all, that much I can't do….not that I ever could. 😉 BUT, I still have tons of spellcasting space at this writing, as far as readings, next week is like to be more open, so I can definitely EARN some money to cover the costs of the Month of May 2017 (which lives in infamy in this home, ugh.)
Also, in a shameless spot of self promotion, don't forget to buy my book Pactum (co-authored with the amazing Michael Cecchetelli,) which is a full course in LOVE SPELLS! If you want to work to get that guy or gal into (or back into) your life, you should get a copy. 🙂
That aside, I've been so wanting to write to my lovely readers and give you something a bit more on point. :)
So in the last week or so, I've been getting a lot of requests where someone wants a person back in their life, but are interested in having this person completely change their nature, by which I mean is that they want this person to change an inherent aspect of their personality. If someone has shown a veritable lifetime pattern of avoiding taking responsibility for their actions, then it's not likely that we can change them to become someone who takes responsibility for their actions. If someone always has 2 girlfriends or boyfriends (depending on their preference,) then it's not likely that they will, all of the sudden, become monogamous because a spell was put on them. If someone is given to compulsive lying, then a spell will probably not turn them permanently into an honest person who can never speak a lie.
It's like I've said for years – just because you want to get a jerk to love you, they may love you, but they're still a jerk. Don't get me wrong – maybe you love that jerk, and you've accepted that they are a jerk. That's fine. I've loved a few asshats in my life, too, and I accepted that yep, this person is a complete asshat, and I'm willing to stay with them despite that. Hell, a few men have said "This orange haired evil-bitch monster is who I love, despite her being a bitch-monster," and stayed with me. It is what it is. 😉
I think what it comes down to is that you have to decide if you want THIS PERSON – and are willing to accept this person IS NOT PERFECT – or if you want someone more compatible with your needs. If you feel you just can't deal with someone's dark side – GO FIND SOMEONE NEW, it's much easier done via magic (or without) than it is if you use spells to keep someone with you.
And realize, just because you have a long history with someone, this does not require you to stay with them. If they will always lie, or cheat, or steal, or manipulate, keeping that person with you can just mean more years wasting on someone who does those things.
Still, I say these things a lot, and yet know fully well that the heart wants what it wants, and you're going to try anyhow, despite my warnings. I'd chide you, but I have a stubborn streak, too, and oft when told that I can't do something, I take that as a challenge and try anyway. 😉
Let's be practical for a moment, then. If you have to go against a person's nature – even temporarily, – to make a desired change, is THAT possible? Yep, it is. And THAT temporary alteration of this person's nature could very well make a permanent change for the better – for example, getting a person into relationship therapy, or getting someone to see a therapist, or get a job (instead of living off of you,) etc. It might not ENTIRELY FIX THE PROBLEM (see above: just because a jerk loves you, this does not mean that they are not still a jerk,) but if it alleviates some of the stress, perhaps the relationship will become more functional.
Alright, so, this was some advice I'm putting out there because I want to post a love spell aimed at repairing a failing relationship next. 🙂 So, I will get that up for you in the next day or so, and stay tuned. 🙂
~Cat
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