Thinking outside the Box with Love and Reconciliation Spells

Hey there Occulties,

So many of us have experienced a tough love target when spellcasting for ourselves, that it bears repeating (as I've said it in more than one way before,) that we can't always follow some generic set of instructions that would change the situation to what we want if we just follow those instructions or use this or that spell. 

I've said before (in all of my writing) that it is imperative to remember the nature of your target. A target which reacts poorly to being bossed around in the mundane, may react poorly to magic which is of the controlling type. A target who views sex as not being related to romantic love is not apt to fall in love even if they lust strongly after another person. If someone has a great deal of enmity towards you for your behavior towards them, just using something to amp up love or lust will not always overcome their anger, fear, or pain.

Also, keep in mind their history in their relationships with family and with exes previous to you. ALL relationships are different, and that means DO NOT expect them to treat everyone in their past or future in the same way they behave towards you, but you will start to see a pattern to their behavior as you understand more of their history with romantic partners and family. 

So if you find yourself hitting the proverbial wall in regards to results with spellwork, remember that success can also depend on thinking of which obstacles might stand in your way, your target's nature and emotional make up, and the history of your target. You might be having SOME success, and not the success you're seeking. For example, do you know when you cast reconciliation spells, that it's very common to have your exes who you ARE NOT working on suddenly reappear and be interested? No, not all of them, but, commonly enough, one or two will suddenly drop you a line. 😉 This means your spell is SUCCESSFUL, even if that target is not budging. What it also indicates is that you might want to use an alternate spell if your target is not budging.

I feel many people do limit results due to "lust for results" (which I should probably create a category just for those articles, haha,) but also the problem can lie in just not understanding the target they are working on and  the triggers which will make this person react as desired to the spellwork.

Also "throwing dynamite on a bug to kill it," is not always the best way to get what you want. If you push someone to confront their own fears too strongly, you can actually slow them from acting how you want. 

But I've made my point – how can anyone "think outside the box," though?

First: Think about their childhood and their experiences up until meeting you? Are they suspicious or untrusting because of some past experience? If so, what happened? If they were cheated on, unappreciated, uncared for, these are all things you need to take into account.

Second: Consider their behavioral make up – is this person someone who takes direction easily or someone who resents anyone who takes an assertive role over them?

Third: What other obstacles are you overlooking? Is there another love interest? Are they angry or upset with you? Keep these things in mind when working on a love target.

Don't just take the stance that success will come from some generic reconciliation or love spell. My experience has taught me that there really is no "one size fits all" spell that will fix every situation. By understanding HOW a spell works on the target, you have a greater chance of success. For example, if it is distance or a job keeping my target from reacting to my love work, perhaps a move or a change in jobs is what I should focus on rather than just the love/lust aspect of the work. 

Hope that's some help,

~C