Q&A: Give It Back or Die!

Hey Occulties,

Originally the article I was posting on Sunday (that is still in editing, ha,) was going to be about tranquility, but a reader just asked me this (edited to take out any personal details and to clarify the situation,) and I actually thought it was damn suitable for Saturday (which is fantastic for cursing and dark domination, mwhahaha.)

Q: When my ex roommate moved out a few years ago (we moved out at the same time,) 2 of our boxes got mixed up because they looked similar and it was basically clothes. While most of it is nothing I care about, I had left a small jewelry box tucked inside, and a ring that has a lot of sentimental value was in there (as well as some fashion jewelry and cheap stuff.) I must have tossed it in there because I was cleaning and didn't want it damaged. It is from the 1930's and is an heirloom. At first I didn't think much of it – we share friends, we don't live far apart, and it wasn't her way to steal anything. After a few months, I just figured she was really bad with exchanging things, so I set up a meeting and we switched the boxes back. When I got home, I couldn't find the jewelry box, and the clothes looked folded different. I called her and she said she totally forgot, she took that out because something had spilled on the box of clothes and she had to wash them. She dropped off a zip loc bag of jewelry a few days later, saying the box (and it was a very cheap jewelry box, – fabric over cardboard,) had molded and presented the box. It was as she said. I didn't see my ring in the bag and she said it might be on her dresser as she had wiped off a few things and laid them out there before bagging them. After a week or so I called her, and she kept putting off seeing me any time I did. It was really damaging our friendship, so I told her that I did not mean to make her feel accused, but the ring was a family heirloom, that it had great sentimental value to me, and to just even put it in her purse and leave it there so if she was by my house she could drop it off. Soon after she stopped showing up at events I went to, and wasn't taking my calls, telling people that I'm crazy, saying she doesn't even have this ring, and that she'd even looked and I probably was just looking for attention. Well, last week my other friend saw her wearing my ring! I'm so mad! My friend even managed to make it so the ring was in a picture without arousing suspicion.

After all she put me through, and for something that she STOLE, I want her to DIE if she doesn't give the ring back! What can I do? Will she get really sick and die if she doesn't give it back to me? 

A: Well, I would not be the first person to notice that people are very stupid sometimes and will do stupid things like wearing a stolen ring around a mutual friend, but given the information, it seems strange that she would decide to end a long friendship over a piece of jewelry, and one that you told her clearly was important to you. The clincher there is that another friend recognized it, which leads me to believe if a friend recognized the item as yours, it probably was something a few people had noticed belonged to you…because the only person's jewelry I can remember that isn't my own is probably the rings my mother wears, and a necklace my sister wore for 5-6 years. 😉 So, if it's something so memorable, I guess I will not say it is highly possible she thinks it is hers and has always been hers, and that she'd given you the ring you were complaining about back…but it is possible that is what is going on. 

You could be very not-magical and point the ring out in this image, but your friend who snapped the picture might be upset because she will be pulled into the fray. Direct confrontation might solve the issue without trying to kill someone. 😉 Furthermore the image backs up your claim, so even without spells, you have her saying you're "Crazy" when she's the broad wearing jewelry pilfered from a now ex-friend. 

But since when do people reading my blog want the not magical way? I guess, I do not suggest "Give it back or die." She won't know why she is dying. We don't live in a society where people instantly assume magic could be the cause of a sudden illness. She would just probably get pneumonia or meningitis or something, and then be dead, and then you won't even get your ring back. :P 

You could curse her so that everyone around you knows she stole the item – that this comes out that she is the thief. BUT, she might just throw the thing out then, so there is no proof of her having it in her possession. While your friends may never trust her again, people in her life who are closer to her and only very lightly acquainted with you (or don't know you) will eventually return and be friendly with her again and forget the incident (or  most likely.) So you would have the satisfaction of a permanent loss of friends from your clique, but this isn't like she would wake up with a mark that let everyone know she stole your ring and be marked as so for life. 😉

The best thing to do is to use a form of intranquility, so that she feels horrible remorse and guilt for possessing your ring and for losing your friendship. Instead of dying, she would be admitting guilt (and again, maybe she did think it was hers and not the ring you lost, only via spellwork, to realize it is your ring,) to you, and giving your ring back to you. She is also apt to express remorse and a feeling of guilt to shared friends so people will know you had never been "crazy" when you said she stole your ring.

I know it's not as blood thirsty, but it is the most likely way to get your ring back, and hearing that she is sorry about what she put you through will probably cool a great deal of that anger you're feeling (without leaving a body count.) 

Hope that is educational. :) 

~Cat