Over the years, it has never been a mystery that many people forget that lovely terms of service (it's very enlightening,) or that pesky client agreement that they agreed to when applied for services. Now, most of the time, it's only mild violations on the rules, where it would be a bit extreme to call people out on the mistake when it is made once, and not with any ill intentions. For example, I do not answer free psychic questions, like "what is so and so thinking," and "when do you feel I'll hear from so and so." If you want a reading, you're supposed to schedule one. However, if it happens once, maybe twice, in the course of my working on an issue, I will probably let it slide without much comment.
Furthermore, it is no mystery that several people are actually confused on what "urgent" or "emergency," means. While I can't deal with actual emergencies (such as someone being in grave danger of physical harm, someone being under physical attack, someone gripping the edge of a cliff, someone being jailed in a foreign prison on trumped up drug charges, etc,) as I am neither licensed to practice medicine, nor authorized to give legal assistance, I understand that there might be a small chance that it is a spiritual emergency, though to be fair, that is possibly three cases in almost 15 years at this writing. Maybe it is more, but I can concretely think of THREE, which, I might add, those cases stand out enough in my mind as to be quite memorable. One might argue that the situatuion is URGENT that I drop everything I am doing to pay attention to what is going on in this case, and while this is certainly a far more common occurance, there are some who think feeling sad or having a bad dream is "urgent." It is not, and if it were, I would assume it is because the person feeling this is urgent requires immediate medical care for overwhelming anxiety or depression, which is nothing I am qualified to treat. Not liking a social media post, being angry about an off-color joke, being anxious that someone has not texted you yet – none of this is actually urgent, and it does not require me to drop everything on my days off to deal with it.
For those of you who are confused that i do have days off, yes, I realize it can be confusing, since technically the last time I had a REAL DAY OFF when I was not working was when I was in the hospital. 😛 The truth is that I work every day, seven days a week, but to me a day off is not having to bother with my inbox outside of some incredibly extreme developments, which, if I am being fair, are far less common than "Just wondering if you got this email I sent on Friday about how I felt kind of down this week for no particular reason, so I will email you 43 times about it on Saturday and Sunday" (and I am not exaggerating, and Saturday and Sunday are my days off,) "to let you know I sent it, rather than wait for Monday," types of emails.
Now don't think I don't know how it feels to be anxious or depressed or upset, but the reason I take days off is that I also have a life, and if I only deal with other people's problems, even the trivial ones, then I can't deal with my own problems including major ones. Just checking to see if I'm still breathing because it's been 36 hours since I spoke to you is time consuming to reply to, and also unnecessary. If every active case of mine did that on the same day, I would suddenly be 4-5 days behind on replies just for having to reply individually to each person, and to keep each conversation going until the concerned party felt their needs were met, which, if you think about it, would be moot, because I'd soon after need to repeat the conversation again having become so busy dealing with what is, in many cases, a non-issue.
Am I breathing? I am breathing, thank you. 😉 Did I get your email? Yes. What do I think about you feeling sad yesterday? I think we all have cranky and grumpy days and it is no biggie.
You'd think the transaction could be that easy, but often, no, even that requires a lot more attention with several people.
Now before I get all sorts of angry emails full of vitriol and hatefulness and butthurt and defensive tears, allow me to say I SIGNED UP FOR THE JOB OF LISTENING TO- AND HELPING PEOPLE WITH THEIR- PROBLEMS, and I'm fine with that. That's my job. It's what I do. HOWEVER, I never offered to be a babysitter. This means I actually have a minimum expectation that my clientele is capable of not engaging in obviously self-destructive behaviors (for example, fighting with a reconciliation target,) that each person I work for has the mental fortitude to withstand trivial changes to the situation being worked on (for example, if someone gets a bit curt for a day or so, despite them not being overtly rude or aggressive, as this might even be caused by work stress or something entirely unrelated to a love working,) without this requiring daily encouragement from yours truly, and to avoid easily avoidable stress triggers like repeated checking up on a target via social media, which I have repeatedly discouraged as it is rarely if ever a realistic window on what is going on in anyone's life or perhaps trying to see where and when someone logged in on a site to gauge if they are out with others or at home. It is no mystery to me that people can drive themselves to madness just overthinking and obsessing, and I generally speak to each client (at least 3/4 get "the talk,") about how obsession and stalking and overthinking is a non-helpful behavior.
And realize, at any given time, I am dealing with at least 3 actually urgent changes in a situation (some great, some not so great,) so if I have to delegate 45 minutes to comforting someone because they can't stop stalking their target's facebook or whatever, it takes away from me being helpful to someone who is need of my help far more than "I saw a like on their social media from a person I don't like!" when the whole social media thing can be solved easily…just stop using it for a week. I totally cut down on Facebook and now I'm on it maybe 2 days a week at most. I've stayed off for weeks at a time. It's refreshing. Try it if you find yourself getting very upset over social media stuff.
And yet "Person I fear to be a rival liked so and so's post," is often labelled URGENT by more than one client. That is not urgent.
I don't say this to be cruel. Just like anyone who deals with people in distress, I understand that more than one person I work for has their ability to withstand pressure and stress weakened, but in saying as much, I offer the tools to more than one person on a regular basis to be able to rely on themselves more than on me. I want you to move ahead from needing my input on the more trivial of matters in an effort to feel you're being coddled and reassured enough. You should want to feel brave and courageous and self sufficient, not that you need me to OK everything or talk you down from a proverbial ledge on a regular basis. That is what helping someone means to me – I help them to not need me for every little triviality.
One step in the right direction is considering if something is actually life or death emergency/urgent. I hate to say it, but a lot of the time, it really isn't a "life or death" level of importance when people contact me in an absolute panic…it isn't even a problem that would snowball if left unattended for a week (which I am not suggesting I should let someone twist in the wind that long, just it would not get any worse if I did.)
Another step in the right direction is accepting the answer given when the question is asked. I could literally cut at least a quarter of my time spent working if I was not repeating the same answer to a question someone merely keeps restating (not even in different ways,) on a very frequent basis.
A step towards faster manifestation (which would mean less anxiety) is to stop stressing over the situation (I've been over this a ridiculous amount of times in here,) and to know the answer is yes, that does slow manifestation and in extreme cases even kills the manifestation. If you want to know if it hurt the spell, it may have, but generally if you have the introspection to realize the behavior was not helpful, you probably never took it so far that you impacted the situation irrecoverably. Having some moments of feeling anxious or struggling with obsessive thoughts is not the full "thinking the spell to death" level of behaviors I instruct against. If you NEVER EVER STOP OVERTHINKING AND OBSESSING, then yes, that is very, very bad. You know, I took a course in first aid some years ago and it's sort of like some of you are freaking out over permanent disfigurement and impairment from an incredibly mild sunburn (so very mild "lust for results,") while others are thinking everything is just coming up roses and it's no biggie while suffering from third and fourth degree burns with fingers falling off, just thinking they will rub a bit of aloe on that and no worries (compare to killing a spell before it can manifest by severe anxiety, obsession, etc…the worst lust for results possible.) I understand wanting reassurance as to whether or not a very unhelpful kind of behavior had an impact on your work, but many people really are not taking the issue far enough that they are doing much more than maybe kicking manifestation down by a few days or so, and that is quite normal. While certainly my more calm and secure clients tend towards getting the faster result (thus proving the theory of lust for results, and thank you, ha,) I have a few "Nervous Nellies" who let that obsessive worry pass and found the manifestation came within 10-14 days of them dropping the anxiety levels.
It would also be lovely if people stopped asking free psychic questions. If you try doing that on your application, I will just decline your business. This is my job. I need to get paid for my job or I can't run my business. "Just check this one little thing," is not exactly the easiest thing for me. I read you on a vague enough level at all times, but it is not the same as a traditional reading. It's very much more muted than you might realize. So, something trivial like is so and so going to call you tonight or tomorrow, when virtually nothing major is going to happen (you will just chat and have a nice conversation, no alarming news, might be today, might be tomorrow, but he or she did not specify,) is not something I'm apt to pick up without some serious energy and focus. It's not earth-shattering. If me in my "off" mode picked up everything full blast, I'd be in a loony bin. I could hardly function…it would be terrible to feel everything coming and going and hear and taste and smell and feel every damn person around me that strong. Generally I feel the present, and it isn't "loud" unless people are very upset or excited. So while i have some idea, I pick stuff up while I am in "off" mode, the depth of what I pick up is not what I get during a reading. I have sensed the deaths of friends and loved ones before, and births as well…but again, both of those events are pretty life altering, not "Will so and so call me today?"
It's just a few simple things, probably in an order which could be a bit more coherent, that are issues that arise more often when I am slammed like I currently am. I am a very very popular lady at the moment. 😉 I LOVE having lots of business, but it can mean that I'm already working 16 hour days so checking that I got your email 42 or 43 times on my days off (this actually happened,) is really not helpful. It's a bit…weird. I would not be the person who charges you to reply to your emails (more than one worker does that, you know,) but I am the only employee of my business, and just having a little more patience, following the site rules, and trying to deal with your situation on your own for the weekend (even if it feels a bit stressful, – it's not an emergency, or I probably would have replied already,) means a much happier and effective rootworker on Monday.
I'm not mad at anyone, – again I love having lots of business, this is fantastic – I just need a day or two off when it is this busy. I need rest. My day off is still at least 2 hours of email, and casting all my active spells…that's going to be a normal person's work day (eight hours) more often than not. So please help me, consider the above that I'd stated, and I will be getting back to everyone on Monday (if I don't cave and start doing replies tonight like I often do, ha ha.)
~C
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