This Again….

Hey occulties,

You know my most-repeated bit of advice? Stop thinking about it, stop stewing over it, stop making yourself anxious. You know, there are a lot of situations in life where we wanted to say more, or do more – not just love situations, – and yet for whatever circumstances arose, we could not follow through in saying or doing more. 

Let's say, for example, you're working in an office, and you're let go. There is no really good reason for this happening, they just sack you, and, since you don't work close to home and aren't really friends with your co-workers, you just collect your belongings and go. You probably will wonder what your co-workers thought happened. You will probably wonder what happened. But, unless you are a certain personality type, you're not going to fume and focus on this every minute or even daily. The first few days, it might cross your mind frequently. Within 7-10 days, I'm sure it crosses your mind once a day or so, but not frequently. After a 1.5-3 weeks, it might cross your mind very occasionally. You've moved on. You've found another job. The only reason it was on your mind so much at first was it being very unjust and you feeling you had no say. But you let it go. You didn't fixate and obsess. After awhile, you don't even think about it. So when you run into a former coworker completely randomly 6-7 weeks later, and they inform you that the company fired 10 people that day, and with no reason, you probably aren't dying to hear that. It is nice to find out, but you weren't desperate to know. 

You see, that's what letting go is. It doesn't mean you don't want to know why you were fired, or that you won't be satisfied hearing the explanation should it come to you. It means you move on with your life and not cling to needing that information. And I've found when we LET THINGS GO, we get what we want a lot faster. 

Think of a dog on a leash which we want to retrieve something for us. The dog is a very smart dog, and so it will understand exactly what we say. I tell the dog that I want something incredibly particular, let it off the leash to retrieve this, and I tell it to go, and it will bring it back. So, in this instance, I do tell it I want, say….a worn sock from the British Royal family. 😉 Then I say go, and I don't let the dog off the leash. The dog knows exactly where to go to get this item, but to get it, I would need to let it off the leash. I, however, do not believe the dog will do this unless I'm clinging desperately to it. Seeing as I live nowhere near the UK, and this is a magical smart dog, it begs to reason that the dog must somehow move in ways that I, a physical being, cannot. For this animal to comply, it would need to be able to drag my butt with it, and in this case, that will slow it or make its job impossible. 

This is very similar to spellwork. You tell the spell what you want, and you let it go do its work and bring to you the desired outcome. It is like letting the above dog off of a leash to retrieve something for you vs insisting it drag you along even if you would impede or stop it's progress entirely. 

So, when you continually fixate on your situation – even if you're not using spellwork – you create a drag on your own energy. I apparently have to say this every few weeks or else several of you forget and I am inundated with complaints about slow moving spellwork or how sad and miserable someone feels because they won't stop picking apart the situation and worrying about it. 

Like I've said before, I do this to myself when it comes to money problems sometimes. If I'm short a certain amount and I know I'm going to get a rotten letter or a dreadful late-charge from a company, that gives me a puff of anxiety. I would fearlessly cuss out Godzilla and yell in his face, but for some reason those mean letters and late charges irk some part of me and make me upset because it's some weird facet in my nature that they do. 😛 If I let that anxiety snowball, before I know it, I get the rotten letter or the dreadful late-charge, and then once that has happened, well, wouldn't you know it? All the people who needed to wait to pay, or wanted to postpone payment for x or y reason come flooding in, as does new business! Why? Because I put a drag on my own energy. That anxiety drew the "feared outcome" which while possibly mildly costly, was never anything to get that afraid of or anxious about. Yes, it's better to avoid that, but it wasn't worth me getting more and more anxious at any point. So if we go back to my "dog on a leash" example, I told the dog to retrieve some paying business, and then refused to let the dog go even 2 feet away. 😉 When the outcome I was trying to avoid comes because I could not pay, I just let the leash of that dog go in disgust, and boom, everything I needed is right in my lap.  

Now most of you are anxious about love matters…. When it comes to money matters, or legal matters – these have specific time frames which need to be met. Love, on the other hand, rarely does. If you're thinking on your issues multiple times a day, if you're wondering where that call is, what they're doing…well, you're the one dragging out the time frame. Now, I know no one wants to hear that. Do you think I want to KNOW that when I'm like "OMIGOD I'M GONNA GET A LATE FEE AND A RUDE LETTER AND I DID ALL THIS WORK FOR THAT NOT TO HAPPEN!!!" because no, I know that is what I'm doing, and I don't like it or want it to be that way. But it is that way. Stop holding your spellwork back by obsessing and getting anxious. Stop being the drag on your own energy. Just let it go. I understand that is easier said than done. I understand it is easier to blame the spell target, the spell, or anyone else, but you need to release that obsessive anxiety (it's also what's making you feel frustrated and angry,) and let it go. Believe me, I have to tell myself to LET IT GO at least 3x a year…because damn rude letters from my utilities and regular monthly costs and late fees apparently trigger me. Waiting for an unspecified amount of time for someone to contact you apparently triggers some of you. Let's all take a deep breath together and let go… That way what we want can hurry up and get here.

Sorry for the lecture if you didn't need it. 😉

~Cat