How to Make an Undesired Person Stop Desiring You

Hey Occulties,

As we've entered a Venus retrograde, I've found myself (rather unsurprisingly) getting more "bring my ex back," and "make my ex go away forever and ever," requests. See, Venus retrograde has a nifty habit of making your ex come around – and of course, that doesn't mean the ex you like is coming around…it can also mean the person from your past that you detest is trying to make a come back. So, yes, this is a fantastic time to work those Return to Me workings, but what about that ex that all of the sudden thinks it would be amazing to get back together with you (and you definitely don't agree)?

For starters, you don't need magic to fix this most of the time. If I'm with someone when an ex tries to reconnect, I will casually mention my spouse or boyfriend, like "Oh, yes my husband loves that show, too!" in conversation. MOST (but not all) will back off right there once they are clear that I'm unavailable. For those who say "Oh, but your partner doesn't need to know," I would reply that I would know and I don't lie to my partner, so they would know, too. If I'm single, I will cut the conversation short with that I am late for getting ready for my date. MOST (but not all) will again back off there. For those that won't, I become a bit more curt and say "It never worked out between us and I'm not interested in revisiting if it could work. I appreciate your friendship, but that's all I can offer you – my friendship." 

The above paragraph? That's going to fix your problem MOST OF THE TIME. Just be polite, direct, and make it clear that you aren't interested. Try to avoid being unkind, as if you are unkind, they become defensive and rude. 

If this person is really just reaching out from the past – if they are not someone you even speak to a few times a year, but they found you on social media and you're wondering what rock they crawled out from under to find you (it happens,) and you tried to make it clear you're not interested and they still won't leave you be, here is something you can do magically. Please remember, this isn't going to be suggested in situations where you just hate your ex but you share kids or property or pets and need to deal with them. I like to think of this more like kicking a skeleton back into the closet, ha ha, like that person you dated for 2 weeks about 10 years ago, and figured you'd never have to see them again. ;) 

So you will need:
Gymnena sylvestre powder*
Poppy seeds
White vinegar
A small scrap of paper
A small jar or vial**
A pen with black ink

Try to keep, in your mind's eye throughout the entire working, the image of the person you wish to keep away from you looking sour and uninterested. If you need to use an image to help you keep this in your mind's eye, that is OK. Many people print one out or use their phone and place it near to their altar while they work.

Write the person's name on a scrap of paper using a NON-WATER-SOLUBLE black-inked pen. Now, fill your jar about 1/2 full of poppy seeds and then place the paper into the jar, sprinkle a small amount of the gymnema inside, and then fill to the top with poppy seeds. Add vinegar. Place the lid on top securely, and hold it in your right hand, and say "(Full name of undesired person,) turn your attentions away from me. I draw out the sweetness you feel for me, and replace it with a sour taste," nine times, then say "as is my will, so be it!" Then place this in a freezer (if possible) to totally cool their feelings. 

I hope that helps! And of course if you have questions, please feel free to contact me! 

~Cat

 

*I wasn't born yesterday and I know more than one of you will just be like "really Cat? REALLLLLLLLYYYY?" and not get this. OK, be like that. 😛 And now go find the most bitter thing you have in the house. An unripe lemon, perhaps? Squeeze some juice from that in before the vinegar. It won't work as well but it also means you won't have to buy a bunch of something, so… you make your decisions. 😉

** For the extra lazy in the rant room, you can actually use an ice cube tray, but again, it won't work as well.