Reconciliation/Return-to-Me/Controlling Reconciliation – Which Is Right for You?

Hey Occulties,

So it may surprise you, but for almost 2 months (I think – hard to say as it changes the date each time I hit save,) I have been writing the same post. It's not that it's exceptionally long, (not at all,) but rather that I had some family stuff to deal with, and now I just feel badly for not finishing it and sit here and stare at it with a sad face when I do sit down to try to compose that article again. Sooo, maybe I should just write something else, as that is apparently causing quite the writers block problems for me. 😛

So today I'd like to discuss working controlling-type reconciliation on another party. This has come up a lot at my job recently, and so I feel it's time to revisit the topic. 

When we think of reconciliation, some people will think this just means bringing a target back into a relationship with the target expressing desire to make amends and with them behaving themselves as the petitioner (person for who the spell is cast on behalf of,) would want. This isn't exactly right. Reconciliation spellwork, at its core, is more or less that the target forgives the wrongdoing or hurtful action of the petitioner. It doesn't mean they will want a romantic relationship again, or even return, but they will no longer hold resentment and anger towards the petitioner. Now, in at least a third of requests, that forgiveness would mean that the target would seek the petitioner out and try to rebuild their romantic relationship. HOWEVER, there are plenty of cases of novice spellcasters who do not use Return to Me type spellwork (to draw the person back with the intention of rebuilding the romantic relationship,) or controlling-type reconciliation methods, but just "straight up" reconciliation, who find themselves with their beloved ex to be completely non-resentful towards them…while also not interested in ever dating them again. :P 

This is why I suggest using RETURN TO ME type products to draw the target to you. Return to me (if you're using oil/incense/powders,) contains element/s added to draw the target back to the petitioner. HOWEVER, sometimes in these cases, the damage of the break up is so incredibly terrible that this method, while it still brings SOME results, can fall flat of expectations.

The next step is generally controlling-type reconciliation, of which obsession and intranquility methods fall under. Not every case is well-suited to this kind of working, and, in my humble opinion, not everyone casting a spell, or every petitioner/case is well-suited for it either. If you're nervous, obsessive, and impulsive, you're a wonderful target for this kind of working, but would be a difficult petitioner. If you're the stoic type, you're a terrible target more often than not. 😉 People who always have to feel like they are "the boss" of every situation can be bad targets for this kind of working… In other words, this is not a solve-all. If you're not practiced at casting spells for yourself or others, you may wish to seek out a professional's advice before proceeding…though in my novice days, I did love experimentation, and, honestly, that spirit of wanting to "try and see," is something that has been of great value in my later days. To those with no caution and lots of guts, I tip my hat to you for keeping that spirit alive. 😉

How do you know which you would need for your case? Generally speaking, straight reconciliation works wonderfully in situations where the relationship has not broken. If you're fighting with a spouse or partner and you're starting to feel things sour, but are still together (even if you're hanging by a thread), this is a wonderful time for straight reconciliation. If the person has left and you want them to return to you, it's a good time for "return to me," type workings. If all else has failed (or if you feel it's all really, really, really messed up,) then try controlling type reconciliation. 

Now as a note, every once in awhile, I will get the person who just had to go and scare themselves by running all over the internet and reading anything "bad" they can find about a particular working. Then I will get a flurry of emails or texts about how using obsession is evil and scary and bad things will happen. Well, I mean, I did read that Tylenol is just terrible for the liver, and yet if you hand me one when I have a headache, I do not immediately presume that I will turn yellow and keel over from liver failure on the spot. 😉 Think of obsession type workings as similar…they can have a side which is bad (albeit A LOT LESS SO THAN THE RIDICULOUS BULLSHIT ON THE INTERNET,) but if used properly, they are immesurably valuable in bringing back a lover after a great amount of damage has been done. I have NEVER seen someone become suicidal or deeply mentally-deranged from this kind of working. I have seen obsessive/possessive behaviors crop up (especially in targets who have these tendencies naturually,) and become somewhat annoying, so that is a risk if your target is a jealous, obsessive, or insecure person. I have seen targets become very overwhelmed by a sense of regret and guilt to the degree that they became far more emotional than my petitioner had previously seen, but would add that I do try to check for a known history of depression or anxiety type disorders in a target before moving ahead with this type of working. I have never seen spirits fly out of hell and torment a petitioner or target, and the only places I see people say anything so silly does seem to be either people with NO EXPERIENCE IN SPELLCASTING making things up on message boards, or from workers who are against this type of working trying to scare off people from using it. :P 

~Cat