Non-Coercive, Straight-up Reconciliation

Hey Occulties,

In continuing with my last post regarding reconciliatory spellworkin's, today's article examines when is it the most-appropriate to use reconciliation without a drawing element (which would make it "return to me,") or a coercive/controlling element. As I've stated a number of times, it is a relatively common mistake to use this form of work on a very difficult case where the target would have myriad reasons to avoid returning to the petitioner (person who the spell is cast on behalf of,) so if you've been fighting like crazy, or have just been crazy in general (haha,) please try something a bit more intense on your situation than "straight-recon." ;) 

There is, however, definitely a time and place for these kind of workings, – particularly BEFORE the proverbial shit has hit that proverbial fan entirely. AND if you use this spellwork at that critical time, you're going to save yourself a lot of stress and and work in the long run. For example, if Mr NinjaCat and I are fussing and fighting with each other, I would want to use this type of working before I have had too much of his BS, and tossed him out of the house. In a non-romantic sense, if a coworker was holding a grudge against me, this would be the perfect type of work to do to make my workplace harmonious once more. 

See, the key here is that the person I wish to reconcile is still a part of my life, rather than no longer in my life. This is why "return to me" is a similar formula to "reconciliation," but has a "drawing" element, meaning it draws the person back into your life. In some cases, that drawing element being absent won't mean that the target won't return to you, but you want to be sure that if it is a possibility that they might forgive you but remain out of contact, that you would use "return to me" products.

I think the most common spell for "straight up reconciliation" is the honey jar or sweet jar. While there are varying methods of creation for the sweet jar, the absolutely most simple one is to make up a name paper, pop it in a jar, pour sweetener in to fill it, and then put the lid on and burn pink candles on it every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday until the target has been reconciled. Likely the second most-common would be a seven day vigil light (or even just a pink candle,) dressed with just some reconciliation oil and perhaps a few herbs, like balm of gilead. This should have a similar effect to the sweet jar, – again, it just makes the target forgiving and dissipates anger.

If you've found yourself arguing or on bad terms with a loved one, or with a coworker, try this kind of work before it reaches a point where the relationship is so damaged that something more severe is required to repair it (or it's past the point of repair.) It's generally very easy work to do (I've seen only a handful of cases where despite the target still being very much in the petitioner's life, the situation was pretty much beyond repair,) and will spare you the far more difficult work of drawing the person back to you, and/or even having to use more heavy-handed methods. 

In my next article, (which is likely to be a fair bit longer,) I'll discuss "return to me" reconciliations. 🙂

~Cat