Coercive-Types of Reconciliation – When You Really Need to Pull out the Big Guns

Hey Occulties,

Continuing on with our reconciliation discussion, today we will be discussing "coercive reconciliation," which tend to fall under (possibly surprising) categories…such as control-spell or curse. Now, that sounds bad enough, but there are even people who will use a "Love me or Die" spell, and yeah…not only is that not likely to work in modern times (because the person won't realize their horrible sickness is because they won't marry someone or return to someone, and they will die,) but it's also something where I would say that if you're willing to kill your beloved, that you might seek professional psychological help instead rather than kill them unless they love you back.

However, the "coercive reconciliation" is often the "final attempt," to reconcile a relationship, and I would be lying if I said it was for the faint of heart….but it is generally a damn effective method, all the same. 😛 If you use these methods, you are going to use methods for obsession, controlling, and cursing rather than using romantic and sexual love. If this violates some sort of moral or spiritual ethics for you to cast these kinds of spells, I strongly suggest you stop reading, because…well, it's also quite common that people use this type of spellwork…but why?

As someone who both teaches how to cast spells and as someone who does so for others, I can assure you that at least 85% of people wait until the situation is so terrible and so unfixable that it would NEVER EVER EVER work itself out without the intervention of spells. In some cases, it's even a bit like a bone that was broken in 15 places and allowed to set on it's own without being straightened properly, so it would knit right and put into a cast, leaving it so unless it is "re-broken" in all those spots, and set properly, it won't ever ever ever have a chance of being useful again. I guess to be more direct, I'm saying, the relationship exploded, and the target has healed and changed and so much time has passed that at this point, without causing the target discomfort, they are very unlikely to respond noticably to any less-coercive working. And of course, you have the "difficult target" who is stubborn, or wishy washy, or etc. They too, tend not to respond to more pleasant influence, and may require a heavier hand.

Whatever the case (be it a difficult target, a horrible break up, or even a petitioner that acted too crazy too many times, etc,) one thing you MUST keep in mind is that you should nearly always ALSO use traditional love and/or reconciliation work alongside this kind of working. Failure to do so tends to lead to a limited reunion at best, and a harried and miserable target who isn't interested in returning (but has a really crappy time of things) at worst. This means, you're going to be working at least TWO spells on this person – the one to coercively reconcile, and the one to make them feel loving and desirous of the petitioner. ALSO, petitioners using this kind of work will often want to "return to what we had when we first got together." This is impossible, and none of these spells erase history or bad actions…so while the couple may reunite, remind the petitioner (or yourself) that being forgiven for past mistakes does not make them forgotten. If your petitioner (or yourself) refuses to learn from your mistakes and keeps repeating them, expect the reconciliation to be short-lived. :P 

Alright, well, WHY is this effective to bring someone back if it's so unkind? you might ask. Insecurity, desperation, guilt, fear, jealousy, anxiety, depression, loneliness, and inner turmoil really suck, don't they? So when you feel those kinds of feelings, do you think to yourself "how do I stop feeling like this?" or do you just sit there and enjoy feeling shitty? You try to change it and often as quickly as possible, correct? The target, much like you, dear reader, is also a human being and also, when made very uncomfortable (even just emotionally) is going to seek a way to stop feeling as they do. So many coercive reconciliation spells depend on making this target uncomfortable in one or more of those ways (and sometimes in ways unmentioned,) which has been a method to draw back an errant lover since at least Roman times (it's in the 2000 year old Greek Magical Papyrii, for goodness sakes,) that we might reasonably assume that it still being in use today means it's a pretty fucking effective method to get someone to come back to you. 😛 If you're feeling exceptionally nasty, you might outright curse this person to lose friends and family and health and social status and job (anything, really,) until they return to the petitioner. Emotional turmoil without trying to impact health and family/friend relationships, health, home, or job does do the trick on it's own 95% or more of the time, however, and I recommend it far more than actually going about with the intention of destroying a target to the point that they could lose their home, business, or life. 

Let's also just be really honest here – several petitioners are ANGRY and want "justice," which to them means that the target should suffer as they have suffered until said target returns. I can entirely understand that perspective. If you've ever dated someone who is never wrong, even when they are (ah, nothing like a good ol' personality disorder,) then you probably understand this desire as well. 😛

If your situation hasn't improved by using less heavy-handed methods like traditional reconciliation, and/or return to me workings, this is the next step. It isn't kind, but it's very very effective, even in the worst of situations. :) 

The next article in this series will tie everything together, and I hope to be a bit more expedient in getting that one up. 😉

~Cat

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