Speed of Manifestation in Reconciliation – Slow may be Better.

Hey there, Occulties,

So, as I continue on with this reconciliation series, the big "when do I get results if I do this, or is this faster, or is this here what I want because it's fastest," problem with reconciliation is the part I'd next like to address. While you would not be wrong to assume there might be more speed with one method over another, but so much of the "time frame" depends on many, many other factors that choosing a type of reconciliation based on how quickly you will be back with your ex tells me that you're not actually basing your choice on valid reasoning…it's a bit like you choosing a car because it's red, versus it's performance, mileage, safety, or even price. 😛 Furthermore remember that A FAST CHANGE IS OFTEN NOT A LASTING CHANGE. So this idea that if you can just get the target to come back ASAP, then all will be well again in the world is not often a reality. I like to call this "Ferrari vs Volvo decisions," meaning the Ferrari represents the impulsive decision (or a quickly made one,) and the Volvo represents the carefully made decision which the 'buyer' has put a great deal of time and consideration into. People who make a "Ferrari" decision (an impulsive decision), are often just as quick to revert or change their mind as they were to impulsively choose the "Ferrari." People who make a "Volvo" decision are generally certain and sure of their decision, and do not just flip-flop on the matter soon after. When it comes to love, you'd much rather not be the "Ferrari" as someone can just as quickly decide it is a bad idea. Yeah, I know, you need to be the boxy, safe automobile. 😉 BUT, a decision someone makes with consideration is one they don't just as quickly reverse. 

Oftentimes, when discuss reconciliation spells, I compare them to a medical treatment. Accordingly, we can also think of a relationship, in this context, as a living being. While, in a perfect world, a healthy relationship would need no treatment, – or might have a few problems but nothing which won't repair itself – when the relationship has reached a point where reconciliation spellwork is necessary for that relationship to survive, we do need to keep in mind, – what condition is it in, exactly? If you were to compare it to an illness, is this a sudden condition like waking up with a high fever, or is it a long standing problem which has progressed to become worse and worse, because the problem was either not addressed or was poorly/wrongly addressed? What type of "injury" does the relationship have – while we can assume it isn't likely to be fixed overnight, if the split was sudden, would you compare it more to a broken bone or to a serious viral illness? And BE HONEST. Right now, some very hopeful person is going to tell me something so broken and terrible is really "not so bad." The reality is…there's a good chance that the relationship you're working on is severely mortally injured, and it's going to take some time and good spellwork for it to ever recover. 😛 This is an important thing to consider, especially when working for others, as the more damage the relationship has accrued, the more time it often requires to repair itself. While the petititioner is eager for an overnight remedy, a situation which is very damaged will rarely be fixable so quickly. 

And also, sometimes that relationship has been broken so many times that we can say it will never be stable or as good as it once was. People who seek to fix a relationship over and over and over need to realize that something which has been repaired so many times has visible and progressive issues. This is important as not only will the situation often be a difficult fix, you're likely to need to fix it again shortly. Compare this to a ceramic vase or lamp which has been shattered and glued back together several times. After awhile, it will lack much stability because it's been broken too many times. 

So, when we look at a relationship we wish to repair, or that which we have been asked to repair, the reality of it is that we may need time to bring it back together, AND, if it has broken up frequently, it may not even be that stable of a repair. I can assure you that most petitioners DO NOT WANT TO ACCEPT THIS, and the more resistant the petitioner is to this reality, the less likely the situation will be a permanent fix, unfortunately. The petitioner often will base their decisions on how quickly they can have the target back in their lives, which will be a short-lived reunion in many cases, and often a person of this temperament often also engages in some self-defeating behaviors (for example, arguing with a reconciliation target frequently,) which, should you be working for others, is something to keep in mind. It can be difficult to handle one person who can't resist antagonizing their target or who is prone to frequent meltdowns if you are working for several people at once. 

Certain targets are also just prone to being very cautious, and this can mean a slower result, even if the damage isn't severe. If the target is SHY or is OVERLY CAUTIOUS, advise your petitioner that the wait may be a bit longer than it would be in an average case.

Hopefully this has been helpful in my reconciliation series. I hope to add more, but wanted to get this up.

~C