Fixing Your Love Life Is Not Always a “One Spell” Solution

Hey everyone,

I'm really enjoying having joined some "newbie" groups. It's so fun and enlightening. 🙂 So many people I speak to and work with learned from me, so they are already familiar with my methods and thought processes. It's spoiled me, kids. I'm spoiled. 😉 And the thing is I FREAKING LOVE WORKING ON DIFFICULT CASES! That's like the best thing ever. I ENJOY it. It is what makes my life super happy. When the pandemic took from me the business I had where people with difficult problems were like "Cat, fix this for me," I was sad because not only did I watch a fair amount of people helplessly lose their battle to keep a relationship going, but it also meant…well, let's not talk about April 2020. I had no business because no one was working AND I was living with a crazy person. It was a hell. This means not only was a deprived of an inspirational source (BECAUSE YOUR HARD CASES INSPIRE ME TO WRITE), I also had no income and also was living with a crazy person, lol.

But now, here's the thing…if you're new to spellcasting and you say "Well, I will hire this person to do this specific spell I picked off their 'menu', or I will do this spell and all will be grand," you could be misleading yourself. Look, love is a complicated MFer. It really is. So let's say you get in an argument with your beloved and you both stop talking. Doing a communication spell may not be enough to fix that. In fact, your beloved may just contact you to give you an earload of how much they are still mad at you, and it might make things worse. Or let's say you want that person to forgive you. Well, I forgive virtually everyone in my past for everything, but at the same time it doesn't mean I want any of my exes back. I am not mad, I even would tell you I love these people, but I don't want a relationship with them. So getting your ex to just forgive you? That's not necessarily going to mean they will come back to you. And if you do a spell to make them come back, well, it might just immediately disintegrate again. The list is endless.

"Fuck, Cat, do you ever have any good news? Stop making me MORE depressed and tell me what works!" you say.

Very well. Let's assume you are dealing with a complicated situation. I had gone over this some time ago in a series on reconciliation. You want to approach this with a PLAN. It isn't "I found this dubious spell on an even more dubious site," sort of plan. I want you to really think about your situation. I want you to think if communication has been an issue. Is the sexual aspect starting to lag. Has this person cheated. Is there a rival. You think about it. 

Now remember, you want to come at your issues at all levels. Maybe you are part of the problem. Hey, it's okay, we often are our own worst enemies – maybe you need some healing work or work to communicate better. If your out of your neophyte phase, you probably know better than to combine certain spells. If one is "hot" and the other "cold," you can negate your own work. So for argument's sake, if you went after this 100% using candle work, you might prevent that. 

Assuming you are super cheap, you might literally just line up some blessed and dressed jar candles. So let's say you want communication, reconciliation, for this person to return, and for them to be overwhelmingly lusty, and because this is me (and I freaking love RoadOpener,) some roadopening to ensure the obstacles are broken down, that is going to be perfectly fine and it's something a beginner can do. Great stores to find these items are places like HoodooRoots and Serafin Station. I know who runs these storefronts, and they really do some AMAZING work on their produicts. This isn't just inert fake talc, perfumed fragrance oils of no magical value, or undressed candles that are as magical as a lightbulb is (which is to say not at all.) If you run that line of lights properly, you've just done a more "beginner" version of what I do for hire (I do not run a line of lights, lol, but I DO do a cocktail of workings.) This isn't even going to be difficult. You're going to make a name paper, place it beneath the candle, light the candle, focus on your intention while saying a chant, and then let it burn out. I think anyone can do that. 

But you *need* to stop assuming that it's one little rinky dinky spell that's going to change a massively complicated problem. I'm not trying to engender hopelessness in you or in anyone else. I want you to be successful when you work. Magic should be accessible to everyone. It should be easy for all of us to learn. That there is a lot of fake bullshit out there, that people say things like chew on cloves and you will get a windfall of cash (no you won't,) and others believe that? This is true. I WANT you to know how to do this yourself. It's honestly a very tiring job to do this for others, to explain the process, to be an underpaid psychiatrist, etc., and especially when it's not outside of the ability of the layperson to learn this stuff.  Yes, I love my job, and it's inspiring, but what's really inspiring is seeing others learn to use magic and to help shape their own lives on their own terms. So, sure, I'd do the work, but I love when you LEARN HOW TO DO IT. 🙂

So, this week we will focus on love. I have a big spell article on money coming out too. Exciting stuff! 🙂

~Cat

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