Happy 2022

Hey Occulties,

Welcome to 2022. I sure am happy to leave 2021 behind – what a nightmare year, and I’m STILL not financially caught up! If you want to hit my gofundme (I’ll link at the bottom,) feel free. I’m still sleeping on a battered futon, so my goal for 2022 is clearly to get me a brand new bed. 

The new year often brings us to new goals. They can be small (like me just saving enough for 2 weeks to have a real live bed, heh,) or large (like you finally getting that job you’ve been wanting, moving into a new place, or even finding that someone special.) HOWEVER, you have to be willing to stick to your goals, and to avoid this kind of thinking (which I see ALL TOO OFTEN in my inbox from many of you): “Well if I can just get a little positive feedback, then I will start acting in ways to make my spellwork manifest.” Wait, what am I talking about? Alright, so I’ll get something like this “I’ll stop stalking my target and stop being negative and stop lusting for results when the target is nicer to me.” Meanwhile the love spell target is like “I like (client) well enough when he/she isn’t so negative and creeping around after me, but clearly something is wrong with them right now so I’m going to avoid them.”

How does this happen? Shouldn’t the spell make them attracted to you “no matter what?” No, that’s not really how it works. It makes you more attractive to them, more likeable to them, but if you’re acting mad unattractive and creepy and stalkerish it can overwhelm the spell energies. 😛 It’s actually comparable to this: “I’ll start going to my job regularly and doing the duties assigned to me if they give me the raise first.” So, if you did that with a spell to get a promotion, don’t you think your boss or manager is going to say “I was strongly thinking of promoting that person, but their work suddenly has really fallen off – maybe I should pick someone else.”

While many of you do understand working WITH your spell, rather than AGAINST your spell, some of you clearly do not. Remember, the spell isn’t going to cut a deal with you. So if you say “Well I just feel like acting against my spell today but it shouldn’t matter because I was good for a whole 5 hours straight yesterday,” then the spell, itself not being a conscious entity will reason with you about as much as fire or rain or wind will reason with you, which is to say not at all. I don’t expect all of us to be our best selves 100% of the time (I’m certainly not and I’ve been spellcasting for over 30 years at this point,) but I also do expect most of us, if what we are spellcasting for is important to us, will try to be our best selves as much as possible. If it’s clearly against my spellwork to act like I’m creepy or stalking my target or if I’m fighting with a reconciliation target, then obviously I need to dial it back a notch if I want my spellwork to take.

Now, the one thing I do like about this time of year is that there are frequent news articles regarding how to change or lose bad habits and regain or gain good habits. If your bad spell-killing behaviors have become habitual (for example, social media stalking a love target,) then you would be well advised to undertake reading a few of these (hint, hint,) because change is often not overnight. I know we are often taught that magic is well…miraculous, and it certainly can feel that way when it manifests, but part of it still lies within you to create an environment where you are nurturing the changes the spellwork brings, and making the desired end stick around.

And here’s the thing – spell or no spell, if you want things to change, you manifest change just in changing how you act and/or how you live your life. For example, I’ve had people say “Cat, I have plenty of luck getting people interested in me, but I can’t seem to get any of them to stay interested in me.” After a few questions it becomes clear that the person is charming and not bad to look at, but they either don’t have a job, or any really interesting hobbies (for example, their hobbies are like “reading romance novels and watching tv,) etc. My advice to them is pretty much the same advice I gave to future Mr NinjaCat’s ex which is if you want someone to marry you (or stick around,) be the person that people want to marry (which for her would mean a complete 180 life change, but for most people would really require only a minimal to moderate level thereof.) So for example, make it clear you can support yourself, that you have an interesting life (and I don’t mean like you need to climb Mt Everest, but maybe something more thrilling than you know all the words to every Miley Cyrus song ever,) and that you’d be a good partner outside of just “I look nice.” Like if my guy and I were to break up right now, and I decided to find someone new, Mr New would need a job and his own place for me to even consider him, even if he was Jason Momoa – like THE Jason Momoa. So, if you find people find you really attractive, but then seem to lose interest I recommend working on perhaps getting a better job (or perhaps it’s having a job that gives you more free time as they just feel you don’t have enough free time for them,) or finding a new hobby….and it doesn’t need to be a weird hobby, just something you’re passionate about.

And if your problem is you have an easy time KEEPING someone with you, it’s getting them interested in you, then usually the issue is more being introverted than anything else. You might (eek) just need to push yourself to go out a bit more and be a bit more outgoing. 

Now people say to me, “What point is there in doing a spell if I still have to change?” Well, because even if a spell brings you what you want, – for example a new partner, or a new job, – you do need to create an environment which sustains and keeps that positive change in your life. So, instead of waiting for the spell to create the change THEN trying to adopt new habits to keep the change in your life, start manifesting that spell by changing your life so it can easily begin to take root and manifest. 

Spells can be amazing and manifest faster than expected, but the manifestation phase is really wonderful for you beginning to adopt a few lifestyle changes to keep what you want in your life. So, if you feel like you’re stuck in a rut waiting for that spell to manifest, what I do is use that time to change my own bad habits into good habits. And  yes, I have bad habits, haha. For example, I’ll want to lose weight and continue to take the elevator (which I was doing until I moved into a three floor walk up and spent the first 2 weeks almost dying every time I had to go somewhere and come back, haha.)

I realize many of us have become slovenly creatures of comfort during our 2 years being locked up inside thanks to the plague, and I actually can visibly see how this has impacted several manifestations. It’s hard to go out and get a job, when in reality you don’t even need to put on pants and it’s all over zoom and so you need to do the minimal amount to even appear like you haven’t been wearing the same pajamas for the last week. This means as you put less effort into YOURSELF, you also begin to put less effort into going after those things which you want, – be that love, or a new job, or a new home. I’ve found the more I can just sit around and watch television and order take out, the less effort I’d put into anything, including basic human to human interaction, and that actually taking the weekend to work a few hours at my retail job actually made me outgrow that “I’ve been wearing these lounge pants for 3 days look,” that I was definitely rocking throughout 2020. I have seen with my younger clients that having  less social opportunities like parties to go to has been detrimental to their regular social lives, so perhaps making sure you are vaccinated and boosted and perhaps attending a few outdoor events (weather permitting,) would help alleviate that problem. 

Alright, I am going to try to get a spell article up today or tomorrow (with three very anxious parrots who won’t get the feck off of me every time I type, it’s not as easy as you might think,) and since I know I’ll be asked there is actually only a 10% off special on the 15 week plan (aka the one year plan) this month for specials. Sorry, December was my big discount month.

~Cat

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