Love and Love Spells: Shocking the Target

Hey Occulties, 

I suspect I already regret writing this article, because a few someones will take it too far, but I’d like to briefly touch on a problem which is a relatively common one, and hopefully this will be helpful to those of you casting spells on a target with tenuous results. This is a tactic best employed in a situation where a “friends with benefits” or an undesired non-exclusive arrangement has persisted. HOWEVER keep in mind that not all targets are capable of exclusivity, and if you are with someone who has a long history of cheating, spells and any change in behavior you could try to make may never work as a cure. 

I also recommend that if you break up that you NOT enter into a friends with benefits situation before formally getting back together if you’re serious about getting back together. Prevention is far superior to having to repair or remake a relationship situation. 

So there are situations which more than one reader or client has found themselves in which basically are that they have a “situationship” with a target and despite repeated spellcastings, the situation isn’t evolving into the mutually exclusive romance they want. 

There are many reasons for this… for starters, if they were in relationship when they started seeing you and one they carried on for any length while also seeing you, chances are they don’t really care, regardless of what they say, and I have a lot of people who are going to get upset with me for saying that, but while yes, they really may care and that does happen, you need to understand that it’s a strong chance they don’t. I’m being generous and saying you have a one in ten chance I’m wrong, and if you write me to very defensively claim I am, remember you could be part of that ten percent so you’ll just look like a clown, and the defensiveness would hint that you’re afraid (and secretly suspect) I’m right. Next you let them have a purely sexual relationship without any obligation and they are quite comfortable with that. They can have the romance til without the obligations? Even better. So possibly you’re drawing up those romantic and passionate feelings, and they feel them, but there’s no necessity to change the status quo. In that second situation you need to shake them up and that’s called shocking the target. 

So when we work on people, we need to realize that certain changes will only occur if the target is uncomfortable with how their situation is. Comfortable people don’t tend to rapidly make uncomfortable or inconvenient changes or easily accept new obligations and responsibilities for the same rewards they had before. You gave them everything without that title and commitment, why should they expect you not to keep doing so for the foreseeable future? 

But if they are uncomfortable and lose that affection that might shake them up enough. 

So while using love spells you might suggest you want more. You will be most-likely met with “I don’t want a commitment right now” or else you’d not be reading. When they say that, you say something to the effect of “Well, if we are just friends, my feelings have really gotten involved and I need to chill out for a bit because I’m getting hurt we aren’t more and I don’t want to ruin our friendship.”

At first they might try and call your bluff while agreeing. Generally a short time thereafter they will call to try to see you. And you have to be strong and tell them you wish you could but your heart gets involved and wants more and you respect that they don’t feel the same, but you don’t want to get hurt so you can’t give yourself to them sexually because your heart gets stuck on them. 

Remember to be casting your love magic all the while. 

This tends to make them uncomfortable. They aren’t continuing to receive that love and affection and meanwhile their heart is exploding and their gonads miss exploding… This should, in a fair amount of situations, bring the desired result of this person offering you something more. The combination of those spells and you not giving yourself should change the situation.

Be careful though. Like I said, people already involved with someone else probably won’t alter that arrangement even if they chase you, so you might not get that exclusive part you’re seeking. 

~Cat