Manifesting Techniques Are Just Lust for Results

Hey Occulties,

I originally wrote this for a client a few weeks ago, but it was pretty well written, so I edited it a bit to make it for everyone.

I think the problem with "manifestation techniques," is that they are often so very wrong if one understand's the law of attraction well, and some of this can be that manifestation techniques often are paired with positive-thinking/affirmations type psychology made popular in the 1970's and even 1980's, which, while I'm certain it is helpful to some people's mental health, is not at all helpful when it comes to the law of attraction, which is basically like physics for magic and manifesting (I'd argue it is more complex than a single law but it all falls under the banner of law of attraction as a general term, so let's stick with it). So, sometimes people say something that being as I understand the law of attraction quite well would sound a bit like this "If I shove your house really hard, it will shove me back really hard, and I'll fall down, and charge your house with assault! It's physics!"

Sigh. 

Of course we know there is an equal and opposite reaction to our actions, so now I suppose that person really misunderstood physics, because the equal and opposite reaction does not mean the wall shoves you back. If you don't believe me, go punch a brick wall and tell me if it punched you back. Drop a pebble into a bucket of water and let me know if it bounces out and hits you in the hand you dropped it from.

So, many manifesting books are really bad because they don't really understand the law of attraction, and they also seem to really try to mutate it to something that might half work at times too…but shows the person doesn't understand the law of attraction (or just think it answers to them…which no, even the best of us must work with the law of attraction to have it benefit us.) But they contain some psychology, and this can be very helpful for some people who really might improve their state of mind if they just had some optimism and hope injected into their lives (the mildly depressed? idk, I'm sure some group was helped.)

And look, I know people who swear by manifestation techniques, and that's fine. I respect you feel that way, but I do not share in that with you and not least of all because I haven't seen any good examples of it having worked, and I can see many reasons it would not work. Maybe you're some grand-master manifester, and I'm just that weird hoodoo lady who sees it another way…but I did not come to my opinion without a lot of magic experience and reading, and study, and practice, so…

Without my forcing anyone to have to take a bong rip to understand what I am about to say, I'll try to make this as simple as I can….but it may be a little bit weird, so please bear with me. First, you need to realize that POSITIVE is the wrong word when we talk about attracting a thing. When we think of things which are positive, we think of things which are generally pleasant, good, or enjoyable. NEGATIVE is equally wrong, as we tend to think of negative as being scary, unpleasant, evil, that makes us angry, or sick. In magic, and by extension manifesting, that a thing is pleasant or unpleasant may really have fuckall to do with bringing it to you, or into being, OR removing it from your life etc. So instead you must concern yourself with "attracting" and "repulsing" and "stagnating" and "keeping stable." 

This is why some people have a hard time cursing for example. They try to bring a curse into being when the moon is waning because they think they want NEGATIVE ENERGY. While it can work that it can take from the target, (it really depends on the structure of the spell,) if you're using lunar correspondences, you may actually want to use the first quarter (which is waxing,) to GROW that curse. Just because it's for something dark, that doesn't mean you want NEGATIVE energy. 

Again – remove the words negative and positive, as you will conflate them with "bad" and "good," when what you need to keep in mind is replacing "positive" with attracting/growing or "negative" with repulsing/removing

And here is where it gets very weird:

When you think of your journey through life, it's almost as if you should see this as a giant river. I'm not even sure we can see across it, because it's quite large. As three dimensional creatures, we can perceive time, but only in a straight line, so the river's motion forwards is our motion forward through time. On this river you can see things you want and people you wish to stay with who want your company too, and all things are flowing down this river. Sometimes we see something ahead of us and we seek to bring this to us, so we use attracting energy. Other times we see something we do not want, and we must push this away with repulsing energy. 

You know, it's a bit like the very old original Super Mario games where you must go forward and miss all the obstacles and get all the coins or lives or whatever. If you aren't as decrepit as me, you may not get that reference, haha.

However what many people miss is that fear is actually a very potent attraction energy. No one wishes to be afraid. It is very unpleasant. And yet, fear attracts what we fear. As we float down our figurative river of life, we glimpse things we fear, and many of us get scared and drive those things right to us.

What's more, and perhaps on a slightly different tangent, but that which we fear, we give power to, – so if we worry about a rival for someone's affections, our fear that the rival may win our intended's heart actually gives that rival more power to do so. 

But I don't see any of those manifesting books saying that you should be terrified of things most of us want like a loving partner, and a secure income, and a safe home, and financial security. Well, that wouldn't get reader's and supporters if they did. No one would enjoy the very unpleasant outcome of drawing things into your life that you're legitimately terrified of, even if those things were in reality beneficial. Instead they suggest something so wrong…

Planning the path for your desired manifestation.

And don't ask me why, but we as humans believe we are smarter than anything, and we've enjoyed being pretty fucking smart (maybe too smart for many organism's liking,) for some time now, but we sure as hell are terrible at finding the path of least resistance for something to manifest by theorizing exactly how it will go. In fact, it's at least 9 times out of 10 that we don't even find the 10,000th easiest way for the thing we want to manifest to actually manifest. 

In our minds, we think we are really just plotting out likely events. But on our river of energy, we are pushing away key events that could bring our desired outcome much faster by imagining events that won't happen exactly as we have them in our mind. Now, to make this even worse, we may be attracting the desired outcome, whilst also repelling it which can lessen the benefit it has. Think of these fantasy events as creating a sort of forcefield or buffer. If we'd properly done a spell and then released it and thought as little of the people involved or desired outcome as possible, while taking on the idea what was requested is already ours (think a bit like ordering off of Amazon – you paid for it, and it just needs to arrive, so once you did pay, you already thought of it as yours…very similar,) we would have what we wanted. The person who has to plot this course forgets that every event they plot now has to happen to make the spell work – at least that's actually what you're (unintentionally or intentionally) attempting to manifest. That means every imagined and likely unnecessary, and even possibly impossible step that they drew out in their minds. What ends up happening is energy keeps being drained out trying to create an unnecessary (or even unlikely or impossible,) event that isnt even relevant to desired end outcome happening and until those events happen as planned, you actually repel the ultimate outcome to some degree. 

I talk a lot about "dream girl," the girl who I worked for when I first started out who came to me asking to return an ex. I did my thing, but at least 2-3 times a week she'd go on about was he dreaming about her. I said that I didn't know. Anyhow, he returned to her, and a day or two after he was reported as back to being her boyfriend, I get an angry nonsensical email about how I failed and my spell was crap because even though he got back together with her (him getting back together with her romantically being what she'd requested,) he had not dreamed about her and she knew because she asked. He'd said he didn't really remember his dreams, but he didn't think so, no. Well, I told her she paid me to bring him back, and if he didn't remember his dreams, he'd never go back to her based on dreams….but she stubbornly swore that because he'd not dreamed about her, I'd failed. 

It was actually that she had a very failing theory about why he would come back to her. 

Now imagine you are in her shoes and want your ex back. I'm sure you think you know why they aren't coming around, and most of the time you only have a little bit right about what you suspect. It doesn't help that you, quite necessarily for your own survival, think like YOU think, which doesn't mean you think like your ex. The person who reasons how you reason is you…many of us will have dissimilar patterns of reasoning to yours. It is why we are all our own different people. And to add insult to injury, if you're calculating everything (very common in a love-magic situation,) and trying to glean little clues if it's going your way or not (common and very bad for manifestation), your little busy thoughts all over that active spell are scattering it's energy…. A-type personalities often don't do well in magic as they want to know if every trivial thing "is something" so they can plot ahead just a bit to what they should expect next. 

Look, I'm not telling you everything is a blind leap of faith…it's more like relax and learn to cross a proverbial bridge when you come to it, and roll with the punches. If something seems bad (and sometimes it will,) learn to let it go. I'll have people give themselves full scale meltdowns about a "distant partner" who "must be with someone else" or "losing interest," only for the client to find out the person's schedule at their job suddenly went haywire when 2 people quit (for example,) and so they were overtired and overtaxed for a few weeks for it (and didn't want to burden my client with their complaints.) What's truly scary there is trying to prevent this person from upending their own work because they are so sure this behavior is entirely about them or about something disastrous for them before the partner tells them what's happening themselves. If you've ever tried to talk someone off a ledge because someone didn't answer their text fast enough or because someone wasn't flirty immediately (for reasons having fuck and all to do with the person complaining on it,) I don't recommend experiencing it. I can only liken it to a more coherent toddler who's angry and having a full scale meltdown over that they can't go out in the snow because it's summer.

But you see, when we need to plot and plan, we get very angry when things do not exactly follow our plan. And life doesn't fucking care about your plan. Magic only does insofar as you want to run out the energy you put in by seeing if it can manifest your way (and it generally won't,) then trying to go back to the path of least resistance. AND YOU by making this treasure map have lessened it's energy by sending it down multiple wrong pathways with your plotting and theorizing. 

And it comes back to the Turkey Sandwich Theory I have explained before. Let's say we both want a turkey sandwich with cheese, mayo, lettuce, tomato, and onion. We stop at a restaurant that looks to sell sandwiches and I order just that "Turkey sandwich with cheese, mayo, lettuce, tomato, and onion," and you order at another table or with another server something like this "I would freshly sliced turkey, but it must come from a male turkey who was locally raised and processed and allowed to free range, and sliced today, and you have to have cooked the turkey yourself. Also I only want romaine lettuce, and tomatoes which were grown within a mile of the restaurant. You must make your own mayo every morning before the sun rises, – and I will not ingest it if it is a day old – and the onion cannot be presliced. You must slice it yourself right before placing it on the sandwich. Also I need rye bread which is baked today, and the cheese must be lorraine swiss which has been imported from the Lorraine region. I will not take regular swiss." So, I get my sandwich very quickly. You may not get one at all. You had too many instructions and too many obstacles, when really, if you'd ordered the same thing as me, you'd be eating pretty happily. 

People who have to know the exact route of manifestation and dictate it, – that's what they get…a lot longer of a manifestation phase, and maybe nothing at all. And for the same reason above – you wanted a turkey sandwich (whatever you spellcast for) but instead you had to get in the way and make some pretty exhaustive and exacting requests and now no restaurant will fill your order as it stands because it's too complicated (you had to dictate the how and why a thing would manifest so now it won't manifest.) 

So, that begs the question as to why manifesting books often contain instructions like a treasure map to what you want if they are really about getting that through manifestation. That some people do OK if they can make little goals for themselves to reach a larger goal is very much true, – focusing on steps makes a formidable task become doable… problem being, you need to focus on each step and if your spellwork is focused on a bigger goal, you now need to make the end goal of that spell the only step. It's like some of you are trying to walk up a set of steps you removed since your end goal when you cast the spell or had it cast was a goal much farther than your planned steps to get there. 

That's unintentionally confusing but think of it like "dream girl" wanted her ex back. This is the only step I made. Bring ex back to this person. He returned. She would have had me make him dream of her (he didn't remember his dreams,) which I may have succeeded at but it still would never have been the catalyst for them getting together. However if she NEEDED that step (clearly she felt she did,) she should have had me cast a spell to make him dream of her, plus also the spell where I successfully brought him back. That's 2 spells though. So, most of us would just remove the unnecessary step (dreams) and be happy with having the partner back. 

This is sometimes easier explained by something that REQUIRES OBVIOUS STEPS BE TAKEN. If you don't have a high school degree, doing a spell to become a surgeon will be pointless. You will need to do work to obtain the necessary degrees (and attend all the classes, and graduate,) because magic can't create a degree you never earn. In fact, if you don't have a medical degree (or a high school degree,) the only way i know for you to get a medical degree overnight is to have a forger create a fake one for you. 

But when it comes to romance, if you're trying to get your ex back, him or her making contact for the first time isn't the end goal, – it may be positive progress if it happens, but they may never break the ice that way. You might run into them somewhere instead of getting a text. You might never talk out your deep feelings…maybe you left them as your emergency contact and went to the ER unconscious and they realized you mean the world to them…or maybe they do text to ask you if you can tell them the name of the Chinese food place you always order from and end up talking things out. Either way…you didn't put in an order for that part. You put an order into the universe for your ex to get back. So the contact part? I don't know, and I don't recommend trying to figure it out. I just trust they will make contact and things generally will move forwards from there. But that contact? That's not really a step because we often don't order that step. 

And the more we fuss and fume and social media stalk and worry and fantasize…well, the more we jam our progress on getting what we want. Focusing bitter feelings because you think so and so moved on pushes off the outcome. Fixating on that someone followed or liked or heart reacted on someone else's social media? Not only are you literally the picture of an obsessed stalker (so not sexy,) you are the poster child for lust for results. 

I go over fail dates (if I don't get x by y date, the spell failed merely manifests failure on that day,) enough that I won't go into it right now… Because if I could just get people to cast a spell and clear their mind of it, I wouldn't keep having this conversation. Manifesting techniques don't work. They don't apply the right type of energy or emotion to drawing things to you. The best I can describe it is you need to accept that you already have what you requested, it just isn't here yet, and then let that "not here yet" part go. It's like ordering something through the mail. If you have to anxiously check it's progress the whole way, though, unlike the mail, you're going to delay it. AND that's assuming you take the mindset what you want is yours. That's easier said than done. It isn't how you'll feel when you first have it. That's manifesting something more transitive. It's more like…well, how do you feel when you've calmed down and accepted you're with the person you want. 

Let's say I give you a brand new car in some model you've always wanted all for free. The day I give it to you, you're going to be beyond stoked. Even a week or so later, you're probably going to be like "FUCK YA MOTHAFUCKAZZZ!" What about six months later? At this point, you no doubt are happy with your car, but you aren't ecstatic like you were, right? That's where you want to put your mindset at when spellcasting. The part where you've gotten past the excitement. 

And manifesting techniques and magic books often don't explain that.

So…to sum it up, because it's me running on tangents all over, what have we learned?

That we are bad with knowing how or why a thing will manifest, and that trying to sleuth and theorize how it will actually harms our spell's energy and impedes manifestation (even if just using manifestation techniques,) 

That we tend to repulse and push things off by engaging in fantasizing and theorizing

That spying on our targets and frequently ruminating on the situation and people involved actually delays manifestation or kills our spells altogether in some situations

That we need to send out what we want and not dictate how we get it

That the universe gives no fucks about our plans and that our plans and preconceived ideas on how something will happen are often wrong

And that we need to take the mindset what we have asked for is already ours, it just has not arrived yet. 

Hopefully this was sensible enough for everyone to understand. 🙂

~Cat