Softening up an Alienated or Angry Reconciliation Target

Hey Occulties,

So, as I said in this article, there is such a thing as pushing someone too far with your behavior, and this article and the one I'd linked previously may have arrived too late for a few of my hopeful readers. However, it never hurts to at least try to fix things up, right? 😀

So, first thing's first – remember, most people – the human race, in general, that is, – do not like to admit fault for their behaviors, even to themselves, and often project blame on to anyone but themselves for their problems. So, this is why your buddy is cussing out the "stupid electric company" when he has his lights shut off for not paying his bill, or why someone else you know is raging about his "piece of shit car" that broke down because he didn't change the oil for 2 years. This often holds true in relationships as well. Your friend says his girlfriend is selfish and crazy when she pays all his bills but couldn't lend him $20, or your other friend says she can't believe what a pigsty her house is, when her boyfriend does all of the cleaning and cooking and works full-time, but she works part time and never cleans a thing. This is an obvious deflection of blame, but it happens in more subtle ways, too… So if you have a reconciliation target that you feel is angry or alienated towards you, and you can't really fathom why they would be, take a moment to consider your own behavior. I am not suggesting anyone reading is necessarily the party which caused the rift, but it never hurts to consider these actions so that when things start to improve between you two, it doesn't get all messed up again right away. We're all dicks to someone without realizing it sometimes. 

Alright, so whatever the cause of the anger in your target – deserved or not, – this spell is designed to calm them as well as to soften and sweeten them for you. The targets which will show results the fastest are going to be people you are still on speaking terms with and/or who you see often. If this person is giving you the silent treatment, it will take longer for them to show you that they've softened towards you. DO NOT AGGRAVATE THE TARGET WITH UNWANTED CONTACT OR EMOTIONAL DIATRIBES WHILE USING THIS SPELL. 

You will need:
A personal item belonging to the target (blood is best, but hair, fingernail or toenail clippings, fabric from worn and unwashed underwear, or even a used napkin can be used,)
A glass jar
Sugarcubes
Granulated sugar
Pink rose petals (dried preferably)
Balm of Gilead buds
Poppy seed
Sweetener (honey or Karo syrup work well,)
A double boiler (if you have it – if not you can use a saucepan)
A piece of brown paper bag with all edges torn off 
A permanent marker or ball point pen (I suggest green ink, but black will do)
A pink candle
Pink or white tea light candles
Tranquility oil
Love Me oil
Reconciliation oil
A fireproof container like a cake tin or pie plate
A candle holder or sand (like traction sand)

This spell starts like a basic candle magic spell. The majority of my readers are familiar with simple candle magic, and so this first part of the spell should not be difficult for those of you who have done a few simple candle burning rituals. 

Mix the herbal ingredients and the granulated sugar in a bowl or with a mortar and pestle (do not use the sweetener or sugar cubes yet,) in about equal parts. Hold your power (writing) hand over the mixture, and try to envision your target approaching you with a sweet and tender countenance while sending pink and white energy into the herbs as you say "(Full name of target,) your anger and resentment abates and is replaced with sweetness, love, and compassion," seven times. If you don't feel you can send energy, just try to keep an image of your target in mind while saying the chant. Sometimes it is easier if you keep an image of the target where you can see him or her as you do this, so feel free to place an image of this person nearby. 

Write out your name paper with the target's name written seven times like this:
John Smith
John Smith
John Smith
John Smith
John Smith
John Smith
John Smith
And cross this with the command "(Name of target,) feel only love, sweetness, express only kindness and compassion for (name of petitioner)," written seven times in the same fashion. We've been over name papers before, but "crossing" means you turn the paper so the names are running vertical and write the commend horizontally, making a "grid" out of your command and your target's name. Spit in the center of the paper, place your personal item into the center, and fold towards you. Now turn the paper, and fold towards you again, to quarter the paper. 

Now take your pink candle and if this is a taper candle, carve the command "(Name of target,) feel only love, sweetness, express only kindness and compassion for (name of petitioner)," up one side (up is base to wick) with a nail, pin, or sharp implement. If you're using a glass encased candle, you can write this up one side with a sharpie. If you are using a figural candle (not recommended) set it as I have instructed previously, and if using a tea light (not recommended,) do not carve anything at all. Place 1-3 drops of each oil in your right hand and anoint the candle from base to wick with seven pulls UP (base to wick,) if using a taper or figural. Puncture 5 holes in the top of a glass encased candle and try to get 1-2 drops of each oil in each hole. If using a tea light, place a few drops of oil on your right index finger and then draw this over the top of the candle in a clockwise motion. Now, hold the candle in both hands and try to envision your target coming to you with a sweet and tender countenance as you say "(Full name of target,) your anger and resentment abates and is replaced with sweetness, love, and compassion," seven times. Roll the candle in the herbal mixture (or sprinkle a little on top for tea lights and glass encased lights. 

Now you will need your name paper after this – unburnt and unsoiled. This means you need to place it beneath sand under a free standing candle, or you need to place it under your pie plate all together, or you need to use a FIREPROOF candleholder (brass ones work well, which covers the paper. I advocate the use of sand as it is fireproof AND if you're using a candle holder it offers further heat protection to surfaces. Please always use proper caution and firesafety. When I use glass-encased candles I actually use large coffee cans, place a bit of sand in the bottom, put the name paper in, then place the candle in on top, and then I place sand around it to the lip of the can. Since the candle has to burn out all the way, please practice caution. 🙂

Okay, so assuming everything is in position on the altar, light the candle, and holding both hands on either side of it, try to envision your target in your mind's eye, again coming to you with an expression of love and compassion, while trying to send pink and white energy into the candle and, keeping this in your mind's eye, say "(Name of target,) love me, forgive me, feel calmness and tranquility. Only peace and love and kindness between us both. You feel sweetness and warmth and desire me over all others. As is my will, so be it!" Allow the candle to burn out.

When it has done so, remove the name paper (taking care not to let the witness sample fall out,) and dispose of the rest (honestly, I throw the sand outside, and I chuck the wax in the trash. You can save the reusable items like your pie plate, or candle holder, heh.)

Now the reason I LOVE permanent marker, is I mark my sugar cubes for this next part, but you don't have to. I put the target's initials on the sugar cubes. 🙂 You will need SEVEN sugar cubes, and anoint two with Tranquility oil (just put a drop or two of oil on it,) two with Love Me oil, and 2 with Reconciliation, then the final one with one drop of each oil. As you anoint these say "(Name of target,) feel only love, sweetness, express only kindness and compassion for (name of petitioner)," each time you anoint one, and set these aside. Using a double boiler, place about a cup and a half of water and a cup and a half of sweetener (you will want to make enough to fill your jar, so your mileage may vary) on your stove and over a very very low heat, begin to slowly heat your mixture, sprinkling in some of your herbal mixtures (just a pinch,) seven times and saying "(Name of target,) feel only love, sweetness, express only kindness and compassion for (name of petitioner,)" each time you add a pinch. Make sure you are warming this slowly – it should not get super hot, or even boil. Stir this clockwise after you add each pinch of herbal mixture and try to keep an image of your target in your mind's eye. Now, add your cubes one by one, saying "(Name of target,) your hard heart melts for me (or petitioner), and you are filled with sweetness and love for only me," as you add each cube. Keep stirring. 😉 Once your cubes have melted, turn off the heat. Place your name paper and about a half a cup of sugar into your jar. Add the warm mixture to your jar. Seal the jar. Now light a tea light on top of the jar and say, "Warmth and sweetness (name of target) feels towards me, all anger and hurt now is released. Love and kindness and compassion within you swells, only sweetness and love for me by this spell! As is my will, so be it!" Allow the tea light to burn out. Repeat the burning of the tealight and the chant you used when lighting the tea light (after making the jar,) each time you light a new one each monday, Wednesday, and Friday until the target has softened and is kind and sweet towards you.

I'm sure there will be questions (there always are) or found typos (there always are,) so you know where to find me.

Happy Spellcastin!

~Cat

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