Cat’s Rants: Confessions of an Occult Mastermind

Mercury, retrograding all over me again

November 11, 2019

Hey everyone,

After last week and being around only in the evenings, I have a bit of an email mess to clear up. It seems I dropped a few threads last week with the weird schedule I was on. 😦 I'll be here all day, replying to old stuff and recent stuff, so I am NOT taking the day off (despite it being a holiday,) BUT, I do ask you to NOT RESEND anything unless I do not reply to it today. Thanks for understanding. I just need to find a few dropped threads and make sure everyone is up to date. 🙂

Yes, I'm taking new business. No problems there. 🙂

~C
Yes, Mercury Retrograde Is Good For Something

November 2, 2019

Hey Occulties,

I realize it gets a bad rap, but Mercury retrograde does have its positive sides. See, retrogrades are a great time to review, renew, and re-establish things in our lives that correspond to the retrograding planet. So, for example, if Venus is retrograding, people often find themselves running into a lot of their exes. 😉 As Mercury rules communication (among many other things,) this is actually a fabulous time to use communication spellwork to re-establish communication with a party we have lost contact with (or are currently on the outs with.)

I’m going to post a communication spell today or tomorrow for just that reason. 🙂

I’m also going to have a questions you’ve asked me post coming up in the next few days, so if you’ve had a pressing question you’d like me to answer, contact me. 🙂

Anyhow, enjoy the last Mercury retrograde of the year (Oct 31-Nov 20, 2019.)

~Cat
Q&A: What sort of magical stuff goes on with Halloween?

October 24, 2019

Hey occulties,

Since I get this virtually every year, today I'm going to discuss the "magical provenance of Halloween." Let me smoosh this into a generic question (I've had SOOOO MANY of the same question for this every year, that I may as well,) and get discussing the topic.

Q: Is Halloween/Samhain like a super special day for magic or spirits or ghosts or something like that? Are there special rituals that I can do?

A: Samhain is a harvest festival….think of it a bit more like a combination of modern Halloween and Canada and the USA's "Thanksgiving." It would basically mark the time where animals where slaughtered, and fields harvested (thus a feast,) to the cold part of the year where everything became "dead and dormant" until the winter solstice. So, this was the time that ancient people felt that veil between the living and the dead was at it's thinnest (you're culling your fields and animals, so there is a lot of other death going on, it's getting dark, and if you're having a big feast, you need to get your dead ancestors in on that, to honor them…so it makes sense that "death" and "dead" are a big part of this harvest festival.) This is kind of an armchair historian summary for you, so feel free to check out the Wikipedia for more info. Modern Halloween celebrations are also based on the Catholic "Day of the dead," – a day to honor all souls who are departed.

But, let's digress a bit here…. The timing of this holiday has far more to do with what is going on in the field in the NORTHERN HEMISPHERE, than it would in, say, Australia. 😉 This is true of a lot of angloid/western holidays. The placement of Christmas on the calendar is actually based on the rebirth of the sun (winter solstice,) as Christ was probably born in September.

So why is this important? Well, magically speaking, our ancient forebears actually would have based when the veil between the living and the dead is thinnest, or when a fertility festival, or a celebration of the sun's rebirth, or etc is best placed by the SEASONS and CONDITIONS OF THE EARTH AROUND THEM. In modern times, we attach certain energies to the seasons, definitely, by collectively celebrating holidays to mark these times of year which carry certain elements (I have annoyed more than one of you by telling you how my Australian grandma would say "Feels just like Christmas!" in July) but in a proper magical/spiritual sense, I would say the value of the time of year has more to do with the seasons and the earth itself. Hopefully, I am making sense…so right now, in Australia, you aren't harvesting your fields and culling your livestock, whereas herein the USA, the end of the growing season is upon us. This means if the veil between the living and the dead being "thinnest," – in the spiritual sense, – is likely happening where the growing season is OVER.

What does that have to do with spells and magic and stuff? Well, it means that if you wanted to celebrate the holiday or plan special rituals, that, while it's always awesome to honor your dead ancestors (which is part of the basis of Samhain,) that it might, depending on your global location not really be the time when the "veil is the thinnest" between the living and the dead.

Also, if you're not really a spiritual person, why are you celebrating a spiritual holiday? Some people just like Halloween because they want to dress up as a pirate and drink a lot. If you don't belong to a religion that celebrates Halloween or Samhain, there really isn't anything wrong with that. In the USA, I celebrate the signing of the declaration of Independence with beer and fireworks and barbecues. I don't expect people in the Ukraine to celebrate that holiday, as they aren't from the USA. So, if your religion doesn't have All Souls Day/Day of the Dead or Samhain in it, don't worry about celebrating it as a religious holiday.

Can you do anything magical? Well, if you're in the Northern Hemisphere, now is the time to do some ancestor work. :)

Hopefully that cleared some stuff up and didn't tick off too many people. 😉

~Cat
Spell to Make Someone Unappealing to Others

October 22, 2019

Hey Occulties,

I have a confession to make. I have a really awesome Saturnian binding in my drafts folder. I've been wanting to post it basically since the same day I posted last… 😦 I really want to share it, but am then impeded by people who would think it's about them (because basically it involves people who violate contracts, and I've had 2-3 people get rotten about my hosting woes in the last few weeks.) I am tired of leaving you without anything, so let's just try a different spell article so I don't terrify people who, quite frankly, I probably should, but am not going to because I'm not really that mean. Also, blah blah blah, terms of service, blah blah blah, things people agree to, and blah blah disclaimer that I am not responsible for issues caused by my hosting provider so stop acting like I run Web.com (I don't) and am a crappy hosting service like them in an effort to annoy you, blah blah. 😉

Speaking of moving hosts… Considering that Mercury Retrograde is incoming very quickly, I am working super fast to get the business site ready for you ASAP. The blog is hosted by someone else so do not worry that it will move or change. :)

However, given the season, perhaps we could still talk about something dark or "scary" and not the usual love stuff… In fact, let's try something people often tell me that they really want after dating a real churl of a person. It's not a nice spell – it is, in fact, somewhat childish, really, – but you might feel better when you're done. :)

You will need a personal item for this – preferably clothing or hair. I REALLY REALLY love using old clothes, like…if they left a sock or some underwear there, this is going to be awesome. Why? Because they're going to smell. People ask me "Does this work on images?" I don't really believe so. If you went on one crappy Tinder date with someone and all you can do is get their image, I really don't think you'll have much luck. My experience is that you want something they have worn, or some hair (especially if they have long hair) for this to have a real impact. So…perhaps try a different curse for someone who you only have an image of – it would work better than this.

You will need (eco-minded suggestions at asterisk):
A used, unwashed item of clothing from the target (or hair if they have long hair) or a PIECE of worn, unwashed clothing if the original item is too large.
A gallon, zip freezer bag, or for my eco-conscious readers (I LOVE YOU) a waxed paper container that can easily hold your clothing item*
A cardboard shoe box**
A pin
A drinking straw or hollow reed/bamboo
Old meat
Broccoli
Old bread
A piece of potato
A permanent marker
Optional: black thread
Optional: active yeast
Other optional directions***

OK, so basically here what we're doing is where going to be making something to represent your target out of their own clothing. If you've chosen hair, please sew a small bag out of 100% cotton cloth (or similar,) in it's place. You don't need any grand sewing ability. The marker is used to inscribe this person's name on the item, so do that now.

You start by holding the item belonging to the target in your right hand and say "(Full name of target,) this represents you, as it still holds your essence, and shall continue to represent you so long as I say or until it rots away." Repeat this a total of 9 times. Now stuff the food items (and the yeast if you have it,) into the clothing item. While you can just "fold this over," I like to use black thread to stitch it shut with NINE black X's.

Now, hold the item in your hands and envision your target giving off the most noxious rotting smell that you can think of. See in your minds eye people turning away in disgust and even vomiting as your target walks by. Keeping this in your mind's eye, say "(Name of target, the stench of rot and stink follows you. As that within this piece of your clothes" (if you are using hair, put the hair into the bag with these items and say "within this bag,") "rots and writhes and molders and turns to slime, so does your body stink with this odor. Every stench that issues from within this fabric container is expelled through your skin!" repeat this command a total of NINE TIMES, then say "As is my will, so be it!"

Place this item into the bag (or into a relatively air-tight container), and then using your pin, poke small holes into the bag to allow air (but to prevent most insects) into the item. This will allow the rot to really fester and churn. Place this into your box, making sure the box is also ventilated and poking a large hole to allow a straw to remain above the surface once you have buried the item.

The item should be buried in a place where the target is likely to pass near by to. It tends to be successful even if you can't manage that, but it really takes off with proximity. Bury it so the top of the straw or reed is exposed to air. As the items inside mold and rot, the target will begin to emit horrible odors. So, if your ex is off trying to charm others, the smell of them should soon make almost any prospective date want to leave as soon as possible. The item can be dug up and dismantled to either 1.) ensure you're not leaving bad things in the earth that can't biodegrade, or 2.) because you are done bothering this person. To stop them from "stinking" so much, try to peel the clothing item from the rotting food and give the clothing a quick rinse with holy water. Then dispose of all items in the trash.

Happy Hexing!

~Cat

*Throughout this spell, you are probably going to be really sad if the idea of burying plastic you won't retrieve weighs heavily on your mind. Do not despair. While, for starters, you can dig all of this up at any time (and I encourage it if you use plastic, because plastic sucks,) I write this for a wide audience who would, frankly, be overwhelmed by doing this in an eco-conscious manner. So, basically what we are looking for with the plastic bag is to create a more or less waterproof, insect proof container. You could do something similar with WAXED PAPER, though it will take some elbow grease and also probably some glue. 😉 Create a wax paper bag of about a gallon. OR use a non-rapidly biodegradable container, and put small holes which are UNLIKELY TO ALLOW most insects in. LINING the whole of the box with waxed paper is probably just fine, making sure the base is WELL COVERED and unlikely to leak. Use a hollow reed or bamboo instead of a straw. Even a waxed paper straw will do. I had someone do this in an old metal pot and didn't bury it but left it in the garage. When it got cold and it froze, she threw the whole pot (with lid!) out after ~2 months of making it. You could do that, too, but the stink is terrible. Remember, many clothing items are NOT FULLY BIODEGRADABLE. The simplest method to use seems to be to make a waxed-paper bag and place the items into this and then into a cardboard shoebox, and then you would only be "littering" the burial of a clothing item which may not be biodegradable by allowing the item to biodegrade and not retrieving it.

**Both bag and box can be replaced with a wooden cigar box where you have waxed the bottom and drilled very small holes in the top, or bored a large hole and covered it with mosquito wire.

***Burial, as I said above, isn't necessary, but the smell gets REALLY BAD. In fact, in the warmest months, it can REEEEEEEK. Oxygen helps the food decay. If you can keep it "bug free" as long as possible, it will last longer. However, for the sake of argument, let's just say, you want to try going after someone for a week. Make the cloth part, stuff with food, and wrap it in newspaper. Then send it off to the dump. OR use a paper lunch bag – and again, throw this somewhere where it will have at least a few weeks before incineration. Let it fester in an old cooler you leave in the garage (make sure you can remove it) and then throw it away in the trash. Get creative. The idea is let the rotting food stink up the hair or clothing. If you're wondering, yes, it does tend to effect the part of the body which uses the item of clothing you're using. So underwear gives a stinky crotch. Socks make feet smell like vomit and old diapers. Hair makes hair stink. The containers like boxes and bags here are for YOU to be able to avoid the stench while also maximizing how long the item has to rot before it dessicates entirely. Be creative. I believe in you. :)
Something Funny Before I Post A Spell… :)

October 14, 2019

I did not make this image, but damn, it is awesome. 🙂
Why Would Someone Feel Like A Spell Cast On Someone Else is Affecting Them?

October 14, 2019

Hey there Occulties,

I know you've missed me writing actual articles about the occult (heh,) instead of having to constantly update you on the suckitude of my hosting provider or the fact that I am once again dealing with that suckitude (well, I'm not today.) So lets get on with today's article, shall we? It's on-topic for a change (although if you want to recommend a hosting service, I am still looking for a new provider.)

A lot of people ask me "Does a spell cast on someone else affect me – like will I become more enamored of this person, or feel more desperate to have them back? Or in the case of a curse, will I also be cursed?"

Well…no, if the spell is cast directly on a person, so that person is the only NAMED TARGET, you should not be worried you will also be impacted, however, cleansing your ritual space, ritual tools, and taking a cleansing bath are always strongly recommended. I think of it a bit like cooking – if I bake cookies day in and day out, but never eat a single one, I will not gain weight for being in the presence of cookies, but I'll still likely smell like one. 😉 Well, similarly, when you do a lot of work on someone (or many someones) there can be a "residue" that builds up. If you do a ton of love-drawing and that is all that you do, that could be enjoyable (because it would draw amorous attention from others,) but if you do a lot of cursing or dark work, it might make you feel like you're having a bit of mild bad luck.

But interesting to note, many people DO cast love spells on themselves. I've said this before, but be careful when casting a love spell and don't make yourself the target if you're already quite in love. 😉 You merely make yourself obsessed. Work ONLY on the target. :)

But what if this isn't the problem? Why do some people feel "more obsessed" and "more emotional," when there is spellwork being done on their behalf (and they aren't the target, or the spellcaster, just the petitioner)? The simple answer is…they know it's being done. Let me assure you, as someone who has done work on people who had not one freaking clue what was being done, while certain types of spells can actually have very physical onset symptoms (curses can cause a flu-like illness or a headache,) love spells generally DO NOT cause a case of nerves, and certainly if your old Auntie Cat went and cast a spell on your behalf without you knowing, you'd not start obsessing more. 😉 AND, I've even had clients report feeling these symptoms BEFORE I EVEN SET THE ALTAR UP TO CAST A SPELL! Obviously, something psychological can be the culprit.

Some years ago, a meatball (or several) tried to give the general public the idea that magic only works if people know about it. This is actually not the polar opposite of the truth, but pretty close. It works best when the least amount of people possible know about it. Like if only the spellcaster knows about it? It's likely to work better. I would not even lie and say it's not possible for people to have a psychological reaction to learning a spell has been cast on them (of course, that is possible,) but if you really want to see what the spell is doing (not someone's psychological reaction to the idea of a spell) then you wouldn't tell the target as is. In fact, telling a target "I cast a spell on you," can be reasonably off-putting and creepy, so it's generally best never to tell a love target such a thing. ;)

Hopefully, this clears up some confusion. 🙂 If not, you can always contact me. 🙂

~Cat
F*** Web.com – UPDATED

September 26, 2019

Can’t reach me? My site missing again? Due to a billing error in which they claimed I charged back my hosting fee (never happened,) Web.com yanked my site. Been on the phone all day, complained to the BBB, and they are trying to “fix” their error, but, man, fck these people! I’m sorry for the inconvenience. 🤬🤬🤬🤦🏼‍♀️

UPDATE: After a day and a half, they still won't admit the error is theirs (um, yeah, I'm sure Bank of America is lying that they never put either a security hold or issued a chargeback,) but all hosting and email services are restored. 😁
St Expedite Communication Spell

September 18, 2019

Hey everyone,

So here I was, writing ANOTHER DAMN ARTICLE on thinking your spellwork to death and other bad things, and I was like "This is taking me forever, because it feels like all I do is write about this stuff." SO, since I've also had a lot of people asking me "is there some easy way to get my target to communicate," I figured, well, this should do. Technically speaking, this is more of a prayer than a spell, but it's easy to do.

You will need:
An orange candle
An Image of St Expedite (or a statue if you have it,)
Tobacco
Attraction oil
Poundcake* (as a reward after St Expedite gets your target to communicate with you.)

Anoint your orange candle UP (base to wick) using your attraction oil, and seven upward strokes. Roll this in your tobacco, and place it in a candle holder or a firesafe container. Place this in front of your image or statue of St Expedite. Light the candle and say:
"Oh Glorious St Expedite, you who grant requests quickly and without fail, hear my request. Have (full name of target) contact me as quickly as possible, either by phone or by text, by writing or by email, that they speak with me however they must, and speak to me as soon as they can. Once I have spoken with (name of target,) I promise to reward you with this poundcake, in gratitude for your help on this matter, and will recommend your help to those in need of it from this day forward. Amen."

Allow the candle to burn out. The person should call very quickly. I STRONGLY recommend you have the poundcake waiting before you start as sometimes he answers your prayers before the candle has even burned out! And BE SURE to give St Expedite his poundcake (place it on a clean dish, and leave it in front of his image for at least a day,) as soon as he answers your prayer. 🙂

Hope that's some help!

~Cat
Labor Day, Shmabor Day

September 1, 2019

Hey Kids,

Normally I would have tomorrow off. Unfortunately for me, I got stuck getting my holiday ruined because sometimes business does that, especially when it involves the availability of space I rent (there is basically one service I do which requires use of a rented space,) which was basically SUPER LIMITED all Summer. 😦 SO, while I WILL NOT BE AVAILABLE tomorrow UNTIL about 6pm, I will be available after that. I won't be enjoying the Labor Day holiday (normally I have this time off,) which is probably fabulous news for my international clients (who are often confounded by these silly secular USA holidays and when they fall – and understandably so, lol,) or for people who just love chatting with me on Monday. ;)

If you want readings, if you want consultations, or for me to start something new, just let me know! I will be available in the evening! 🙂

HOWEVER, if you have the day off, I hope you have a great lovely awesome day off! 🙂 Hopefully it is great weather, and you can enjoy the last little bit of Summer!

~Cat
QYAM: Some Love and Love-Spell Questions You’ve Asked Me

August 15, 2019

Hey Occulties,

Keeping with our love-theme (because my parents 50th anniversary,) let's dig into some love questions you've asked me. Sorry if any of this is review. 🙂

Q: Other than lust for results, what would you say is the biggest "self-made" or "avoidable" problem people run into when trying to reconcile an ex?

A: This would easily be engaging in self-defeating behaviors like being defensive and rude towards a person trying to re-establish a relationship, gossiping about the spell target with mutual friends, arguing with the target, pleading for forgiveness, continually trying to force contact with the target before they are ready to speak (for example, texting this person frequently when they are clearly not making conversation,) over-explaining previous actions in an attempt to make the target understand… I could go on for some time.

This is very simple, really. You want to act as if you're OK with the break up, and you have taken the time apart to come to terms with the break. This means you would not be acting nervous, rude, or angry. You might be pleasantly surprised when the ex makes contact. Gossip is always a bad idea and always gets back to the spell target.

Q: If I want a person I have never properly met (but have seen a few times) who's name I do not know, but who could easily get to know me, is there a spell for this?

A: I would recommend in this instance to work attraction magic on yourself. Let's assume, for argument's sake, that this person lives near you or visits the same places you do in a social setting. This is NOT just someone you met once in passing, but a person you have seen a handful of times. If you work attraction magic, you can be specific (example: "Draw to me a handsome man with green eyes, and dark hair, and have him be a man who dresses well,") so this should draw the desired party to you (as the description would match the desired party), in which case, if you feel more work is needed after getting to know them a lot better you would have a lot more information about them (including their name, ha) by having used attraction magic to get their attention turned on you. 🙂 Be sure when you meet them via the use of attraction magic that they are available and even your type before you start working love-drawing magic. Just because you found them sexy doesn't mean your personalities are compatible, or that they are even single. I can think of a few instances where someone "knew" a prospective target because they visited a store this person worked at, and the person they desired was polite to them. If you really know little else but a name and that they are polite to you, you probably want to get to know them more before you try working love-drawing-spells.

Q: Help! I'm in a "friends-with-benefits" situation! My ex came back, but I started sleeping with him/her, and now he/she doesn't want to go back to having a relationship with "strings attached." What do I do!?

A: This happens a lot – whether or not this person is an ex or a new squeeze. 😛 See, if someone can have the relationship WITHOUT the strings attached, and you've let that go on, they aren't going to be in any hurry to put up with additional rules. I'm going to assume (perhaps wrongly) that you've already discussed with this person that you would like more than to be "FWB" with them, and they replied that they wanted to keep things as-is, with no strings attached. If you haven't, please say this before the next step. 😉 So, the next time this person propositions you for sex, say you need to take a break from that for awhile, because every time you have sex with them, you get feelings for them, and it's hurtful for you that they don't feel the same way. Say that you realize this is all you, and you just think it would be better to keep sex out of the friendship for awhile until you can get over this (since they have said they don't return those feelings,) but that you'd like to keep the friendship going. It's a risk, but you're going to want to take it.

If you ARE NOT casting spells when you do this, this very well may clear up exactly what this "friendship" is about. If they just wanted you for sex, don't expect to hear from them. Maybe they will try to get you to sleep with them once or twice but they won't be "friendly." If they are truly on the wire about having a relationship with you, they will keep up with the friendship, attempting to flirt and see if you still want them here and there. If they really did care, they should capitulate and give you more after awhile.

If you ARE casting spells when you do this, it's a matter of continuing to assure them that you care for them very much and want to stay friends but that if they do not want more than a friendship, you can't have sex with them because your feelings get involved, and it hurts that they don't want more. They will cave in and give you what you want.

Q: The person I am dating is (too-"vanilla"-or-boring/too-kinky) in the bedroom, and I'm the opposite! Is there a spell to help with this?

A: Yes and no. To be fair, you should respect what your partner is "into" and his or her boundaries. Some people find sex toys repulsive, even if they will let you do some crazy positions or even have a threesome. Some people want bondage, other people find that distasteful. Sometimes someone wants you to do something to them which is absolutely a turn off to you. A lot of this is communication, and again, not trying to pressure someone into doing something they find uncomfortable or undesirable. If your girlfriend doesn't like vibrators, don't buy her one, and don't insist one comes into play. If your partner loves sexy underthings and you find them humiliating or off putting, let your partner know. Not everyone is going to be sexually compatible, though time and experience will often make it so your partner is more willing to perform or engage in sexual practices which they initially balked at. I will say not everyone is into sex toys (several people find them revolting – regardless of who they are used on,) not everyone wants multiple partners (asking for a threesome can be hugely insulting to certain people,) and not everyone likes butt stuff (giving or receiving or both,) – be careful about approaching all three. Don't expect someone to change their mind if they were against that stuff when you met. Pressuring them will not improve your sex life. As for bondage – if you are deeply into BDSM, and your partner clearly isn't, you will want to find one who is. Most people will eventually agree to something light like being held down or etc, but hardcore BDSM tends to be a niche group.

So, will you make someone who isn't into your kinks get into your kinks? It never hurts to speak about fantasies you both have, and to see where exploration might lead you, but no, I don't think you will make someone who is really against certain kinks suddenly get into them. Where I do feel magic is helpful is making someone who is "low sexed" (that is, has a low-libido, or isn't hugely interested in sex,) approach you more for sex, so that is, raise the libido. Often when you are having more sex, you will be having "more interesting sex." This might not mean that they will want you to tie them up while you sexually please them wearing a gimp suit (ha,) but if they are only making love in missionary position, you might find them more willing to make love to you in different positions like doggie style or etc., as well as more foreplay before the actual sexual encounter should occur. It might not be all that you need, but sexual compatibility is important in a relationship. If someone is hugely incompatible to your needs, you probably should find a partner who can give you at least the bare minimum of what you need. The same is true if someone is trying to pressure you into sexual situations you are not into. If you don't want to do what turns this person you love on, if it's humiliating or uncomfortable, and they keep pressuring you, leave them. Yes, you can do magic to lower their sex drive, but if they really need something to "get off," they will seek it every time that they engage in intercourse. If it's something you don't like, you need to move on.

Q: I've done spells to attract people (just in general) to me, and I'm not getting anyone who seems interested. A few people come my way, but quickly lose interest or avoid me soon after we meet! Is it my spells or is it me?

A: Without knowing what spells you've cast or your commands used, it's hard to say 100%. Are you being too particular (example: "I want a blond with green eyes, born in the state of Nevada in the USA in the month of March between the years 1987-1989, who drives a blue truck and is a lawyer, and who also is vegan, and weighs no more than 140lbs")? Because there is such a thing as too particular. I tell people to put less emphasis on looks, and more on compatibility. So, using the previous example, a "blonde who lives near me (assuming Nevada is near you, lol,) who is between 30-35, with a good education, and who is fit," would attract a lot more people to you, and is still relatively particular. BUT, let's say you're not particular at all, you just want someone of the desired gender who is compatible with you, and who is around your own age. That should bring A LOT of people to you…but what if they are still losing interest or even avoiding you? It might be you.

Some years ago, I was asked by a person who…well, to be polite, turned out to be a very socially inept person, to attract to her a new man. So, I do the work. A month or so later, she complains nothing happened. I ask did she go out to places where people meet, and she said yes, she'd gone to a very popular bar 2 nights a week. I said what did she do when she was there. She said she stared at the guys she thought were hot. That's right, she just stared them down. Unsurprisingly, no one approached. 😉 If you're staring someone down, they will feel uncomfortable. It actually got even worse than described, but for discretion purposes, I'll leave it at that.

It is true that if you have absolutely no charm, you can put people off. Remember to let the people approach you if you can. Don't stare them down, and when they strike up a conversation, be interested, but don't be so invested with them that it seems like you're about to fall off of your seat. 😉 Don't overdo it. I know that sounds hard for some of you, but being casually interested, and a little flirty will inflame more interest in the person you're speaking to. Don't stalk them or text them constantly once you meet. Allow the relationship to begin organically. Match their interest, don't outmatch it. You are less apt to scare that prospective partner off.

Q: Are commitmentphobics the hardest targets?

A: That would be subjective, but they are annoying to deal with. It's a personality disorder, and like most personality disorders, it won't improve overnight. That can mean feeling like you're moving 2 steps forward, and one step back throughout the entire process of working on them.

Hopefully this was enlightening – more articles for the love-spell-extravaganza coming. If you have any problems and need my help, feel free to contact me! I love hard-to-fix love problems!

~Cat

I also wrote a book all about love spells – buy it here!

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