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“I’m Cat, and for a long time, Cat’s Rants, the longest running occult based blog was over at TypePad – since 2004. Sadly, TypePad shuttered permanently as of September 30th 2025. Please be patient while I export 21 years of blog posts over to my new WordPress location. With a much easier url to remember and all your favorite posts all the way back to 04, Cat’s Rants should hopefully improve over its former location.” Cat has practiced and studied the occult, tarot, and spellcasting for over 35 years, and has shared her expert teachings on how to cast your own spells, including original spells and recipes on the Cat’s Rants blog since 2004. A professional tarot reader since the 1990s, she’s also an internationally-known psychic reader and tarot expert. As a published and respected occultist for over two decades, and an expert in the fields of rootwork, hoodoo, and Catholic folk magic, she continues to serve the public by teaching authentic spell casting and offering readings and services.

  • And Now I Ain’t Even Mad

    Hey Occulties…

    So I have a confession to make. I sat on the pity pot today. And you know the worst part? It was like pouting because I had to wear casts on my arms, but the reason I had casts on them is that I had cool Wolverine arms installed and a whole adamantium skeleton now, and like…Wolverine powers.

     

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    I apologize if the stupidity and ineptitude of people made me a stupid dumbhead who could actually spend time being angry about making over two thousand dollars more than I should originally be paid merely because to get the extra, I need to wait a few months. Why was I acting that way? Well, I guess like anyone else, I can take a few hours on the pity pot when the present situation diverts my focus from the outcome for awhile.

    Still, I did waste a few hours today feeling sorry for myself, despite the fact that in reality, I should be pretty happy with the longterm outcome, and that stinks that I did that. I am almost done with that reconciliation article…

    But with that said I'M MOFUGGIN WOLVERINE, YO!

    ~Cat

     

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  • A Little Ray of Sunshine Goes A Long Way

    Hey there Occulties,

    I realize that, from my perspective, there are a lot of people out there who basically are like fish who jump out of water, and then complain that they can't breathe, and then when I put them back in the proverbial water so they can breathe again, they almost instantly jump out and flop around, and complain they still can't breathe. This is what lust for results/thinking spellwork to death looks like to a person who isn't in it's throes. I mean, like the old saying goes, you only need to get burned once to not make the same mistake of touching a fire happen twice…but if you have lust for results, you just keep burning your arm off and saying you can't help yourself, you have to. Okay, that second part is new, and I added it. 

    BUT DO NOT WORRY, THIS IS NOT A LUST FOR RESULTS ARTICLE,

    Instead, I am just saying, probably I focus on that so much because from where I sit, that is exactly what my entire day is… People torturing themselves, working themselves into hysterics, and then, often, acting out and hurting their spellwork. It might make me a little glum now and again. :/ I even have been in the throes of the evil lust for results, and no matter how "good" you think you're being, it is a bad spot and it's like watching someone punch themselves in the face repeatedly and then ask why they can't get rid of their black eyes. So…yeah. 

    So that got me to thinking, some of this is caused by people wanting some sort of just even trivial positive sign that they are making progress (at least I think so,) and while we all want exactly what we spellcasted for to plop in our laps RIGHT NOW AT THIS VERY SECOND, there generally is a waiting for manifestation phase…and it's that waiting that really kills some people. They just can't take it. They go over the archives and go "FUCK YOU, CAT, AND YOUR CONSTANTLY MAKING ME FEEL BAD FOR DOING THE OPPOSITE OF THE THINGS YOU SAY TO DO TO HAVE A SUCCESSFUL SPELL MANIFEST! IF I JUST HAD ONE LITTLE THING GO RIGHT, MAYBE I WOULDN'T BE YELLING AT YOUR BLOG WHERE YOU CAN'T HEAR ME!" 

    While I don't literally hear you loud and clear (because if every epithet yelled at a screen which was directed at me was heard loud and clear by me, I'd probably have some interesting PTSD issues,) I can understand how that little glimmer of hope is going to help calm you and put you closer to an emotional point where you aren't basically panicking and acting like you would be if you threw gasoline on a fire in an effort to put out the fire. And you know what? It's easier (not surprisingly) to do the "little things." 

    Like what? Like what do I mean? I mean, it's easier to get communication than you think…I mean maybe not, – maybe there is a restraining order, – but for most of us, yes, it's not that hard to get that little bit. Or, perhaps you need a LARGE sum of money in the next 3 weeks, but if your boss would just put direct deposit in NOW, you'd at least be able to get groceries. That might also be possible. Just one little GLIMMER of hope could totally make you feel better. 

    I realize my archives are a gigantic hellbeast which even many of my more devoted readers are like "But this shit is like 15 years old, Cat – how would I know to read an article that old!?" and so you might have missed a few gems. One is to open up the mind of a target to make him or her more suggestible. It is very easy. You need a small vial or jar (like even a baby food jar,) a lot of poppy seeds (I buy them in a BIG BAG) and an appropriate oil, as well as a witness sample (really really helpful,) and a little slip of paper. So, let's say your spouse is being rude and snappy at you because you did something hurtful. It wasn't something you are proud of, but it was also something most of us would agree is entirely forgivable. Put your poppy seeds into the jar to almost fill it, add some oil (in this case, reconciliation would work nicely,) to coat the seeds and stir, and now push your witness sample and a slip of paper with the target's name on one side (their full name) and a command on the other side (so in this case, "Name of Spouse, forgive (your full name) for all that you feel anger towards them," would work pretty nicely,) and then seal the jar up tight, and hold it and envision what you want, for a few minutes and wait.

    It totally opens up the target's mind, and in the way you want it to. 

    Or use some roadopener work. I LOVE ROADOPENER. This is going to break down those obstacles and draw positive changes into your life. All you need is a gold candle and some roadopener oil (from a reputable source,) and you will see a positive change shortly. So let's say I am arguing with my partner a lot, and while I get there is a difficulty in communication, I don't clearly see why. I can make my petition out to be that I would like all blocks removed to positive and helpful communication between us, so that we can communicate freely like we used to. Roadopener can be applied to anything and it is CHEAP AND EASY TO DO. 

    But right now some of you are like "No, Cat, that sucks. I don't want to talk to this person and some namby pamby influence spell just won't make this one budge." You have found yourself a stubborn love target, they went and started dating someone else, even though you love them to bits, and, what's worse, you acted out and were scary and stuff. At this point, it's like you took a priceless ming vase and smashed it and then jumped on the pieces, and someone handed you a tube of Gorilla Glue and told you to put it back together…that's how hopeless you feel. Well, you could benefit from healing yourself, and you can also use "dripless" candles (these things really burn clean, leaving no, or almost no, wax bits once they have completely consumed themselves,) to even help make that rival's power disappear. Yeah, you can do that. 

    I am still seeing some glum faces in the rant room…. and I can say this: sometimes working on a big stinky issue is like losing weight. If you expect massive results in a week, you are bound to be disappointed. BUT, if you could see 5lbs fall off in a week (that's pretty good,) you'd be more likely to stick to that diet than you would be if you were losing like 2 lbs a month. I want you to have what you want today, too (well, unless what you want is for me to be miserable, ha,) but we might need to get there with some smaller steps. 

    Wouldn't you like to be talking with that person who stopped talking to you? What if we start there? Would you like to feel like people at work appreciate the work you do (which may lead to a raise soon)? Why don't we start there? Once you get those little "blips" of movement on your situation, you're going to feel a whole lot better, and this crazy social media stalking, and asking me to write essays regarding the meaning of a single emoji left on some post in social media will begin to abate. 

    So, this is what January is about. I am going to try to do about 7 articles, all regarding easy spells with "smaller" outcomes (so not a marriage proposal from someone who blocked you on every form of social media and their phone,) and work that focuses on making you stronger and happier, so your (and my) 2019 will be better. 🙂

    Since most of y'all want some lovin', the first in the series will be about RECONCILIATION, and I will try to get that up in 12 hours to 3 days from now, depending on how popular I am this week (if I get slammed, it will be in a few days, and if this quiet spell keeps up, it might even be tonight.)

    Stay tuned, or follow me on Twitter to get the latest updates! 

    ~Cat

     

  • Now for Something Fun – The Questions You’ve Asked Me Contest! :)

    Hey everyone,

    As usual I'm having a crappy December (it's pretty much something that happens every year, ha ha,) but I hope everyone reading is having a great holiday season all of the same. 🙂

    Also, while it might not arrive by Christmas (damn you, USPS,) if you want me to send you a Christmas card this year, and you live in the USA (I can't afford more expensive postage, heh,) please feel free to email me your address and I will send you a card. 🙂

    But that isn't the fun stuff… The fun thing is me doing a semi regular contest I do, which is the Questions You've Asked Me contest. This year, as I am not rich (ew,) the prizes are not as spectacular as a few years' past, but are at least as spectacular or even slightly better than a few years ago. 😉 This year the prizes are:

    Grand Prize – $100 Amazon gift certificate, and a free 60 minute reading
    Second Prize – $50 Amazon gift certificate, and a free 30 minute reading
    Third Prize – a $25 Amazon gift certificate

    Now for the rules.

    1. To enter, you need to submit a question which is about spellcasting, Hoodoo, Rootwork, African Diasporic religious/spiritual beliefs, or the occult. Personal questions about me (like "What is your favorite kind of dessert?" or etc, ha,) questions about spirit conjure and/or goetia and/or related entities will not be responded to. For some reason, some wag – every single damn time I run the contest, – thinks they are brilliant to ask "Why are you such a bitch!?" and that disqualifies you because it is a personal question, and hilariously enough, I've answered it anyhow. 😉 It won't make me sad, but personal attacks will disqualify the rest of your entries, as I will just delete them all, assuming they are all full of the same abuse, and I don't really care if you don't like me (but you can stop creeping my blog if you don't like me, ha ha.) ORIGINAL, and thought provoking questions are the questions that get picked as the best, and since I am the judge of who asked me the most insightful and original question, please try to keep the questions unique and on-topic to increase your chances of winning. I WILL NOT GIVE OUT RECIPES, so please do not ask what the recipe to an oil, incense, etc is. 

    2. You may submit up to THREE entries. Please only put one question per entry. The entry form is here. This means you need to fill this out three different times, once for each question. Only one of your entries can be used as a winning entry. You cannot win all three prizes, even if you ask me the coolest questions ever. Please submit all entries by January 14, 11:59 PM Eastern time to qualify.

    3. I will not have the time to reply to all entries personally. If you have a question which is urgent, PLEASE do not use the contest as your platform to ask that question. Instead, please contact me directly if you need a response now.

    4. People who have been banned from using my services or asked to no longer contact me are barred from the contest. If you have a past-due or unpaid bill, the amount owed must be paid in full for your entries to be valid

    5. By submitting your entry/entries, you give OriginalNinjaCat.com and me, Cat, permission to use your entry in my contest, and to display the question on Cat's Rants: Confessions of an Occult Mastermind. You also agree to allow me to alter the original question to fix spelling, typographical errors, or to clarify the question by altering a few words in the body of the question. 

    6. NO PURCHASE IS NECESSARY. The contest is open to all people 18 or over in the United States, and to all residents of other countries, so long as they are permitted, by the laws of their country to be considered of adult age, and that they can legally enter a contest held within the United States. There are ONLY three prizes, and entering does not guarantee a win. The winners will be announced on JANUARY 15, 2019, and the prizes will be awarded within 36 hours of announcing the winners. Please supply me with the email that you use for Amazon (if different from your contact email,) to ensure delivery of your prize. 🙂 If you win the grand prize or second prize, we will need to schedule your reading at your discretion. 

    I think that's everything, but please check this post should I have left off a rule. 🙂

    ~Cat

  • Irrelevant Questions, Vexatious Behaviors, Oh My!

    Hey Occulties,

    Wouldn't it be lovely if I had the time to not focus on what is review to most of my readers? Well, enough people are too lazy to read the archives and since there are only a limited amount of hours in the day, and repeating myself to individuals over and over is very time consuming, it is just easier to review here than to expect the basic average modern person to do any due dilligence and scan the archives for the answers themselves. 😉

    So, let's start with something the vast majority of my readers over the age of 25 should have figured out already on their own… Whether or not someone loves you, that they do love you does not mean they will come back, it doesn't mean they find you attractive or unattractive, it doesn't mean that they will treat you kindly, or be true to you. They can love you very much and not want to be with you. They can love you very much and still not love that extra 50lbs you put on and be turned off by your physical body. They can love you very much and treat you like shit and lie to you and cheat on you. So… "DOES HE/SHE LOVE ME?" is the most pointless question that people ask a psychic…because 98% of the time or so, the answer is yes, but that doesn't mean they will treat the asker how the asker would wish to be treated or how that person feels someone who loves them should treat them. I say it very often, but I love lots of people, and it doesn't mean I have any intention or inclination of ever dating them again, or even having a conversation with them again. 

    Next, most of what goes on on someone's social media is not worth a mouse-fart in a wind storm. I am honestly so fucking sick and tired of discussing instagram, and twitter, and facebook, and what'sapp, and snapchat (which, one day last week, is ALL that I discussed for an entire 16 hours,) that I could scream, but it isn't just because I am old and hate social media. No, I actually am relatively active on Facebook. I probably show up there a handful of times each week. What I don't do are things like: create fake accounts to see if someone who blocked me is chatting about me, look at any of my ex-boyfriend's pages (don't care, but I am still friends with them on social media,) try to figure out if a passive aggressive post is about me (don't care, and if that person is just doing that for a reaction, I wouldn't give them the benefit of having one,) or post long, self-pitying posts about how so and so hurted my feelings. I mostly post funny pictures, actually. I keep away from posting political stuff (because I know what I believe and don't give a fuck if it matches someone else's view,) and I try not to post too much about my personal life (because anyone who doesn't know about it already isn't close enough to know about it through social media.) If you are spying on social media, and especially creating fake profiles and so forth, then…if you are a grown ass adult, ask yourself why you are behaving like someone who is just going through puberty. I mean, if you're 12-15, sure, that's probably pretty normal stuff, but if you're 30+, it definitely is not. 

    Look, I get it. There are people older than I am who have so little experience with life that they are emotionally 13 or 14, even if they are intellectually older. There are people younger than I am who act more mature than I do. That said, if you have any self respect and you are old enough to have completed a bachelor's degree, then do yourself a favor and outgrow social media drama today. If social media is pushing you into histrionics, just shut it down for a few weeks. Seriously. You'll feel a lot better. I don't care if he put a heart emoji on someone's post, or if she put a kissy face on someone's picture. You shouldn't care, either. (hell, you shouldn't be covertly stalking both of their pages to the point where you would even know such info.) Let us NOT devolve into a society that believes emoji placement is worth a week-long crying jag, okay? Please?

    It really is a piss poor gauge of what is going on in someone's life anyhow. How many people put out a clear and accurate image of themselves on social media? Or do they try to make themselves seem more awesome than they are? People try to seem awesome and happy and stuff most of the time? Yes they do. Even when miserable.

    But I've been over that social media thing so many times recently that it is ridiculous. 

    Instead, let us move on to the value of histrionics and melodrama… Basically it amounts to this – at best, you are just working yourself up and wasting energy. So, at best, you are still not accomplishing anything of value. Of course, what also happens a lot of the time if you engage in melodramatics and histrionics is making other people think you're insane, making your target afraid of you, ruining your spellwork, and…well, is there a benefit to making people think you're mentally unhinged and obsessive? I can't think of one, honestly. You won't win anyone over with this behavior…it's very off putting. I mean, I am not talking about a normal reaction to an actual personal tragedy – did a loved one die? Did your home and/or possessions burn up or get stolen? Were you just hospitalized for a major illness? Of course you would be upset in all of those cases, and I do not mean "melodrama" or "histrionics" if you're upset after being traumatized…but if you are having a meltdown because someone didn't reply to a text, you are probably going way overboard. 

    Look, I understand how you can get to a point where you're having a crying jag over something ridiculous like a poop emoji, but I also know that once you get to that point, you need to take a step way back from whatever you're freaking out about, because you're at a point where the situation is making you crazy and there is no value in continually examining the situation or dwelling on it. You need to MOVE PAST that situation, and let it go. This doesn't mean "give up," it means that you need to accept the situation and heal some so you can have what you want. If I fall into a quivering mess because my ex is curt in a reply to me, – and he's that way because he had a shit day at work, not because of me or anything  I did, – I am not going to help my situation at all if I wanted that man back when I hugely overreact and become an emotional mess. Lucky for me, I don't want my ex back (any of you – sorry gents,) but I can say when I have wanted one back, acting like the martyr for love or like I was going to fall apart over the littlest things did not help me at all if I was engaging in such behaviors. 

    And not least of all, this constant spying and obsessiveness and meltdowns over a ton of nothing are LUST FOR RESULTS and are HARMING YOUR ACTIVE SPELLWORK.

    Overthinking, worry, melodrama…all this shit is useless. I mean, I realize I am beating a dead horse here, because no matter how much I try to drill anything into anyone's noggin by repeating myself ad nauseum, I am still dealing with this shit all day every day, and people seem to think it's harmless self pity melodrama bullshit that is part of my job to deal with.

    It isn't part of my job. I'm not a psychiatrist. I'm a spellcaster, I'm a spiritual advisor, and I am not here to care for your mental health problems. 

    Don't get me wrong – just looking at the last 3 days of email, I have over 125 infractions on my rules going on there (like you can be fired for breaking the contract you agree to in order to work with me, and people are just breaking that left and right as if it is nothing at all), so I am certainly not unadvised that people are too lazy and self indulgent to even take the 3 minutes to read their contract to avoid violating my terms of service and client agreement…let's not even get into that many people just can't manage to follow simple instructions (like stay off of social media, and don't stalk or fight with your target,) because I know today's society encourages that people bask in their own pathetic learned helplessness, as if this is some sort of awesome consolation prize for having a crappy time of things, when in reality, it is more an addiction and very harmful to leading a happy or productive life. 

    Since I'm certain by this point, more than one person is sobbing and thinking I wrote this article only about them (not at all…it's December, and my job is awful around the holidays,) let me just say…. The problems going on – this is all really easy stuff to fix. You can make your life better by not telling yourself that it is okay that you created that fake profile, or saying "Wow, if someone else texted me an alien emoji, I would never have spent the last 2 weeks trying to understand what it meant. I should probably stop obsessing over this because it isn't healthy that I am."

    And look…if someone loves you but still treats you rotten, realize that maybe they always will. I am a big believer that just because a jerk loves you, that it doesn't make them NOT A JERK. I have experienced first hand, and even through clients, that making a jerk love you just means someone who acts like a stupid jerk to you now loves you. Doesn't make them not a jerk. That's something to consider when you get so upset that a jerk keeps hurting you and professing their love at the same time…well, they're a jerk. You do not have to stay with this jerk. You don't even have to acknowledge their existence. You can love them and not have them in your life at the same time. It's OK. People do it all of the time. 

    While I am not a psychiatrist, I can honestly say, my observation is that this depressive anxious obsessive behavior like that described above is a reaction to a feeling like being out of control of a situation you want to have some control of, but the thing is, if you keep stalking on social media (or even worse, creating fake profiles to harass and/or stalk,) you are not putting yourself "more in control," but instead are desperately grasping at straws as you slip farther out of control of the situation. If you want to feel in control, you need to get in control of yourself. To do that, you need to stop acting in ways that you subconsciously must realize are not healthy. Once you get control of yourself, you will feel SO MUCH BETTER…and you won't be paying me $70 for the honor of discussing the meaning of an emoji for a half hour on the phone. 😛

    Sorry if this came off as a bit harsh, but every December, without fail, I deal with some sort of mass hysteria, most likely brought on by the holidays, and it just isn't healthy for either of us. If I can reach even 4 people with this post, I will know I have done my job.

    An actually-fun article is coming up next. 😉 I know you guys and gals probably need it after this.

    ~C

  • Post-Turkey-Day Catch-Up

    Hello my lovies,

    Thanks to the Thanksgiving Day holiday last week, I am still a bit behind on correspondence, but should have everything replied to by 11/27 at noon, Eastern time (this is the same time zone as New York City or Boston,) and just to let everyone know, I am off on November 29, and returning to the office on November 30th. 

    Thanks, everyone, for being on your best behavior this past weekend (that is not sarcasm,) which is definitely appreciated, as all too often, holidays lead to super-bad behaviors. 😉

    ~Cat

  • A Confession of an Occult Mastermind

    I would rather help 50 people who follow my instructions to the letter (and I never ask anyone to do anything that isn't hugely simple like "stop stalking your target," and "do not fight with this person,") but have problems so bad they seem virtually impossible to fix even with the best of spells, than I would want to help 5 people with really simple problems who refuse to listen to any of my instructions and do the opposite of those instructions. The success rate would be much higher on the 50 people with insanely bad problems, too. :P 

    On another note, if you are okay with simple instructions like "let this person contact you first," and "show up to the job interview sober and ready to do your best," I'd totally love to help you change your life. If you can't do simple things like that, I don't know if I'm your girl to help you. 

     

  • Exactly the Sign You’re Looking For

    Hello Loveys,

    So I saw this travel into my newsfeed today from Brother Moloch's page, and it is the truth! If you're sick of your problems hounding you, if you want to make things better, you should live by this motto! Magic is about taking control of your life, and changing it for the better!

    Thank you for creating/finding this image Bro Moloch! It should be everyone's motto, in my opinion! 🙂

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  • If You Keep Picking at That, It Will Never Get Better

    Hey Occulties,

    While speaking to a client last night, an interesting point was brought up, which was that thanks to the Law of Attraction (which is as complex as physics, and has nothing to do lame-ass books like The Secret,) there are people who put off manifestation and cause stagnation in their own situation by just having to "keep checking" the work is on track with readings.

    Now, look, what is my job? Do I give readings as part of my job? I sure do. And I don't want to go around scaring people that if you get a reading, that your whole situation will turn ass over elbow, or be floundering around and won't ever work. Because I unfortunately deal with too many people who view things with an exaggerated lens, I am sure I have just terrified a group of people out of getting readings for a little bit. 

    Don't be scared of readings. They are not evil. They are not apt to kill your work or slow it down because you wanted the situation read once or twice before the spell manifested. IN FACT, in some cases where the petitioner is so nervous and requires reassurance to NOT OBSESS ABOUT THE SITUATION SO MUCH, they are actually more helpful than harmful. 

    So let's go back to the Law of Attraction and energy…and if you smoke marijuana, you may need to take a bong hit, because this is going to make me sound a little out there…. So for starters, everything has an energy to it, and if we were to try to visualize this it would be similar to water or to a gas, as it moves and flows around all things. Now, when you do a spell, you are basically trying to move this energy in such a way as to bring a specific change into your life – whether that is to bring something to you (a job, a relationship, success,) or remove it from you (get a neighbor to leave, dispel negative energies,) which requires allowing the energy to flow freely. This is why I say "let go" of the situation, because just as spells are energy, so are thoughts. When you overthink the situation, you basically pull back this energy to examine it, lengthening the time it takes for this energy to move and make the desired change. Readings really pull back the energy, because it is a deep examination. Now, I've used this example before, but think of it a bit like digging up a growing seed to examine it as it sprouts, and then reburying it. Every time you do that, you shock the plant. If you do it too much, you could kill the plant, and all because you needed to be reassured it is growing on a thrice daily basis. 

    So, if I haven't lost you yet (and I am sure I have a few people really confused right now,) basically if you don't think much of the situation you are working on, the spells manifest much faster. However, if you constantly ruminate on the situation and worry about it and doubt, the manifestation is much slower. Were I not held by discretion, I could actually produce a clear result for the general public where the worriers and doubters are getting slow results, and the people who let things go are happy and have what they want in a much shorter time. It's very visible to a practitioner for hire how much lust for results effects outcomes. I can see it in my own work for myself, but the real proof is working for others. If I am encouraging someone on almost a daily basis, and they are always negative, and always need me to check this or that thing, etc, I assure you, that situation is going to take a lot longer for the spells to manifest than in a situation with someone who just lets go and stops worrying. And if I'm reading the situation weekly, it is probably going to be a slower manifestation as well. I'm pulling the energy back to examine it and holding it to see where it is going, and now I've slowed the outcome. 

    This isn't the way it is because I want to be a hard ass. It is no different than if I decide to drink and party and sleep for 3 hours, I'm going to have a rough day at work the next day and not because people are punishing me for enjoying vodka. 😉 It's because when you drink and party and don't get enough sleep, your body has a harder time working near to peak performance because you didn't treat it how it needed to be treated to give you peak performance. This is the same with spells. Treat the spell right, and it gives you a faster manifestation. Get nervous and overthink and obsess, and it slogs along slowly.

    It's not a matter of disliking the personality type of people who overthink – I actually really like a lot of my worriers quite a bit. They are good, kind, sweet people. I wish I was the law of attraction, because I'd cut them some slack, but I'm not, and I can't change the law of attraction. 

    I also believe that a reading in the manifestation phase is not really going to have a noticeable impact for many people, – if you get 2 readings in the span of a month, you're not apt to notice a difference in manifestation speed at all, – and if people are of the emotional make up that they overthink and overworry, readings can actually help stop them from engaging in those bad habits by offering reassurance, so they are even speeding up the outcome for these people (as it stops this obsessive worry from being near constant, which is hugely damaging,) but yeah…constantly checking the situation isn't, generally speaking, helpful. 

    I speak a lot in here about NOT OBSESSING and not getting obsessive with the situation. I am not typing that point repeatedly because my fingers need exercise, or to suggest you should take my advice lightly. Stop checking their social media, stop picking apart the situation looking for answers, stop thinking about it as much as you can, – and watch a speedy and fast manifestation come into your life. Look, if you need to pick at the situation constantly to check if it's doing what you want, you're doing the same thing as picking off a scab over and over and over and over, and not letting it heal (manifest,) for worrying at it. 

    And again, if readings are reassuring to you and they stop some of this obsessive worry, get them. It helps if you are calm and have faith in the work and don't worry about it, so if you need help not worrying, get it. Some of this is on you. You have to police yourself, and say "I need to stop stalking their social media, I need to stop thinking about this situation, and just know it is going to come together," but don't be afraid to ask your practitioner for help if someone is working for you, and don't be afraid to get a reading if you think it will help staunch the flow of obsessive worry, just know that, yep, because of the law of attraction, too many readings can sometimes slow the situation.

    Hopefully that  made some sense. I am sure some of you are just more confused. You know where to find me if you are, ha ha. 😉

    ~Cat

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  • Weird Things People Do to their Reconciliation Target (when using magic to reconcile that person)

    Hey Occulties!

    So, some of you have had a laugh when I say "DO NOT FIGHT WITH YOUR RECONCILIATION TARGET DURING THE MANIFESTATION PHASE!!" and tell me that this is a stupid thing to say, and of course you won't. Then why do I say this? It's because people do it all of the time. It's relatively common. In fact, a few "weird" and counterproductive behaviors are common enough that I have to warn against all of them, even if it makes me sound like I think the person I'm speaking to is stupid. 😉 So what are some weird things people do? Let's begin with the obvious…

    Fighting with the person that they are trying to reconcile is a relatively common weird behavior for people using reconciliation magic.

    Before everyone gets all judgey, did you know that some reconciliation targets attempt to get into arguments with the petitioner as the spellwork is manifesting, as a means to assure themselves that the petitioner is a bad match? See, as the influence begins to hit the target, he or she gets combative – they broke up with that person for a reason, so why are they having squishy feelings for this person again!? And so, as the target begins to be influenced, he or she picks a fight, and a good percentage of petitioners take the bait. Kids, don't take that bait. It will prolong your manifestation phase. If your target is suddenly picking on you, just walk away. Don't be anyone's doormat – never let someone walk all over you, – but end the conversation and don't take the bait to get into an argument. Your target will be sweet and loving soon enough, especially now that you are proving that you're not going to react with anger, or lash out at them. They are trying to reject the influence and this is often a brief phase.

    I think we can agree, it is very easy when feelings are already raw, to get upset and blow up at someone if we want them to be kind, and they are subjecting us to insults. So that isn't so weird that person got into an argument with their target, right?

    And yet, that isn't the "Weird arguing thing" I am talking about. It makes sense enough that if someone is being rude or mean, you might react in a rude or mean matter. Instead, it is more that the petitioner is so angry with the target for this perceived unfair abandonment or the insult of the break up or whatever action caused the split, that as the target comes back to the petitioner, desiring to reconcile the relationship and get back together, the petitioner has a very angry outburst towards the target. It goes a little like this:
    Target: Hey, I just wanted you to know, I'm really sorry that I cheated on you with your best friend, because the reality of it is that I only love you. I have totally thrown your best friend under the bus – he or she started with me, and I was weak, and gave in – do you think we could get back together? I only love you.

    Petitioner: Oh hell no, motherfucker! I cried for weeks that you had sex with my best friend! GO FUCK YOURSELF! I asked you to leave that person and no no no, you just had to go banging on (best friend) for weeks while I was miserable. You LOVE me? You say you LOVE ME, motherfucker? REALLY?

    Oh, so you see, it isn't so weird. I mean, it isn't helpful – don't fight with someone you are trying to reconcile. They will be scared off and it will be harder to bring them back. BUT, yeah, all that stored up anger from whatever this person did to break the relationship can just bubble up, and the next thing you know, the petitioner is cussing like a possessed person and telling off the object of their affections. 

    The solution, if you can manage it, is to come to terms with what happened and forgive your ex. Use reconciliation work on yourself to aid in the healing process if you need to. Otherwise, all that hard work and effort can be splintered when all your angry feelings come out like a demonic force and spit all over your target. Or, I mean, just reconcile them, and when they want back, tell them to stuff it where the sun don't shine, because you're vindictive like that and only reconciled them just to break their heart when they wanted you back…I'm not here to judge, if that's what you want. 😉 As long as you keep in mind that fighting with a reconciliation target (merited or not) will chase them off and put off a reconciliation, your actions you take are your choice. 

    People break up with the reconciliation target very soon after getting back together. 

    All those days and weeks and maybe even months pining for someone, and finally, the magic has all manifested, and here they are back in your life and…wait, you don't want them now?

    Yeah, that's really common, actually. I'd say in about 1/3 of cases (maybe more), this does happen. If that looks like a huge percentage, it's not a joke, people really do get this "desired one" back, and almost instantly decide that they don't want to be with the person. The most common reasons for this behavior are that the petitioner deified the target in their absence (this is why I always tell you to think of the bad sides of your target, and remind yourself that they exist, otherwise this exaggerated positive image of the person will quickly come crashing down when you reunite); that the time spent apart has made both the target and petitioner evolve differently, so they are a lot less compatible (and if you spend a year away from someone, their personality will noticeably change,) or the cumulative damage from the break up sours the petitioner on trying to work things out.

    I often think of this as "The Best Movie Ever" effect. Have you ever had several people tell you that a movie was the best movie they ever saw, and when you finally sat down and watched it, expecting it to be the most amazing bit of cinema ever put on film, you thought it was good, but not "The Best Movie Ever!!!!"? And you realize, if everyone hadn't told you how great this movie was, it would have been very good movie, and you would not have been disappointed that it wasn't so amazing. Any time multiple people tell you this or that is the BEST EVER, once you finally experience it yourself, it often isn't the BEST EVER, and you're going to be a little disappointed. 

    Unfortunately that is the same with relationships. You told yourself that your ex is the best ever, and the relationship was/is the best ever, and once you have them back in your arms and your bed, more often than not, you realize it isn't the best ever. It's certainly good, yeah, but you were expecting more because you exaggerated how awesome things are between you, and now…meh.

    And if that person really hurt you, and hurt you a lot, – well, what are they going to do to make that up to you? See, in more than one case, there is not enough satisfaction in just having that person back. Instead, now that they are back, and comfortable, and not doing anything else to recognize the damage they put on the petitioner, then the petitioner feels it is "beneath them" to continue on in a love relationship. It seems weird but it does happen a lot. 

    Some petitioners reject the target's advances when the target starts reacting to the spellwork.

    What? But don't they want this person? I mean, isn't this spellwork to get this person back?

    Yes, but in most of these cases, the petitioner is dissatisfied with how the target came back. There are times I really want to smack a few people because they will tell me how their little heart is smashed to a zillion pieces with love for this person, and they will just die if they don't get back together, and hours upon hours of miserable speeches, only to completely destroy the reunion because either the target has taken an action they "can't live with," (for example dating or having sex with someone during the time they were broken up,) or because the target didn't come back for the reasons the petitioner wanted them to (or in the behavioral way that they desired). For example, Sally wants Jeff back, but when he admits he did drunkenly hook up with some girl from the bar last month, she doesn't want him back because that means he "cheated" on her (you can't cheat on someone if you aren't dating them.) It doesn't matter if Jeff really wants her back, now he's gone and sullied himself forever by daring to have consensual sex with another adult when he was single. OR Richard really wanted to get back together with Martha, but ONLY if she came back grovelling. When she says she still is a little unsure if they can make it work, but she sure does miss him, this isn't "good enough," for him, and he rejects her attempt at reconciliation.

    Look, as far as the unfounded sexual jealousy goes, that is just emotional immaturity and insecurity, and if you can't get over that (or your partner can't,) that is more of a psychological issue. You are not cheated on because when your ex was your EX, they had sex with someone else. Before you ever met them, if they were not a virgin, are you mad about those partners prior to you? Yes? Okay, well, there are still some undeveloped countries where your outlook is normal, but in the developed world, it is okay for consenting single adults to have sex with one another, and if you were not their partner at the time, they did not wrong  you in any way. It doesn't matter if it happened before or after you dated, just so long as they didn't do it when they were promising to be true to you, and you alone. Once the relationship ended (even if you did not want it to end,) it freed them up to have sex with anyone of their choosing without in any way wronging you. If you can't deal with that, don't do reconciliation magic, and just move on whenever something ends, and find a new partner. 

    As for "I got what I wanted, but I don't like how I got it…it's not HOW I wanted it," people… I won't even try to hide my annoyance with this lot, not least of all for having worked my fucking ass off for a number of them, only for them to just fuck up all my hard work, generally because their "beloved" isn't tearing his or her hair out and weeping until my client capitulates and lets them come back…because realistically, it won't happen like that. If you and I dated, we broke up, and I dated a fellow afterwards for a month or so, it is totally normal for me to be conflicted if I dump him all of the sudden for you (because you were casting reconciliation spells.) I am still probably going to feel weird about how I treated him, and still have some feelings there (even if I want to be with you and only you because the spells made me feel like that.) OR, if we dated, and we broke up because you were cold and mean and argumentative, and then you cast spells on me to come back, well, I will still be worried that you are going to engage in those bad behaviors when your spells hit me and I do come back. It's normal. 

    See, spells take the path of least resistance, and the path of least resistance is going to make your target act like…your target. Maybe you're shocked because you thought they were a different person, or maybe you hoped they were feeling how you felt, maybe you're possessive  and jealous and they aren't, maybe a lot of things. But what it comes down to is these Hollywood-esque outcomes are not likely, and when the person comes back because of your spell, they probably won't be begging and scraping for your forgiveness (it does happen like that sometimes, but don't count on it,) but rather, they will be cautiously interested in getting back together. If you want them back WORK WITH THE RESULTS THAT YOU ARE GIVEN. DO NOT repeatedly reject the target because they aren't giving you what you wanted how you wanted it, because they won't keep asking you back. Plenty of targets come back acting as if nothing bad EVER HAPPENED, and they never even say that they are sorry. If you can't bear that happening, you might be disappointed. You did magic for the END RESULT (having the ex not be your ex, and reconciled to you,) so, the spell still worked even if they managed to hook up with someone while you were broken up, and even if when they come back they do not tell you that they are dying without you. 

    Petitioners talk badly about their targets to mutual friends and acquaintances during the manifestation process.

    How many times must I tell you that ANYTHING YOU SAY ABOUT SOMEONE IS LIKELY TO GET BACK TO THE PERSON THAT YOU ARE SPEAKING ABOUT, AND OFTEN IT HAS BEEN ALTERED OR EXAGGERATED BY THE TIME IT REACHES THEM. So, it is NEVER a good idea to talk badly about someone you want to reconcile. Hell, just a piece of good advice here – DO NOT TALK SHIT ABOUT ANY OF YOUR EXES. IT JUST MAKES YOU LOOK LIKE A JERK – especially if you get back together, but even if you don't. 

    But now you've gone and done it, and told everyone what a jerk so-and-so was, and when it gets back to that person, do you really believe he or she is going to find it endearing that you told everyone that he has a penis the size of a contact lens, or that you could park a Winnebago in her hoo-ha? And also, how do you look when you go back to dating that "deadbeat who can't get a job," or that "anorexic skank hag"? 

    And really, you should not be discussing your relationship with others. Even if you tell mutual friends that you're pining for so and so, that isn't attractive. That doesn't win them over. It is off putting and creepy. It can also make people want to "defend" you by saying bad things about your ex and making it sound like you said them (not even intentionally, example: "He's not good enough for Cat, and she knows it!" sounds like I was saying someone isn't good and I think so too, even if it is meant as that I know better than to date someone but I am anyhow.)

     

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    OK, I have actually gotten a bit lengthy on my discussion with each "Weird thing," so in the interest of brevity, I'll stop at four. ;) 

    Reconciliation is tough work – many people find it one of the most difficult types of work to make manifest because generally the petitioner is in a horrible place emotionally, and is ill prepared to deal with their own emotions and stress during the manifestation phase. If you find any of the above "weird things" have applied to you, or are applying to your behavior, don't feel badly. None of the above are that uncommon to see, at least from a practitioner for hire's perspective. The best thing you can do is to just address any non-helpful behavior as soon as possible, and keep working on that reconciliation (if you still want your ex, that is, and you haven't just dumped them after reconciling them.) ;) 

    I hope that was enlightening! 

    ~Cat

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  • Ways Social Media Stalking is Harming your Spellwork

    Hello Occulties,

    While I'm sure I've posted some article (or multiple articles,) similar to this one, it would seem, were my inbox any clue (and on a day off since it is a holiday, no less,) that it would be time to post this again, so if this is repetitive to you, but you are still engaging in bad habits, you might want to give this a read. 

    In this article, I am going to INCLUDE checking any sort of message or status – for example, seeing if a message was "read" because iMessage will show that if the person allows a read receipt, or checking to see when someone last logged into a program which is social media-based.

    Alright, so how many times have I told you to get yourself off of social media if you keep finding yourself creeping on someone's social media? Hell, I would just get off of social media just as a prophylactic measure when you start doing love work because, sadly, so many of you are so hardcore addicted to this stuff that it would probably help you on more than one level to do so…but, I know you. You're checking their instagram right now, aren't you? You're looking in SnapChat or What'sApp or Facebook or even lurking on their damn Twitter because you think you're sniffing out what is going on in their lives, or it at least makes you feel that little bit "connected," (or that's what you tell yourself), right?

    Except wrong…because in 99% of cases, people using social media as their would be window into their target's life are actually merely engaging in unhelpful and unhealthy behaviors which harm their spell and offer no reassurance or real information into their target's life. Let's go over the most common "reasons" people keep checking social media, and it's real impact on their emotional state, and the spellwork being used on their behalf. 

    "I check my target's social media so I can know if s/he has broken up with my rival, and/or to try to figure out if s/he is seeing someone new." 
    I would like to just first call to attention that several dear friends of mine have gone through break ups and divorces without ever saying boo about it on social media. Heck, in more than one case, even though their partner was not in new pictures, several old pictures of their former partner remained. Had I never been privately informed (and in more than once case, more than a year later,) that this friend ended their romantic relationship, I never would have known it ended. I've known friendships that ended that neither party remarked on it, alluded to it…. So even platonic relationships ended without a mere mention. Had a buddy who broke an engagement off and it was a wild story…not one blip about it on social media, despite it being contentious to the point of police being called more than once.

    So, let's presume that the vast majority of people do not discuss the break up or divorce that they are going through. A lot of them won't mention it. And the one's that do ONCE often will not make the same mistake again. It's off-putting to more than one "friend" on the friend's list, so they keep it to themselves. 

    It seems that most people, so far as tragedy goes, only discuss SOME (not all) personal health matters, and death of a loved one when it comes to social media. And why? Because most people only want to show the best sides of themselves. While a small group of people do hunger for pity or attention, most people want neither when it comes to their own personal tragedies.

    So, from this we can easily conclude that checking to see if your rival is still your rival (or if your target has given you a new rival,) using social media is not really the most accurate gauge of this information. You'll still argue that rival's picture is present, or that you can tell by likes on pages if your target is crushing on someone new. 

    Alright then…when I post a new picture of myself, several people make lovey-type comments. Now, if Mr NinjaCat were a super jealous and anxious type of guy, and he rabidly checked my facebook, I'd be having to say this and that person is gay, that is a guy who always flirts with me but is married, these people are friends from college, etc, etc… Not a one of them is his rival. Well, he isn't insecure, so he doesn't get worried. You want to put the emoji with heart eyes as a reply? Go ahead. 😉 But if he were anxious, and lovesick, you better believe that now any one of those men is going to set him off with fresh jealousy. 😛 That said, I say nothing about break ups there. 😛 Like most people, you can fall out of my life, and not a soul except for you and me will ever know. That's the right way to do it. So, if you were "social media stalking" me to gauge if I'm free to see you or seeing someone else, you'd find yourself anxious and worried that I were, because people of my preferred gender say nice compliments to me and like my statuses and so forth, so how is that helpful to REALLY knowing I'm single or my relationship is good or bad? Oh, it's not? 

    Well, your target's page/s isn't/aren't, either. You aren't doing anything helpful. You are causing obsessive anxiety to slow your spellwork and to upset yourself, but really…social media does not accurately portray most people's personal lives. Sorry, it just doesn't. And if it does? So, you want to continue to upset yourself and worry away your spell energy, because you're slowing the outcome with your lust for results, but MAYBE you will catch something uplifting or reassuring today? I mean, let me tell you right now, if you stay off of that person's page  for a few weeks, your spell will probably manifest, and you won't have spent that 2-3 weeks constantly upsetting yourself because you are not sure if your target broke things off with your rival, or you don't know if that emoji or like means something. 😛 Instead, that few weeks without stress will end with a nice surprise – your target making contact. 🙂

    So, checking for "hints" your rival is out of the picture or your target is acting in some way that you feel is what comes before contacting you, etc…not helpful. It SLOWS manfiestation, while often causing confusion, unneeded stress, and upset, while also not providing much (if any) helpful information in many cases. 

    "Since I am blocked on social media by my target, I have friends/family check on this person for me so I can maybe know what has changed in their life." 
    At one time you and the target were super close, and now, here you are, cut off from seeing whatever social media posts they are making, as well as no longer talking to this person. So…you enlisted help in your stalking. I mean, (sarcasm) that isn't the least bit creepy at all. :/ 

    If you and I were dating, and I said "No more of you," while chances are, I won't cut you off my social media, let's say I do. Now I find out you have mutual friends updating you on my statuses and stuff. Wow, that's…creepy. And i will find out. So I think your target will find out, too. 

    Now, if, in many cases, the best choice in reconciliation is to act like you've moved on when you have contact with the target, – and this really is, psychologically, the best thing for regaining the target's interest, acting like you're moving on, and not all wound up about them or weeping inconsolably about them, or anything like that, (what do I always say? That you should act cautiously interested in the reconciliation that your target is suggesting thanks to those spells,) – what do you think the target believes when they discover that friends and family are viewing their social media for you (or allowing you access to their social media through an unblocked account)? Do you think that is off putting? Weird?

    If my mom starts creeping on your page and you haven't spoken to her in 20 years, are you wondering why she is now that you blocked me? Could you put 2 and 2 together there, and say it's probably me creeping on you? You could? It would be creepy? THEN WHY ARE YOU DOING IT TO YOUR TARGET!?

    Furthermore, how many times have I told you that pretty much anything you say about a person (especially through mutual acquaintances,) gets back to that person. So, that friend who is helping could very well be harming your chances of a reconciliation, even though it is not their intention. Some years ago, when I broke things off with a boyfriend, mutual friends, about a month later, started asking me if I was dating someone…and these were people I didn't talk too all that often, maybe 2-3 times a year. I totally knew who sent them…my ex. 😉 They never said he did, but the types of info they wanted to know made it relatively clear who was really interested in this info – not this happily married man he sent, surely, it was him. 😛 So, if you want your target to know you have an army of creepers, by all means, enlist help and group stalk your target. It's going to become obvious you're all stalkers, but you just "need to know" what is going on, right? Wrong. 

    You will be much happier if you do not involve others in your social media stalking and/or break up, and if you just stop paying attention for 2-3 weeks, when your target reaches out thanks to your spellwork, you won't smell like a stalker. They will never know it was what you were anxiously waiting and hoping for. 

    "It makes me feel more connected to check on my target, ever since my target cut me off." 
    Similar to the above. You both had a fight, and this target didn't cut you off of their social media, so you go haunt it on a regular basis, trying to understand what is going on in his or her life. Again, this will become apparent to the person you are stalking, as well as it FEEDS obsessive behaviors which cause lust for results, and slow or even kill your spell manifestation. 

    I understand that it is hard to be separated from someone you love, and you want to feel connected somehow. The easy solution is to download an image of this person. Now stop looking at their social media. When you miss them, look at the image for a little bit. Yes, seriously. ;) 

    Because otherwise, you'll start doing dumb things like wondering if this post is about you, or about someone else, and see above – I know several people who have gone through a divorce without even marginally referring to it on their social media. So, probably, none of it is about you. 😛 Stop obsessively worrying like that. 😛 Can you imagine someone else having a three-day crying-jag over an image of someone's vacation property being posted? I can, because people do that all of the time and tell me about it. Someone is "spiting" them by posting an image of a vacation property they used to visit. There are no images of people visiting the property, just an image of the property itself, which must mean the rival (or a suspected and unknown rival) went with the target there. 😛 Does that sound a bit unhinged to you? Well, that's what people who live or die depending on what their target's social media posts are showing do to themselves. They whack themselves out over…well, nothing.

    "I just want to see if my target read my message yet." 
    Fair enough, but once you see that, are you going to get mad if they don't reply fast enough? Not but last week, a friend of mine from home sent me a message, just like "Hi, how are you," sort of thing. I didn't see it for 4 days, although I guess it "looked" like I read it. When I finally replied he was like "Wow, I thought you hated me," and I was like "No, I literally just am seeing this because it came when I was chatting with someone else. I'm so sorry." Now, I'm not now nor have I ever been dating this fellow. He's not, to my knowledge, interested in a romantic relationship with me. Imagine if he were. He'd be a lot more hurt by my four day delay.

    And this is the sort of thing which happens all of the time. A friend texts or messages, and you do get busy. You either forget the text or it goes unnoticed for a few days. If you don't give a fuck about if they LOOOOOOOVE you, if this person replies a few days later, you're probably not up in arms. 😉 In fact, if you're just friends, you probably laugh about it when they do reply. 😉 But if you're anxiously awaiting a reply, you're just strengthening that obsessive addiction and having lust for results, and probably having an apopoleptic fit when you see that – OH NOES, – they have liked this post and replied to this other person, but not returned your text/message, even though it is read. 

    Just stop. It's really unbecoming to have a meltdown over someone not replying to a little text. Imagine every text you forgot to reply to (and most of us have missed a reply,) turned into a gigantic emotional crying jag from the person you forgot. How much would that put you off? A lot? So don't be the person having a fit over the text someone didn't reply to (or in some cases, look at.) 

    "Seeing when my target logs on to a site or is active there gives me some sense of their schedule." 
    Well, why do you need their schedule?   I mean, do you know I removed facebook from my iPad because I would be up reading on the Kindle app and it looked like I was hanging on Facebook at weird hours? Heck, even checking the time on my iPad would (you got it) look like I was up at some bizarre hour. So knowing I checked the time at 4am (and I am a restless sleeper at best,) tells you what exactly? You see I was "online" at 4, so now is it that I'm staying up all night or getting up too early? It's neither! It's me checking the time. :P 

    The same is true here. You don't need to know this info, and you would (I hope) not be looking for it if this person was in your life. You need to act like this person is part of your life, and that involves not anxiously stalking them to know their schedule. If I normally get up around 7:30am, and go to bed around midnight or 1am, chances are, even though we're apart, I'm still doing that. 😉 So, the same holds true for your target. You don't need their schedule. Intelligently defend why you need to know this person's schedule, and it can't be to "reassure" you that it is still the same all these 2 whole weeks you've been broken up.

    All you are doing is justifying making yourself obsessively worried and stalkerish, and not for any good reason. 

    "It's not my fault. It came into my newsfeed."
    Fair enough, been there myself. There are these fabulous options to see less of someone in your newsfeed or to mute them altogether. You may wish to put those restrictions on this person's account to avoid any of the above behaviors.

    Look, kiddos, I realize that social media is an addictive thing, and that it has turned us all into a world of stalkers. I actually had a client give me shit not even ten days ago because she'd sent me an email 2 weeks previously, and I had updated my blog without giving her a reply. Well, I had no memory of the email she sent, and she never said "Hey, I sent this, can you reply," instead fuming that I had the "audacity," to update my blog (part of my job) without having sent her a reply to a singular email. Well, mistakes happen, and I wasn't ignoring her. She was not accurately gauging my intentions (or lack thereof) towards her by lurking on my blog. Instead, she whipped herself into an angry outburst, while I, entirely confused where it had come from, because I'd heard no complaint whatsoever, was blindsided by her even being upset with me when she finally gave into the product of her obsessive thoughts as to what I must be doing while ignoring her. It's unhealthy behavior to have that sort of thing happening.

    Hopefully this reminder slows some of these bad behaviors I see so much of, but it's been an increasing problem, so I won't hold my breath. 😉

    ~Cat

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