Hey everyone!
I wasn’t really comfortable posting this, but friends and my partner suggested it, as I guess these 2 really obsessed people formed some anti-fan club about me 4-5 years ago, and it’s been added to. Alright, I’m an open book.
Q: WHY DO YOU MOVE ALL THE TIME!?
A: I actually DO NOT move all of the time, but, to be fair, I felt the same way when, for a relatively brief period, that was going on several years ago. So, when I moved to Maine more than a decade ago, I lived in the same apartment for a long time. Like 5-6 years. I really loved my old place, but the landlord was making a third of what he gets now for that unit from me, and he had that problem with several residents. Basically, we were cutting into his profits. He’s been in the local news several times for this (literally, on the evening news and front page of the Portland Press Herald as this was a huge scandal for all the people he removed), but he got rid of so many people who had been there over five years (it was at least a quarter if not a third of people living in a building with 100 units), and I just so happened to be one of them. He didn’t renew my lease. I then moved into a place which the owner had bought the building 1 month or so before I moved in, and he wanted to do 6 month terms for his new residents, as he wasn’t sure if he wanted to resell the building, or keep it, or even remodel. So that was December 2021 I moved in, or so as I recall. Much to every apartment’s dismay (there were 6 in that building,) he decided to AirBnB the whole joint. As other residents left, the building became increasingly full of weekend drunks and hallway vomit. I ended up paying double rent for 2 months to stay a little longer, but then decided to leave. That wasn’t my best idea. I paid tourist prices for a hotel in the summer! It cost me $35k total, and was so bad, one of my friends even made me a GoFundMe in mid or late summer 2022, because I was hemorrhaging money. I mean, I can’t complain with the hotel – they were great, and actually I was given a huge room, and everyone was so kind, but paying storage and like $2000 or more (depending on rates) a week was pretty rough.
See, Portland, at the time (and perhaps now,) had a really bad housing shortage. Not only that, but rents were and are impossible in the summer, and year leases made in the summer wanted me to lock them in at that rate for a year. That was too much (upwards of $4k in many cases) plus I had and have pet birds which are very hard to move with. So that was summer to early ish fall 2022, and then I finally locked in a place at around $3k a month. I did something I regret, – I felt it was overpriced and declined a 12 month lease. I signed a second SIX MONTH LEASE (UGH!) We were very well-liked at that building and soon realized it was actually a pretty good deal for the rapidly inflating rents of Portland. We did manage to get an extra month out of the landlord after the lease end (we paid ofc,) but sadly, that landlord realized making $2750 a week is a lot better than making $2750 a month with us, and he AirBNB’d that place (this is where my hatred of AirBNB comes from, – can you tell why? Probably). I’d already lost $35k living in hotels one summer the summer before, so we moved in with a friend with a spare room for the following summer (2023). That was fun but a very crowded house, plus one of her children moved back in with her in the fall so it was time to move “home” to Portland.
I found what I thought was the place of our dreams in Portland. I got that half right. It was the place of our nightmares. We spent over $10k to move to a place that was a straight scam. $10k gone! After that, I lost $15-$20k on short term housing over the next 1.5-2 months or so, found something that I could afford seasonally (but was still a huge cost,) which was not available for the summer, and finally got my home in Casco in 2024. I lived at Casco for about two years. I never meant to stay permanently. I started looking to buy a home about six months ago. Moved into the home I am in the process of buying right now about 3-3.5 months ago. So I did not move for 2 years, but I hated living in Casco (it wasn’t my kind of place,) and I love my home now.
So there was a time I moved too much? It was everything to do with the Portland housing market. That’s why when I moved away from Portland, I no longer had the issue. Today, I live very close to Portland and right on the seacoast but in my own home with a yard and all. I lived at my prior address about 2 years. I’m not really clear why prospective clients or anyone wants to discuss this. I mean, Uhaul did lose everything I owned in 2023…that was hugely traumatic…but there is this bizarre notion I had some problems I didn’t have causing me to move. I spent $100k easily on housing alone over the 1.5ish years we moved. It was because of six month leases, seasonal leases, AirBNB, and a housing scam, and I have the receipts to prove it.
Q: Oh, so you didn’t move because no one would house you?
A: Hardly. I had plenty of housing. I moved because I was scammed in one case, and in the others, they were short term leases. I still have the leases to prove it. I’m a quiet respectful tenant and don’t even like houseguests.
Q: And you didn’t move because you were POOR!?
A: At one point, I certainly was pretty feckn skint because I paid 3 months rent each time to live under TWO 6 month leases (so basically 9 months of rent total if we don’t count the extra months I also paid for), paid to live in a hotel for insane prices, paid a friend to rent a room (that actually was affordable) lost all my valuables in a moving truck mishap, lost $10k to a housing scam, and then paid exorbitant prices for emergency housing. Like, yeah, it sucked. I know people who economically make well more than I do who could not have afforded what I did. So technically, I was doing better than you think paycheck wise, but not so much because my housing costs were something which should be it’s own article in The Atlantic it was so excessive.
Q: I heard you were on DRUGS!
A: *clutches pearls* So, that’s actually a fun story. Back in Spring 2021, I ate a crown. Like the ones they put on teeth. I was eating Junior Mints. Something felt weird. And that crown I’d had for 25ish years was in my belly. I’m sure it came out the back end but I never saw it again. And it was an eye tooth. A trip to the dentist confirmed I’d need a bridge and not just a new crown which was, at the time, a few grand. I put it off. So, I was missing an eye tooth for awhile. This caught the attention of my stalker of four years apparently back in 22 (she used to live in Portand and have a crush on my guy – there’s a whole article on it), and she calls me “methed up.” For a long time I thought it was a weird joke, only to realize it was my eyetooth wasn’t there in 2022, haha. She was never a client but has stalked me for four years, and posts bizarre rants on me. She hasn’t even seen me since probably late 2022, so she couldn’t tell you if I got that bridge or not, but considering her medical and legal record, she shouldn’t be accusing anyone of being on drugs. She’s got quite the drug record herself. Confirmed! She’s had her kid taken from her by court orders due to her drug use before. I could post it. I do not have any legal or medical record of drug use or criminal activity. I definitely had a hippie phase in the mid aught’s, but at this point even weed makes me paranoid – I don’t even smoke weed, kids. I like a vodka on Fridays, for sure, but like one. Sorry to disappoint you if you’d hoped it was more than me eating a crown I’d had since like high school (I broke it in half on a pen while doing a geometry test as I recall, and probably before many reading this were born.)
Q: There’s a time where I read your stuff and you’re so angry for like a year or more, though! WHY IS THAT?
A: I was angry. VERY ANGRY, in fact, and with good reason. I was being stalked and bullied online by two fruitcakes who live with their parents who were making up terrible and untrue things about me, working 2 jobs with little to show for it because I was paying tons for housing (hemorrhaging money is too polite), my favorite bird died, Uhaul lost everything I owned (literal court case on this), and 3 people in my family were undergoing severe health crisises while I was constantly trying to find a 12+ month lease that wasn’t $3500 or more a month, for heaven’s sake. I’m sorry it came through. If you ever worked 2 jobs and worked yourself to exhaustion while being constantly slandered and bullied for years by 2 chicks with personality disorders who live in mommy’s basement, and while getting like $3500-5k rent bills and such, but needed to repurchase almost every thing ever (dishes, clothes, electronics) and were a beam of f*cking sunshine, do let me know,. I’d like to learn from your example. To be fair, the stalkers were living with their moms (not the same woman) in 2024. They may have had their moms purchase them apartments of their own for them since.
Q: I heard you’re married to a convicted murder/serial killer/alien/werewolf/SATAN HIMSELF!?
A: I’ve never dated (at least to my knowledge,) much less married anyone under any of those descriptions. Ever. I am definitely not romantically involved with a convicted murderer or serial killer. I have not dated or married any cryptids, supernatural creatures, or extraterrerstial beings. Satan hasn’t taken me on a date, or even suggested we go out. *shoots a glare at Satan*
Q: Oh, well, I heard your relationship was a HOBOSEXUAL relationship!?
A: I am not sure what my romantic life has to do with my job, but even this is false.
I’ve never even had a short-term hobosexual relationship. Never in my life.
I know the source though. You heard it from the girl who stalked me, tried to steal my dude, failed, and claimed my missing eye tooth (that dental crown I ate with junior mints in 2021 as it was a 25 year old crown – dental receipts to prove it!) meant I was a drug lord, and who is the same stalker who posts weird shit not about my job online…under business reviews.
Okay, well, no, I have never ever in my life been in a hobosexual relationship. Again, the source there, who I have the misfortune of meeting several years ago was at one point trying to tell people that my spouse only loved my money or my home, and blabbing this to anyone who would listen from the first moment she met him (nope, he loves me a lot which is why we’ve been together for many years now)…of course, she and my spouse don’t speak now (they haven’t spoken in several years), and I speak to him daily, so I’d say she probably is confused on that.
I am sorry if you think I temporarily housed someone who flirted with me or feigned attraction just so I’d house them. That has not been my experience, and any person who has lived with me who isn’t my blood relation but is a man, has lived with me at least 3 years and as much as ten years, depending on the man. I don’t invite guys I date for a few days to live with me. I have been married 3 times (divorced 2 times) and one boyfriend in college I cohabitated with. So…all of those would be far too long to be a “hobosexual” relationship. Only those 4 men have lived with me. I am 48.5 years old at this writing, so that’s not a lot of romantic partners to have lived with. Sorry, I’m not that kind of girl. I’m also not the kind of girl who tries to seduce engaged and married men like the person accusing me of being in a “hobosexual relationship,” so I’m even more noble than your source. 😒
Q: FINE! I read you talk about YOURSELF during READINGS!?
A: Amusingly enough, that has happened, but mostly when my stalkers were posting a lot about me online, and people had questions about what they were saying.
So, if you ask me about myself, I do answer. That’s actually you being an asshole to ask me a question about myself, then being offended when I comply with answering, and blasting me online for answering your questions.
I do also occasionally come up, – unsurprisingly, – if I have another appointment, or have to do something like pay the lawncare people at 3 and you’re running over time on your 2:30 half hour, I’m going to tell you I have to pay the lawncare people when they come. I’m going to say I have another appointment. If something will be disruptive, like when I lived in Casco, I might tell you that my neighbor’s dogs might bark and that they are noisy dogs. It’s not meant to upset you. The opposite, really. Also, I may have to shush a bird, and I’ve found that 2-3 minutes of small talk before I begin actually loosens up the client before I start the reading and makes it easier to read them.
Your reading is about you, but if I ask the weather where you are and say it’s windy at my house? I’m trying to get you to not be so nervous so I can read you easier. I’m so sorry that my mentioning the weather was upsetting to you. Or that we both like a tv show, or something. I don’t charge for the few minutes of small talk. It actually helps most people relax, which clearly anyone feeling upset about a minute or two of small talk probably needs to relax, but by all means, just tell me hurry up with the dang cards, lol. You won’t be the first or last abrupt-interrogator type I’ve read for.
Q: BUT then I heard you REFUSE to show images of your work! Right?
A: False. I’ve shared several – sometimes I get super excited and overshare with 20 lol. It just isn’t my standard practice. Anyone who’s worked with me for years can confirm, I literally will mean to take a snap, and then I don’t. It’s like a seven day working and I remember on day five, lol. But I have oodles of images. It’s not my standard, which I go over at length on my website. It’s also not a huge anomaly. Anyone telling you otherwise is just making up stories. Is it guaranteed? No. Is it impossible? Also no.
Fun story, – my peers are jealous, because so many of their over-eager clients blow them up an hour after casting. They aren’t ready with a standard report or images for a day or two after because it’s extra work on top of the spell. Me? I get excited before I start sometimes and blow you up. I love my job. Images may or may not come. Been doing this for almost a quarter of a century. I still get excited. BUT most of my business (I’ve had clients that come back to me for 20+ years now,) doesn’t care because I do the freaking work, and they’ve tried others who send recycled images which unsurprisingly don’t prove anything. Like I say ON MY WEBSITE, if you wanted those pictures guaranteed, there’s a lot of people who resend old photos or show you fake ones they make….and even some who send real ones. I may or may not send you images – so much of it has to do with how many active clients I have since I work 12 hours a day on a normal day. I actually make it so I have time to work with my clients one on one instead of making spooky ass looking photos. I have a peer who spends a fecking hour on lighting and do his images ever look cool. He really does the work but I don’t even know why he would give himself 30 extra hours of work being a photographer every week. Like they are nice snaps, but damn, the kid is a damn artist and yet giving himself hours of extra work doing that. If you want a spooky pretty photo (and they are awesome,) and someone who does the work but doesn’t talk to you for free throughout the process (as I recall,) like I do (I talk to my clients a lot) I will gladly refer you to him. Every worker works differently. He might be a better fit for you.
Q: Do you ABANDON people?
A: I’m not even sure what that means. I do my job. I have been forced by certain people’s bad and rude behavior to ask people to stop acting out. I will explain why their behavior is damaging to themselves, our business relationship, or the spell, but I am really patient about that. When it goes too far over and over, and they won’t stop, I’ve fired people, but it takes a lot, and usually by then, they’ve been told to stop being bad several times and it isn’t like they weren’t warned several times before they get fired. I fire maybe one person a year. If that. A banner year was 3, and 2 of that 3 (this is back in the tens,) owed me money at the time. One even thanked me for my spell working, still owing me $150. I never got the $150, lol. 🙄🤷🏼♀️🤦🏼♀️
I resent the accusation that I abandon anyone. If you know me, I’ve even been known to get on the phone with my seriously depressed people here and there free of charge because I’m concerned about them. I’ve gotten up at three in the morning to text people who are freaking out. I think it’s really bizarre that I’d be accused of abandoning anyone. Since y’all like talking about my personal life so much, all three of my husbands have complained that I’m ignoring them to deal with work, and complain about that on multiple occasions. If you feel like I dropped off the planet, please speak up. I may not have seen a text or email. The last thing I want is for someone to feel ignored.
Q. WHY do you have GoFundMe’s all the time, then?
A: I….don’t. When I almost died in a housefire in the tens I did have one. So, part of my home burned down, and I almost died. It seemed fitting to take a week off at that time, seeing as you know, many of my belongings were destroyed and my pets and self were really traumatized? Am I a bad person for taking a week off after my house burned? Almost dying? Guess so. Luckily my friends did not think so, and I got about a week’s wages to recover. Most of the people donating were college friends, some were clients.
When I moved from my old place that I’d lived for 5-6 years, that landlord had made me live with bedbugs for a full year (not just not renewed my lease – there’s a reason that guy got in the papers and on the news because he did stuff like that to several people in that building at the same time,) there was a small one to get new furniture for when I moved. I basically lost all my cloth furniture because bedbugs. So that would be….2021?
The third one I did not set up. I spent over $2k a week for enough weeks (I spent around 35k total,) living in a hotel at Maine summer prices. At the time, some of my clients went and checked summer rates thinking I was exaggerating, and were shocked. It’s easily $300 a night at the cheapest places. I appreciated the thought that someone set that up while also really kind of wishing they did not (it didn’t benefit me all that much, and I’ve heard a lot of weird stuff about it in the 4 years since) and it’s unsurprising that my stalker knew about that one. She was still actively trying to get with my partner when that was up, and I think she liked that I’d relocated to that area of Portland where the hotel was, since before that I was 3 blocks away, and she’d always take off running when she’d see me walking down the street when I lived closer. She wasn’t a small girl size-wise and we both have scoliosis, so I can’t imagine it was easy on her to run so fast (she was impressively quick for her girth and handicaps, and I was only about 2 dress sizes smaller than her back then, so not at my peak fitness either, and couldn’t run THAT fast,) and ran from someone not actively threatening her, no less.
If there are any other GoFundMe’s out there, I’ve never benefited from them, and someone else is making up stories. So I made 2 which were several years apart. I’m sorry you’re offended that I was in a fire more than ten years ago (it was an accidental fire,) and that people donated to me having a mattress not infested with bugs several years later. I mean, when I moved in here to my forever home I bought 2 new mattresses totally with my own money and shit. I bought this couch I’m sitting on when I lived in Casco. Do you want to have my banking receipts for every purchase just so you know it was not donated after Uhaul lost all my belongngs in 2023? I’m so freaking confused by how me being put through bad situations through no wrongdoing of my own makes me suspect? Can you help me out here – NOT FINANCIALLY – but with an explanation as to how this is a damaging thing?
Because humans actually all have problems. All of us. Even spellcasters. I know a lot of professional spellcasters. I’ve stood by them and listened to them cry when their marriages ended, homes burned down (that’s 2 other spellcasters I know who that happened to,) parents passed away, kids left them with an empty nest and they’re lonely….all sorts of things. And the reality is that even though maintenance through spellwork may prevent some things, it doesn’t mean you’re immune. In the FANTASY WORLD of some people, doctors also don’t get sick and die, lawyers never have legal issues, plumbers never have plumbing issues, and electricians never have electric issues, right? The next time I see a doctor died in the obituaries, I’ll go to his funeral and tell everyone he’s a quack because doctors – if they are real – never get sick. (I would never do that.) You realize how stupid that sounds, right? Do you know at least 2/3 of people in the field of psychology took their job because they needed psychiatric help at some point?
Q: Why are you MEAN about people talking about you?
A: I can only reasonably assume unless you’re Amy or Emmy (stalkers) that I don’t talk about you online and that I don’t post blatant lies and false things about your personal life even if you are Amy or Emmy. Imagine if everyone I worked for, I just started telling everyone about things that were and were not true, and then left them on a public page. And I mean, let’s pretend it’s just about business. I could live with that. It goes against contract, but you know, it’s not just business. So if you wanted to post business specific things, that’s one thing.
Want a taste of what it reads like? let’s say I posted lengthy rants about you as a client. Gave your full name, the names of people in your family, addresses, phone numbers, etc, photos, your socials, and then went on with “This lady would hit me up from 5am all day to 12am, constantly complaining about things which were not even my job to deal with – she hates her kids (name the kids by full name), she hates her husband (his full name, images), she hates the shirt the guy on the news is wearing. It’s no wonder she is getting a divorce and her husband is banging his boss, because she hates everyone and everything. I’d rather die than be married to her! Thank goodness that my job here is to get her a promotion because I sure as heck wouldn’t want to try to save her love life or repair the relationship she has destroyed with her kids since she constantly degrades them and puts them down! I cringe when she contacts me, which is all day, every day, several times a day! She works at (business name) but definitely don’t hire her for anything! Wow, she’s awful!” or maybe something like “If this guy wasn’t such a crybaby simp for this girl who is, frankly speaking, middling in looks at best and has a personality like a dying rabid raccoon on the side of the road on a good day, he might actually find someone who’s in his league lookswise, but he’s way too into relatively ugly personality disordered types that drain his bank account, and I get to hear about it 8 hours a day. He is slow to pay me, never listens to any of my instructions, and then complains when not following instructions blows up in his face. I am making $2 an hour at this point to watch this guy never listen to me and destroy his life for the worst woman alive.” And if you think that’s about you, I made both clients up, but that is actually a pretty accurate view of working for a bad client. I just can’t imagine posting it and having my pals join in to say more trashy things about the people I’d be trashing. And that’s much nicer than some of the things people post in their hate clubs and threads all about me.
NONE of my romantic partners and NONE of my family members have ever been part of my business and have ZERO to do with my job so why would you discuss my family or romantic life? My housing only means anything because I need a roof to do spells. I’ve always had one (a roof over my head) and for a great cost in a few situations. That actually says I’m very successful that I managed to keep one over my head at enormous costs most couldn’t manage. I went over missing the eye tooth, but I have yet to have anyone I actually worked for complain they thought I was on drugs to me (but please tell me if you felt like that, as I pride myself on being pretty feckin sober, and I’d be concerned), though I have answered the phone after a vodka before, but it was close to 12 midnight and my client was plastered themselves and weeping. I was very concerned. I was actually the more sober one. I don’t drink during business hours. Like I completely own that I will have the occasional drink – after 8pm when I’ve put my birds to bed, and business hours have been over for 2 hours. I occasionally have a cigarette, too. No drugs, though. And again, my friends and family and loved ones aren’t involved in my job. I do know almost everyone – but I work for a lot of people. I know famous people, I know people who do some shady jobs, and both are clients and not your business. But sure, do I know some shady people? Hell yeah. I also have worked for cops, judges, lawyers and even people in the NSA, and an IRS agent (at least one.) so….that’s like I know a lot of kinds of people. It’s the job I do.
Plus, making fun of my face? I have a wonky eye from almost dying of orbital cellulitis in 2018 or 2019. I can show you an image of me in the hospital. It’s from a tiny cut next to my eye. So thanks, I almost died. It is noticeable very occasionally but not over the phone or in email which is the only way you and I are going to communicate. Or is it making fun of my weight? I currently wear a US 5/6. At my biggest, I wore a 9/10. I lost a bit of weight since 2024. But all my clothes tags ranged from 8-10 in 2024. What does an eyebrow I can now make it look like I’m cocking my eyebrow in a wild way, and the size of my butt have to do with spells, though?
So why do I get mad people say things online? If it’s about my business only, I am annoyed because there’s a contract and I go over why there on that contract. So it’s a rule violation. Even positive stuff! If it’s about anything else, it’s because it’s often a lie and it’s completely wrong to discuss in some forum. It’s gross and it’s where this whole dang post came from. Sweet cheeses, anyone who participates in that sort of creepiness is just….sick.
Q: Well, now I’m upset you read things I said! You’ll hate me because I said you sounded mean and crazy and bad, right?
A: I won’t have a higher opinion of you for joining in if you never spoke to me, certainly. I don’t have a high opinion of someone who has a problem with me and chooses not to directly speak to me first, but then blasts it all over. If you contact me, I’m not a bot. It’s just me sitting here. I’ll handle anything you want to me to handle regarding our business, within reason. I am also an open book. Go ahead and ask me what is concerning you.
Q: Okay, how did you get these weird stalkers?
A: I went over Amy here. Emmy Lim (pomegranate) contacted me for an issue which some guy went on one date with her like 2 years previous or something, had only ever kissed her, and she wanted me to bring him back. I didn’t really want to do it, but she pressed me repeatedly to do it and said just try, even when told I didn’t think it would work, she said fine, but just try. Then, once I cast the initial spell, she kept pressuring me for free work, telling me if I did not give her free work she would smear my name online, which she did when I fired her. She never tells the same story twice as to why I failed her. Or at least for 2 years she did not, – I haven’t kept up since then.
Imagine hate-stalking someone for four years. Like that says everything about their character. I’ve also seen false discussions of my social media. My Insta is here. My FB is here. Nothing accurate has been said about either in the discussions I’ve seen posted.
If you ever need proof that stalking people like this someone causes real harm, even the NY Post reported about it. Sick and sad.
Q: What about the Cat Yronwode thing?
A: That is something I went over here and here (use a the new links to navigate as the old typepad ones are defunct) on my blog. It’s ancient and happened when Cat Y turned 60. It’s almost 20 years ago now, and was incredibly embarrassing for her because of how ridiculously stupid the accusations were (and easily proven false.) I think she wants that one to go away, as it really did not do her any favors. She used to bully a few people online, and it was my turn that year, I guess. Kind of ridiculous, really. But it’s long ago. So what stupid internet fights did some well-known bully like Cat Y pick with you almost 20 years ago? What about that? Wanna share? Still feel relevant or worth revisiting? In my case, I am well past it the Cat Y thing. She was awful to me back then, but the reddit stalkers make her look like Cat Y merely called me a bitch once in comparison to their shenanigans, lol.
Q: Why don’t you just start over with a new site name? Like these people trashed you and said stuff, and wouldn’t that be easier?
A: It’s hurtful and inhuman and wrong what they did, but I don’t have to sneak around because 2 very obsessive children and some mentally ill sheeple said stuff. When bullies start up, they gather these toadies who want to fit in and they all make a little group and do and say awful stuff because of who they are offline. All of these people are powerless offline. This gives them a sense of power. It’s gross and sad and pathetic, but they are always easily identified by the behavior. I get annoyed explaining the housing (it’s not really your business,) or my dental procedures (again not your business,) but, I don’t hide from who I am in my offline life. I don’t change my identity when things don’t go my way offline. Why change identities online?
Q: How do I know you’re being honest?
A: For 19 years of business I had 2 or 3 posted complaints total. Then Amy came into my life, Pomegranate/Emmy shortly thereafter. Kind of weird how that blew up when two people who literally vowed to me to make my life a living hell forever show up and suddenly get to trashing me all over. I had a pretty spotless record prior to that. Weird, huh? Yeah, do the math. In fact, it’s easy to tell it is the same two people if you check syntax and weird shit they talk about that.
Q: Okay, but I had concerns about…
A: Let me cut you off there. How about, if you’re an adult, you grow up and instead of conspiring with a lot of people who are clearly unwell and obsessed with tearing me down, you ask me directly? I won’t be mad. I’ve heard most everything at this job. You have to work to shock me.
I’ve actually had people come to me telling me the crazy BS posted about not just me but also others made them realize they couldn’t trust those places because the people in the threads were so unhinged. Apparently a mean-girls format isn’t something most healthy people enjoy, and several folks were very unsettled. If it worked for “Dirty John” – a man who ultimately tried to murder someone after doing what these people have done to me (it actually did not work out well for him, ultimately,) why would they not follow in his footsteps acting like deranged stalkers for years. He literally destroyed people for fun because he was deeply mentally ill and they rejected him.
And be clear…no mentally healthy person would be posting about anything like they do for four years. Like four years ago, my spouse and I went to a restaurant and the service was poor. I don’t write reviews on it daily. I didn’t review it then. That actually did happen.. Seated us then took 40 minutes to get us a waiter. I don’t know I’d go to the restaurant again, despite it being a highly regarded one, but I don’t feel the need to doxx the chef, or tear apart our waiter, or tell you what a POS the owner must be then or now 2 years later, much less 4 years later.
My second husband was/is a bad bad person, and I feel no need to discuss him at length, even though those who knew him would tell you he was worse than even I would say. Six years later, I feel no desire to flame him or doxx him (and I’d have plenty of verifiable stuff on him,) or post his name and image and tell you to destroy him. I moved on. Guess that’s because I’m not insane. Only an insane person would do that. Only deeply mentally ill people stalk and doxx people for years, and get a little group to join in.
So this has been my compromise for all of you. If you want to use it to make jokes at my stinky eye, or do whatever weird stalkery bullshit you do, it isn’t anything new, and I really hope for you that you get the help that you so clearly need if you do that sort of thing, or engage online with people doing it. If it was instead eye-opening as to “why is Cat angry for almost a year?” and “”Where did this extremely bizarre out of place rant about an ancient GoFundMe come from?” (I don’t get that one, either, lol) then I’m glad to have helped.
~Cat
Why do I say this? He would not be in contact with or seeing his ex with enough frequency for this to get back to you otherwise (excluding child custody stuff or sorting out belongings). There are all sorts of behaviors which can clue you in to if someone is leading you on. Is he suspiciously absent from convos for long stretches of time (especially when you know he isn’t working) when he’s always on his phone when he’s with you? Does he avoid conversation about her or become defensive? Does he hide who just called or texted? These are all red flags that you may be the side piece or he has a side piece. By default, you are side piece if she came first, even if they got back together right after he “made it official” with you.
Cat’s Rants: Confessions of an Occult Mastermind 