Hello my lovies,
I AM SO HAPPY TO BE BACK, albeit a bit tardy. 😛 I did get a new laptop, but my cockatiel also confiscated it for over an hour to watch his bird videos on YouTube. Creator of Cockatiel Peekaboo, I'm at least 100,000 of those views….thanks little fat cockatiel overlord who I love….also, if you ever get a companion parrot (they are not captive birds, which is just holding a bird hostage, but rather a being you need to devote hours a day to while securing your house better than you would for a human toddler), know that they are adorable evil dictators…like a flying pitbull but smaller, and they poop on all you love….while begging for head scratches and stealing your Cheetos. Still, here it is, the long awaited return to our favorite topic on this blog:
So before I begin, I just wanted to let everyone know – there's going to be an amazing post WITH LOTSA PHOTOS on a little side-project I'm working on, – basically, it's a LOT of cursing photos. I know a lot of you love photo montages. This should be up in the week. It's going to be a lot of work I'm doing on a specific person who despite five years as an associate decided she'd rob me….for $100. Like, this wasn't even "Cat I need this right now," it was literally, just stealing it. So, Ms S, you wanted it, you got it. Not all of these will be you, but be advised they will all be missing key points and have protections, so I figured my lovely readers would love to see some of my work. 🙂
And I'm working on a deal with my publisher to do a full anthology. No bullshit. We're talking a few volumes. I need to chat with Frank but I will know when it's coming out, and it's going to be even bigger than Pactum…we're talking so much spells, spellwork, and learning to spellcast that you may never need another visit to the old blog again (but I hope you come back.)
Anyhow, let's get to it – winners assemble!!! Please note I just received the copies of the book through my publisher so I expect to have those out in the mail on Thursday. 🙂 Sorry for the delay.
GRAND PRIZE – submitted by RJF – I've heard that using the intranquil spirit to retrieve a lover always ends badly. Do you agree?
A: Not at all.
Now I'm assuming we're discussing the commonly-known intranquil spirit prayer, wherein someone holds a cross and a candle and recites the prayer to make their intended miserable and incapable of rest until he or she returns to the petitioner, – the person asking this question did confirm that this was what they referred to. There is more than one "intranquil spirit" and more than one spell using this spirit, so I can't offer that this is going to be an answer to all questions referring to any intranquil spirit spell.
However, it should be noted that this type of working (to give a desired partner no rest or comfort or sleep, and often asking the aid of a spirit, several spirits, or even gods,) has been used successfully since before the birth of Christ. There is proof of these types workings well back through antiquity. If this method created nothing but a miserable outcome for those using it, or if it foisted upon them some evil spirit which would haunt them for all of their days merely because this person had the audacity to use this kind of working, I would assume (perhaps wrongly,) that we all would have stopped using this kind of working (especially so frequently) long ago.
In my opinion, people have kept using spells such as the intranquil spirit prayer and similar workings BECAUSE THEY WORK, and this bothers a certain group of people who create hilariously false stories of how someone (always some anecdotal person who sounds made up,) is now possessed by some evil spirit for using this kind of working. Bullshit. I've known hundreds of people who used this spell who never had an evil spirit attached to them or a loved one, and who in no way offered to trade places with this spirit who can't rest, or anything of the sort. I've used this working successfully myself so many times that I could not fairly count, – used it for myself, used it for clients, – and have in no way found this to draw evil spirits to me, or corrupt a love affair or anything like it.
There are 2 common failings with this type of working – the most 2 common mistakes are initiating contact with the target (they MUST initiate contact first,) and not doing supportive work alongside the spell. Basically, you're asking that this person forgive you and wish to be in your good graces. So, when you forgive them, the spell has done it's job. It's not that everything "reverses" once you do tell them you forgive them, but rather that they are no longer going to be struggling and torn up about you being angry with them. Without that motivator, they may retreat from the situation if you do not add in any supportive work (like a love-drawing spell).
But why are you to not initiate contact first, – is that always the case? A good majority of the time, it is. Initiating contact with the target can break the spell entirely, and the target might lash out. In a handful of cases I've seen, the target is too scared to reach out first, but before you get all excited and ready to text that ex you tried this out on, realize that in those cases there had been silence for at least a month and a half after doing this spell, and that in all those cases, the spell targets were all of a nature where they would be terrified of rejection. This is also a tiny number of times where I have seen the petitioner need to reach out first as opposed to waiting for the target to do so…perhaps 2% or so of the cases in which this spell has been cast. Remember, the influence of this spell needs to build up, and the moment you contact the target, it stops building…if your target has been stewing on the break up or fights between you (which is pretty normal as a starting point where they then begin to "realize" how they were the "bad guy" or what they did to cause problems, thanks to the spell's influence,) they might actually lash out on you in anger. I think this is one reason this spell has a bad name. Too many people cast the spell and then just starting texting the ex and wondering why it's "backfiring." 😉 Remember, you need to give the spell's influence time to build.
I'm not saying this is a "nice" working, – it does use coercive elements – but that doesn't mean if you use it, everything will end badly. 😉 I've seen it applied effectively in many, many cases. I think there is a certain subset of people out in the occult community who view coercive spells as evil and if they can spread lies about the spells which gain some popularity to scare people off, they will create stories to discourage others. I've had this spell cast on me before – I wasn't lying awake at night dying tearing my hair out or anything of the sort. I did go back to a complete jerk, so it works, but unlike your old friend Cat, he didn't have the sense to use supportive work like love drawing, so once he forgave me, I was fine and left again. 😉
If the wording of the spell bothers you, if any of its content makes you feel "freaked out," use another spell. Otherwise, I do not think it will eternally destroy any chance of you and your ex getting back together, or that someone will get possessed or anything equally ridiculous.
SECOND PRIZE- Submitted by Sonny – Are there obstacles or blockages that just can't ever be removed even with blockbuster or van van formulas and will cause perpetual spell failure?
A: I can't really give a full blanket yes or no and leave it at that, so I'll say this….there are things so contrary to either the nature of a target, a situation, or so far outside the sphere of availability, that it is entirely likely that the work could continue to fail.
Let's start with the ridiculous to illustrate my point. If you cast a spell to become a unicorn, no doubt this is not going to manifest. It's hugely ridiculous. I am the first person to say that I would not rule out something -anything- is entirely impossible, but I do feel many things are so hugely improbable that they may just as well be impossible. I suspect most of my readers know this. 😉
Further, if I have no education past the sixth grade, no dexterity, and lack any skill or knowledge in the field of brain surgery or rocket science, I am not apt to find any spell that will instantly make me a surgeon or rocket scientist within the week. This is because such a request is so far outside of the sphere of availability that a spell would flounder. Yes, I could take STEPS, and possibly reach my goals by using work to further my education in sciences, graduate schools, absorb information better, etc…but this is apt to take many, many years (likely, over a decade,) and will require great effort on my part.
However, let's look at this question from the perspective of that the end goal could feasibly be within the grasp of the Sphere of Availability, and is not some huge, ridiculous leap from the current situation. I'm most commonly asked this question in regards to a relationship with a specific person who the petitioner would know. So, let's say Daisy is in love with her old friend Fernando, and she and Fernando have had a few intimate encounters over their decade-long friendship, but Fernando has in no way ever expressed an interest in having a romantic relationship with Daisy. She uses some spells to get him to want to exclusively date her, and finds herself in a situation where he will become more flirtatious or even sexual with her for a period of time, and then pull away again, making the relationship platonic. Daisy has tried several spells to get herself the position of "girlfriend" in Fernando's life, and nothing seems to hold. She's tried roadopening, blessing, healing….everything. Is it possible that this will "never happen?"
Possibly. Fernando may have severe commitment issues, he may have reason to view Daisy as the absolute worst person for him to match with in the long term (maybe she's his best friend's ex and that's taboo to him, maybe she has a jail record, maybe they live far apart, etc,) heck, maybe he's gay (you'd be surprised how often people try to get me to help them land someone who is gay when they are of the opposite sex, or straight when they are gay.) There can be many culprits which are not the fault of Daisy in the sense of "is she picking the right spells," as to why the work keeps failing, and when it comes to relationships, if you keep trying to force a romantic relationship that keeps falling apart, it's often time to move on, because it means it is ultimately incompatible. I'm not the person who tells you when it's time to give up, but if you've spent months (sometimes even years) trying to get the same person to give in and give you a fair chance, and he or she is not capitulating, there is a chance it is never going to come together.
In saying this, I do believe sometimes it is a matter of finding the right "cocktail" of work to create the outcome you want. I don't suggest you throw in the towel if something doesn't work the first time. I've told more than one of you privately that months of my own efforts on a personal target paid off with that target becoming INCREDIBLY ENAMORED of me. I've had to work healing on a target before they were ready to commit. So sometimes it is truly a matter of taking steps to bring about the desired outcome, rather than just forcing a massive change in one step.
The problem with love workings are that you're dealing with a very complicated creature – a human being, – and a very complicated emotion…love. If it is not a compatible match, it will eventually fall apart on it's own as is.
What about non-love-workings, though. Let's say, I want to be a singer. Outside of Future Mr-NinjaCat (who surprisingly believes I am a melodic singer), I think (as does just about everyone I know, and a pet parrot who mimics me would attest to,) that I am tone deaf and have a horrible voice. If an off-key cockatiel who mimics me were not enough to tell me this, several decades of friends and loved ones saying "Cat, don't sing!" when I start singing is. 😉 But if I tried to cast spells to make myself a famous singer, would I find myself winning a Grammy in a few years? Probably not. It's outside of my Sphere of Availability.
That might be a bit obvious though…how about if you wanted a specific position in a specific company within your field of training? While you've tried multiple spells, nothing is coming through. What then? Obviously, this might be more time-sensitive if you're trying for a specific position which is currently hiring, but perhaps not. If you always wanted to work at Massachusetts General Hospital, and you have the qualifications to do so, perhaps you'd be willing to work on this goal for a several months, but still keep getting passed over for every opening for a job there. In this case, I'd say it could be a matter of "not meant to be" – if you're so well-qualified to work at a hospital, keep your eyes peeled for other prestigious hospitals. I realize that not everyone believes in fate, but if life keeps telling you "This isn't yours to have," more often than not, other, better options will keep appearing…so instead of working at your desired hospital in this example, you might find offers from hospitals that are just as prestigious and nearby. Try looking into these jobs.
I guess the simple answer here is that yes, for most of us, we will find a situation we've been working on consistently meets spell failure, but it's not always that it is a matter of us finding a desire that is "not ours to have" if it's in our Sphere of Availability as much as perhaps not taking the proper steps to have this desire manifest. While sometimes this is a case of lust for results being the author of spell failure, in other cases, there are obstacles or problems which are causing the outcome of the spell energies to fall short of our desires. I think if you can honestly say that you're working within the sphere of availability, that you've tried to address any complications (for example, some healing work on a love target, or trying to move closer to a desired job, etc,) and are still coming up short, even with road opening and blockbustering, then perhaps it's time to try a different goal. 
I do think this is less common than some people realize (because people fail to look at the causes which cause spell failure or have disrupted the fruition of the goal,) but I have definitely seen a handful of cases and situations where no matter what the petitioner did, he or she kept having spell failure or missing their goal, even when any possible problem was addressed and multiple angles and types of spells were tried.
THIRD PRIZE- submitted by Lilith – What is your take on the whole self-love situation when casting love spell? Several practitioners on certain large social network groups claim that spells will always fail/be short lived if you do not do self love work first. This strikes me as rather bogus and reminds me of the popular phrase that "no one will love you until you love yourself," which is a pretty terrible set up. Granted I do understand that doing self work will raise your vibration or what not and attract better people, but I would like to hear your take on this. Since it increasingly seems to be passed more often than not as the first and only form of love work you should be doing.
A: I'm on your team, here, not least of all because I've seen some incredibly self-hating, effed up people have successful outcomes with love spells. 😉 I'm all about "knowing thyself" and wanting to improve yourself – I'm even a huge champion of mental and emotional health and mental-health care (not medication as much as helping people evolve past bad habits with coaching, though both can be worthy aims,) – so I'm not AGAINST loving yourself or healing yourself….I just won't lie and say you need that to make something work. 😉
To be fair, and as you also conceded, it is not bad advice to suggest someone heal or give themselves some distance from a situation to have a stronger chance of manifestation. The most common cause of spell failure is lust for results, and often lust for results is a product of desperation and doubt. If a petitioner has more faith in themselves, if they are more emotionally secure, the more likely they are to avoid the trap of lust for results, and GET RESULTS.
Furthermore, if the relationship keeps falling apart from self-defeating behaviors on the part of the petitioner, then obviously, it is better that the petitioner address these problems (either magically or mundanely) before attempting to make a love relationship work, even if using spells. If my nagging or my insecurity caused so-and-so to leave, I have to address that problem, or even if I bring so-and-so back, he or she will leave again once I start engaging in those behaviors, even if I reconcile them.
And I have seen certain mental/behavioral maladies cause repeated spell failure, however, the person suffering these emotional issues or personality disorders was, in most cases, suffering from them very, very, very strongly. If you are deeply schizoid, or deeply in the throes of borderline personality disorder, suffering from tons of agoraphobia or social anxiety, if you have overwhelming addiction issues, delusions, or difficulty with just normal day-to-day personal relationships, you do need to work on you first. If you're so obsessive or paranoid that you can't stop stalking a love target, heal you first. Seriously, I've seen people read entire novels into an ex writing "Sure, I'll drop off your keys," (and I mean 50 pages on the meaning of this text,) when the ex literally meant they were returning a set of keys and nothing deeper.
That said, the spells themselves are neither going to fall short nor be short-lived if someone's self-defeating behaviors have no cause in the disruption of the spellwork. So, if it's not lust for results, you're not nagging or desperate or rude or awful to your target, (or chasing them down the street with an axe, or trying to kill them, or pooping in the back seat of their car in revenge – and I've witnessed people do the second 2 there, though the first mentioned in these parenthesis has not yet crossed my inbox) then the spell itself should work just fine.
As I'd said previously, I've seen some really messed up people get results on their work, – they might really have a lot of doubt about themselves, or some lasting emotional scars which are apparent in their personality, which is in no way what keeps their target at bay.
Perhaps there is a thought among the "love thyself first" crowd that many people pursue a difficult target BECAUSE of their own mental/emotional/behavioral problems. I can understand, for example, that if someone continues to work on a physically/emotionally abusive target, that a lot of the problems that they will experience are that the target is an abusive assclown who isn't going to change, and if the petitioner had not been so emotionally scarred by the experience, they might not pursue this person. I often try to dissuade people in these situations from continuing in pursuit of an abusive lover, definitely. Or if someone is merely hanging on because they think they can't do better? Yes, they are basically drawing back someone who they want to keep out solely because emotional issues are convincing them if they do not keep this horrid person, they will be alone forever. This is why when I do readings, I literally say "Well, you can have him/her, but he/she is an awful jerk, and you could do much better," more often than I presume many of my clients would like me to admit…also, ladies and gents, if I said it, you really could do much better than that shit-for-brains, and I hope you took that advice and moved on and stopped loving shit-for-brains, since 3/4 of people do not, but if you didn't, I've loved my share of complete scumbag fuckface shit-turkeys, so I understand. (High-fives on "I've also loved and longed for a complete lowlife jerk" all around to those who related.)
BUT, closure can help, and a lot of reconciliation is in regards to closure more than "lifelong reunion". If someone gets that closure, they can finally move on. There is a lot to say for helping someone see that there is more options out there for them than this person that they've deified – someone better, more kind, someone who will believe in them and treat them well, and showing them this by giving them a second chance with this jerkbag they have put on a pedestal. What? Yeah, I just said that. If they are suffering from a bad case of "The One Who Got Away," they might keep struggling to return this person to themselves until they realize that what once felt like "unfairly" losing someone or having them "Stolen" (the reason for wanting closure is feeling something happened which was unfair or that something was taken unexpectedly,) was really that they were dealing with a complete jackass that they don't even want. The unexpected loss of this jackass caused them to temporarily forget what a jackass this person really is. Think of a toddler who always wants what is not theirs. We don't entirely outgrow this. If we felt possession (which a coupling can feel this way,) we feel the need to grab back what we term "MINE," until we realize what we're claiming is not worthy. Sometimes overpowering guilt also causes the need for closure. The petitioner acted out in some way they feel is regrettable that chased off the target, and now they need forgiveness. Once they get it, they often lose interest in the target (yes, seriously.) This happens far more than people think. 3/4 of my reconciliation cases dump the "so beloved" within 2 months of getting them back, saying "I realized what a jerk/scumbag/asshole/bitch, etc. so and so was and I can't believe I wasted that much time on them." You're not alone, dear readers – I spent the better part of a year back in my intermediate-ish days (dinosaurs ruled the earth, people had no smart phones, just landlines – I couldn't even legally buy booze for half that year, as memory serves,) reconciling an ex, and once I finally got him back, within 10 days I didn't want him! He was so smitten it was near impossible to chase him off…for months! But would "loving myself" more have prevented that journey? No, not at all. Not committing rookie-mistakes with love (I was 20-21), and not stepping on my own feet (fighting with the target) would have shortened the journey, but I still needed the closure.
Since about 5 people asked, I'll also put this here:
Q: What sort of recommendations can you give to someone looking into attempting spirit evocation?
A: I would say it is not a beginners' craft whatsoever. Then I'd say that if you are unwilling to have an ongoing relationship with any spirit called, that it may not be the right sort of working to attempt. Let me give an example that IS NOT evocation – all too often, someone asks me "What is the saint for (whatever need.)" They assume that they can offer a single prayer to this saint, or a set of prayers in a novena, and have similar results as a person who regularly prays to the saint. The reality is that all saints, godforms, spirits, goes, and etc., should you have an ongoing relationship with them, are often going to be able to help with any need that you might have, and are far more apt to help you on whatever matter you request their assistance on, assuming there is a relationship present. If you merely petition a spirit/saint/being on the merit of "this one is a river god, and this one is for painters, and this one is for love," and only petition the once, you are far more apt to be disappointed in the results. We've been over this in here before.
Now, with evocation, you are going to want to do three main things – 1. study the Lesser Key of Solomon, at least read the Abramelin, study Aaron Leitch's Secrets of the Magickal Grimoires; meditate on which spirit you wish to call and be very familiar with the texts 2. do your best to recreate the tools described in the Lesser Key of Solomon, prepare a ritual space to draw out the circle therin described; 3. have strong meditation skills, be sure of your own ability to visualize and to control energy. There is actually a far longer reading list that I might recommend, but I realize most people just want to cobble together a few things and GO FOR IT, so I offered a very "bare bones" list of directives prior to you attempting your first evocation.
If that sounds like you'll be spending a lot of time studying and working towards your goal, congratulations, you're starting to get it. 😉 In many cases, if the spirit doesn't want to bother with you, it won't show up anyhow. This is a good thing for safety reasons, but of course, someone always has to be a completely rude asshole and see where that gets them. The reality is, if the spirit feels like it, it may cause a great deal of problems for you, and while it won't likely bother speaking to anyone it deems unworthy of it's time, it may even be offended that you attempted to waste it's time. Without a doubt, spirits can teach you a lesson, and can make your life miserable if you don't give them a promised offering, or if you act poorly towards them.
This isn't an attempt to discourage you – I don't teach evocation, and won't say much more on the topic. I have done this kind of working, yes, but it's not what I teach, – but if you'd like to have some idea what sort of methods to approach before even attempting this type of working, I would suggest the above.
That's all for now, kids. Hope to have a really great photo montage of some curses up on here soon, and I promise to get to those love questions you've all been asking me. 🙂
~Cat
